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Can teasing be subtle bullying?

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lemsip Fri 24-Jun-22 17:46:21

yes. they should be called out on it! you maybe able to laugh first few times then....bite back....teasing is what you may do to a child not an adult! not that it's right for a child either.

rafichagran Fri 24-Jun-22 17:44:06

Could these people be passive aggresive? I loathe people like that, they are harder to call out, and if you do they are hurt and offended, and they play the victim.
My friend and I used to tease each other, but it was just banter and we enjoyed it. I would not do it to someone I did not know well as it could cause offence. I also find some of these people sly, they can give it, but cant take it.

Grandmabatty Fri 24-Jun-22 17:43:44

I was teased by my ex husband and it definitely was bullying. A joke is only funny when both sides find it so.

VioletSky Fri 24-Jun-22 17:42:13

I have a very simple way of dealing with inappropriate comments, sarcasm or jokes at my expense which I learned having the sort of brain that took a few extra years to understand that sort of thing.

Now I just say I dont understand what they mean and make them explain till they feel awkward and go away..

It works perfectly for something discovered by accident

Nanamar Fri 24-Jun-22 17:31:27

I understand that the intent of bullying is to harm while teasing is typically meant to be a friendly way of communicating. Have any of you encounters someone in your life who consistently teases you to the point that you’d sometimes receive it as criticism and/or an attempt to “one up” you? If so, have you let it go or have you spoken up? The maker of the remarks may not intend to hurt and the receiver is responsible for how they interpret the remarks but should the teaser be called on it?