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Kim19 Mon 13-Jun-22 17:31:03

Recently, at a family celebration, one of my cousin's daughters rushed at me and suggested I still looked 'exactly the same'. We hadn't met for about 30 years so I wondered if I've always looked this old!!

halfpint1 Mon 13-Jun-22 16:28:34

Grammaretto

Oh dragonfly! what a shame. They shoot themselves in the foot with the endless form filling.
You could just send it anyway with a covering letter (in handwriting) to say how you think your previous experience would help, that you are familiar with the on-line world and that you think recent employment history irrelevant and leave the next step to them.
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Well why not just fill it in exactly as you are they may be glad of the older ear and see 'retired'as an asset

Callistemon21 Mon 13-Jun-22 16:16:45

AGAA4

My GD asked me what I do all day. My GS replied saying I just sat round drinking tea with other old ladies.
I do that sometimes!

I've been out for coffee with friends which then became lunch with friends (again)!

BlueSky Mon 13-Jun-22 15:47:02

AGA grin

Luckygirl3 Mon 13-Jun-22 15:25:02

dragonfly46

I tried to register with the online company to hear children read as I used to teach reading to this age group but faltered at the first step where it asked for employment history in the last 10 years and names of two referees!

I had the same problem - luckily I had my CV saved on my computer and was able to send this - but it came back wanting more detail on stuff that happened decades ago, so I made a few bits up - no choice!

It was hard getting referees - I used a personal referee (a vicar - she will do!) and the head teacher at the school where I am governor.

There were lots of DBS and safeguarding things and I had to send copies of all sorts of things.

Then my laptop caused problems with the online training as it would not let me move on to the next module - but I got there in the end! - after many phone calls.

I am hoping to actually get stuck in in September - I will be doing it online.

AGAA4 Mon 13-Jun-22 15:14:16

My GD asked me what I do all day. My GS replied saying I just sat round drinking tea with other old ladies.
I do that sometimes!

nanna8 Mon 13-Jun-22 13:18:54

I am involved in more things and do almost the same amount, if not more, than I ever did in my working days. More variety, more fun, more choice. We are so lucky our generation. We have been able to retire whilst we are still reasonably healthy.

Grammaretto Mon 13-Jun-22 13:18:34

Oh dragonfly! what a shame. They shoot themselves in the foot with the endless form filling.
You could just send it anyway with a covering letter (in handwriting) to say how you think your previous experience would help, that you are familiar with the on-line world and that you think recent employment history irrelevant and leave the next step to them.
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dragonfly46 Mon 13-Jun-22 13:12:59

I tried to register with the online company to hear children read as I used to teach reading to this age group but faltered at the first step where it asked for employment history in the last 10 years and names of two referees!

dogsmother Mon 13-Jun-22 13:09:18

Volunteers are invaluable. If your young neighbour only knew that, and as the lack of staff around the country seems to be impacting more and more we are needed more and more.

Luckygirl3 Mon 13-Jun-22 13:05:47

I did not feel cross with her - it just made me smile.

Grammaretto Mon 13-Jun-22 12:47:03

I know just what you mean Luckygirl. I would be infuriated.
I have just begun to volunteer at our local community store/cafe because they are desperate for help and I would hate it to close. They or I will have to find a substitute for when I can't be there. Like you, I am on several committees and have numerous interests. I have never been bored but I am happy to be rushing around less and choosing what I do.
Good on you for keeping your mouth shut. Your neighbour will learn some day.

Litterpicker Mon 13-Jun-22 12:22:51

What a beautiful list of activities. I sometimes feel ashamed of how little I do (but we are all different, with different energy levels, physical and mental). I don’t suppose your young neighbour is aware of all that fills your life. I hope your recovery proceeds apace ??

BlueSky Mon 13-Jun-22 12:16:36

Yes Lucky why do many retired parents ad adult children fall out? Often because they want us as unpaid childminders, as “You’ve got nothing to do anyway”!

Elizabeth27 Mon 13-Jun-22 12:09:23

Maybe she simply thought that if you had enough to do you would not have time to do this as well.

Luckygirl3 Mon 13-Jun-22 12:05:54

The other day I was chatting to my lovely young neighbour about the fact that I have enrolled to help children learn to read online - she is a classroom assistant so I thought she might find it interesting.

She thought nit was a great idea and then said: "It will give you something to do."

...... I beg your pardon! Do I simply need something to do? Do you think I am sitting around twiddling my thumbs all day and waiting to die?

Needless to say I said none of this, but I could have said that I:
- run a choir
- sing in a choral society
- organise an arts festival annually
- am on the committee of the choral society
- am a school governor
- write book reviews
- design posters and programmes for concerts, and write programme notes
- am learning to paint
- am part of a village women's organisation and we run coffee mornings and many many other activities in the village
- when not recovering from an op I pick up two GC from school once a week and give them their tea
- look after GC as required

Well I could go on. Is this how the young see us?!!