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Judging People by How They Speak…?

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FannyCornforth Thu 16-Jun-22 08:49:55

Hello
It’s not on, really, is it?

(This isn’t a criticism of another thread btw; it just got me thinking)

People can’t really chose their accent or dialect, can they?
It’s a lottery of birthplace, upbringing etc.

Once again, this week, there was some sort of ‘research’ about regional accents in the papers.

It cheerfully reported that folk who speak as my family and I do, are perceived as being the ‘least intelligent’ in the UK.

This is bigotry, plain and simple, isn’t it?

Stormystar Fri 17-Jun-22 12:51:27

There are so many Intelligence modalities, there can’t be any judgements on dialect it’s a nonsense
Musical-rhythmic and harmonic.
Visual-spatial.
Linguistic-verbal.
Logical-mathematical.
Bodily-kinesthetic.
Interpersonal.
Intrapersonal.
Naturalistic.

Hithere Fri 17-Jun-22 12:42:12

I grew up in an area whose accent was considered the joke of my country - very offensive

That is what I like from the US - nobody pays attention to accents, we just communicate

Lizzie44 Fri 17-Jun-22 12:21:53

Love to hear different accents. I was born in Birmingham and went to school there, have lived in Glasgow, Sheffield and South Wales, and now in the south-east. I think my accent is now pretty neutral but I absorb accents easily and can quickly lapse into any one of them. A couple of years ago we had an electrician working in the house and he said to me "you come from Birmingham don't you?" He had detected a hint of the accent which surprised me - it's nearly sixty years since I lived in Brum.

Audi10 Fri 17-Jun-22 12:20:04

No, I do not judge anyone by their accent. I actually love to hear all the different ones, nor do I judge anyone that does not pronounce words correctly! My favourite accent by far is the brummie one, I could listen to it 24/7! It’s what’s in the heart that matters not how someone speaks .

Alioop Fri 17-Jun-22 11:52:47

I have a Northern Ireland accent and when I lived in England I was constantly asked to slow down when I was speaking. When I went 'home' for visits I got into the swing of it again and then when I returned back to England my friends there always had to tell me slow down again. It's great for unwanted calls though, I can go a mile an hour and they end up so confused ?.
Where I live we get tour buses arriving all the time and I love to hear all the accents and languages from all the visitors, it's wonderful.
Nobody should ever be judged by the way they speak.

NoddingGanGan Fri 17-Jun-22 11:52:07

It's deeply annoying. I was born and brought up in Yorkshire but spent my university years and much of my adulthood in and around the London area so I have a fairly neutral accent usually; definitely not posh though! However, now I'm "back home", many neighbours and new friends with broad Yorkshire accents remark that I, "don't sound very Yorkshire" in an almost accusing way whilst some of my southern friends will take the rise out of me for the gradual flattening of vowel sounds by quoting "eee bah gum" when they detect them. I can't win! confused

monkeebeat Fri 17-Jun-22 11:51:23

Mum never let us watch Coronation Street because of the ‘poor speech’
I went to work ‘downSouth’ in London in late 1960’s. Most if the group I was in were from Public/Boarding schools and spoke with RP accent.
I returned home for a visit a few months later and mum observed I was’talking posh’ The girls ‘down South’ still thought I spoke with my strong regional accent.
By the end of 2 years, having been immersed in a, mostly RP speaking enviroment (a London teaching hospital) I only ‘lapsed’ into flat vowels when either excited or back ‘up North’
I think being young and moving away from home, made me, unconciously, want to fit in.
Visited a friend in Canada who emigrated from Yorkshire and she speaks full on ‘Canadian’ … until we get together, reminisce, few glasses of wine… and the Yorkshire in us returns.
Interestingly her mother still sounds Yorkshire.

lizzypopbottle Fri 17-Jun-22 11:48:46

I was born in Liverpool, lived in London, Bury, Romiley (near Stockport), Sutton Coldfield, back to Liverpool, Derby, Cardiff, St Helens, Morpeth, Whaley Bridge (again near Stockport) and back to Morpeth. If I don't have a defined regional accent, it's hardly surprising, but I'm definitely northern. If we came home from our London school saying things like, "I'm goin' dan v parf an sit on v grarse." My mother would correct us, " It's p-ath and gr-ass!" My dad would insist on goING and all other dropped -ings. Of course, in Liverpool we pronounced our -ings properly and could be recognised for it in other regions of the country.
Now that I've lived in the North East for so many years, you can hear my glottal stop in amongst the handy regional phrases!

Callistemon21 Fri 17-Jun-22 11:47:57

Poppsbaggie

Personally love regional accents. Just imagine having the misfortune to sound like R-Mogg. He's thick as a plank, but some people think he's intelligent because of his accent. Heaven help us.

You may not agree with his politics or views (I don't either) but to describe him as thick as a plank is untrue.

He had the advantage of an expensive education but then so have others who barely managed to scrape 'A' levels.

minniemouse Fri 17-Jun-22 11:37:43

A few years ago on holiday in Ibiza, my West of Scotland husband found himself interpreting the conversation between a Geordie and a Cockney. They couldn't understand each other ! It always amuses me that Scots are expected to 'slow down' or speak more clearly. Not all, but lots of folk from South of the border make no effort to change the way they speak so we can understand them. I agree regional accents are no measure of intelligence at all .

Yammy Fri 17-Jun-22 11:30:43

Georgesgran

Just re-read the thread.
Yammy - perhaps you could teach Brenda Blethyn to pick up Geordie as her accent makes us up here cringe! ?.
I’m Durham born and bred, but hope I’m nowhere near as thick as the Durham girls on Gogglebox - the mind boggles!

I worked in Scotswood and Benwell so had plenty of teachers. Me ma and me da were used all the time, I lost my low flat accent and got the Geordie lilt. I must admit the first time I was called hinny I thought they were saying, Ginny. They joke and laugh and it is heard in their accents.
Perhaps a little rude but my friend was from Durham and when picked up on her pronunciation when she said she was going to have a bath instead of baath she turned around and said "Yes and I say grass, not graass and ass not arse". She stunned them and walked off. It's a lovely accent and one I don't think will ever die out.
Brenda Blethyn makes me cringe as well, I find Mat baker on Country file alright.
They haven't got an actor that can do my accent the only time we hear it is on the News.grin

Purplepoppies Fri 17-Jun-22 11:29:54

If you put my sibling and I in the same room you would not know we grew up in the same council house on the same street in the same area. We had the same standard education at the same school.
They now have a well enunciated accent that could be from anywhere in the home counties.
Where as I still speak as I have always done. A bit rough round the edges.
I have never had anyone say they don't understand me though.
The only accent I find very hard to follow, purely for the speed in which they speak, is Belfast.
I did find it strange that when visiting England (I no longer live there) that Rab C Nesbitt was very helpfully subtitled by the BBC for the English!!

Daisymae Fri 17-Jun-22 11:25:47

I think that we do this all the time. We always make some sort of judgement by how people look, what they are wearing etc. I think that we, generally speaking, endow someone with a public school accent with more intelligence than they may have. You don't have to look far to see examples. I remember when the presenter of Gardner's world had a London accent there were some here who found it irritating. I guess that Monty Don's dulcet upper class tones had the reverse effect.

RicePudding613794 Fri 17-Jun-22 11:20:44

I love most regional accents, and even some international ones, Australian being a favourite…I even have my Siri set to the lovely Australian voice! Living in Northern Ireland, there are some of the accents here that I don’t like, but it should never be a judgement of the speaker.
What does influence my opinion of someone though, is incorrect grammar. I recently heard someone highly qualified in the legal profession using the terms ‘I seen’, and ‘I done’, and I was always bemused by the fact that some of my kids’ school teachers did the same. I’m afraid it irritates me that supposedly educated people in professional careers, don’t know what correct grammar is.

Harris27 Fri 17-Jun-22 11:19:56

I’m a Geordie and proud. I work with people who try to talk posh and they sound stupid. Half Geordie half posh! Very out on. I think I sound like Robson green but properly don’t!?

Poppsbaggie Fri 17-Jun-22 11:18:58

Personally love regional accents. Just imagine having the misfortune to sound like R-Mogg. He's thick as a plank, but some people think he's intelligent because of his accent. Heaven help us.

Betty18 Fri 17-Jun-22 11:18:45

Well. I’m from south London and my husband is Irish. We are 60 ish now but both made efforts to ‘lose’ our accents back in 70s and 80s. I wouldn’t do that now but back then it was better not to be regional. So sad. I even had a teacher at school say to me “ you’re a pretty girl but when you open your mouth you let yourself down” horrific right? But really affected me.

Moggycuddler Fri 17-Jun-22 11:16:00

I have a northern accent with very flat vowels, and I wouldn't have it any other way. My husband is Welsh and I've always loved his accent. Accents make people interesting. And bollocks to anybody who is stupid enough to equate them with intelligence, luv.

ayse Fri 17-Jun-22 11:08:28

My youngest grandchildren tease me about my southern accent ‘Barth, parth’ etc. I just continue to point out there are many different accents and regional speech and it doesn’t matter how people speak as long as they can understand each other. After all, isn’t that what speech is for?

Callistemon21 Fri 17-Jun-22 11:07:20

Annewilko

Katie59

There are many accents the problems are caused by not being understood, I work with a Glaswegian colleague, she speaks so fast I just have to say slow down, every time, if she only thought first it would be fine.

Perhaps if you listened, it would be fine.

That is unnecessarily rude, Annewilko.

I have/had friends from Glasgow and can understand them perfectly because they speak clearly and distinctly and in fact even I, not being Scottish, have realised there is not just one Glasgow accent.

When on holiday in Eastern Europe years ago, a distraught woman grabbed my arm and gabbled at me because her husand had got into a fight. I didnt understand her and said I did not speak her language, thinking she was a local. She then spoke more slowly and it turned out they were from Glasgow but she had such a strong accent and she spoke so very fast I didn't realise.

red1 Fri 17-Jun-22 11:04:05

who judges us by our accent? ourselves of course.I could go on a rant about the 'establishment' i've noticed the media even bbc has more regional accents these days,there has been a good book review on radio 4 this week in this vein,' the distance between them and us'. how about celebrating our differences?

Esspee Fri 17-Jun-22 11:03:27

I love accents, especially Scottish (thinking of Sean Connery here) but not to be confused with bad grammar which I hate. Bad grammar I associate with poor education.

Rebecca5 Fri 17-Jun-22 11:02:04

I've lived in Hampshire for 51 years and absolutely love to hear a brummy accent and certainly don't think that people with one are less intelligent. I may be very slightly biased, however, as I was born in Birmingham and lived there for 20 years.

Georgesgran Fri 17-Jun-22 11:01:58

Just re-read the thread.
Yammy - perhaps you could teach Brenda Blethyn to pick up Geordie as her accent makes us up here cringe! ?.
I’m Durham born and bred, but hope I’m nowhere near as thick as the Durham girls on Gogglebox - the mind boggles!

Bluesmum Fri 17-Jun-22 11:00:44

I love all regional accents but what really irritates me is lazy pronunciation and bad spelling! Many years ago, I discovered my young neighbour and her parents and siblings were from Belfast originally, but they all had the most cultured, posh “Queens English” type voices, not a hint of any accent whatsoever!