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Born in the 40s,50s and 60s

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aggie Tue 28-Jun-22 18:48:16

Born in the late 30s my Mum had to work, we all had measles and were very I’ll , I had scarlet fever , hospitalised for weeks , a wee friend was in hospital with T B
I started work in the 50s , saw children with TB , Polio and wards with leg fracture patients tied up for months in traction ,
And parents not allowed to visit
Things were not wonderful

VioletSky Tue 28-Jun-22 18:47:24

I watched a friend die crossing the road when I was 8. I was almost kidnapped at 15. I had friends tell me of awful situations that happened to them. My father tells the ssme sort of stories of near misses left to their iwn devices all day. The amount of dangerous situations parents knew nothing about until it was too late is frightening.

Locked out of the house every day for hours on end... I was lucky i think and I dont have good memories. I remember it as a lonely time.

Iam64 Tue 28-Jun-22 18:46:57

Sorry x posted with others I agree with. I need to clarify I didn’t mean raging, out of control teachers were good preparation for life ?. More, that the freedom we were lucky to enjoy was

Iam64 Tue 28-Jun-22 18:44:42

I was born in 1949, so grew up when the roads had very few cars on them, so we all played out. We learned to take manageable risks, to negotiate friendships/bullying/fall outs/reconciliations. As we got into high school age, many of us had bikes. We’d cycle off in groups up to 10 or more, sandwiches and a bottle of water. We’d ‘be home for tea’ after real adventures cycling distances from home, boys and girls together.
I helped out with beach ponies. No hat, no proper riding lessons, somehow I survived. Not everybody did survive the freedom we had but their parents weren’t castigated.

At school, boys were caned or slippered, girls got board rubbers or window openers chucked at them by out of control, angry teachers.

It was in many ways great preparation for life.

Things have changed. My children and grandchildren are better educated than we were. They get less freedom to roam because of traffic but their parents are actively involved in supporting their interests and provide all kinds of activities.

Life changes, some things are so much better though I wish the current crop of children had more free, unsupervised time. It can’t happen because of traffic. Also because parents are blamed instantly if anything goes wrong

Annajay Tue 28-Jun-22 18:44:26

growstuff totally agree! Sounds horrendous!

B9exchange Tue 28-Jun-22 18:44:23

I certainly recognise my childhood there. It was a huge sense of freedom. The dangers were still there of course, a man stopped his car and asked me if I would like to go and look at his kittens, but we were well briefed, and I just said 'No' and ran home. I told my parents and the police were out within minutes looking for him.

Ilovecheese Tue 28-Jun-22 18:41:11

I really can't abide things like the opening post. So congratulatory and smug.

growstuff Tue 28-Jun-22 18:33:48

I don't recognise my own childhood in the op, but thank goodness we've moved on.

Chestnut Tue 28-Jun-22 18:33:41

There is good and bad both then and now! What we had was freedom, unlike today's children who are either ferried around to activities or stuck indoors with screens. They are not free to go where they want and explore the world. I treasure those days of freedom to discover things for myself.

VioletSky Tue 28-Jun-22 18:25:33

Much prefer things the way they are now. Especially child and infant mortality rates and general life expectancy...

There are lots of ways to raise children to be confident, principled, happy risk takers while knowing they are safe and are going to make it past 40 with all their adult teeth

Maudi Tue 28-Jun-22 17:58:19

Don’t know if anyone has seen this before, but If you were born in the 40s 50s 60s you should read this, It’s very long but God how it hits home.
First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank sherry while they carried us and lived in houses made of Asbestos.
They took aspirin, ate blue cheese, bread and dripping, raw egg products, loads of bacon and processed meat and didn't get tested for diabetes or cervical cancer.
Then, after that trauma, our cots were covered with lead-based paints. We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles or locks on doors or cabinets and when we rode bikes we had no helmets or shoes, not to mention the risks we took hitchhiking. We would ride in cars with no seatbelts or airbags.
We drank water from the garden hose, not a bottle. Takeaway food was limited to fish and chips, there were no pizza shops, or McDonald's, KFC, Subway or Nando's.
Even though all the shops closed at 6pm and didn't open on a Sunday, somehow we didn't starve to death!
We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle, and no one died from this. We could collect old drink bottles and cash them in at the corner store and buy toffees, gobstoppers and bubble gum.
We ate white bread and real butter, drank cow's milk and soft drinks with sugar, but we weren't overweight because we were always outside playing!
We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on.
No one was able to reach us all day but we were OK. We would spend hours building go-karts out of old prams then ride down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes.

We built tree houses and dens and played in riverbeds with Matchbox cars. We did not have PlayStation, Nintendo Wii and Xbox or video games, DVDs or colour TV. There were no mobiles, computers, internet or chat rooms.
We had friends and we went outside and found them! We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no lawsuits from these accidents. We ate worms and mud pies, too.
Only girls had pierced ears.
You could buy Easter eggs and hot-cross buns only at Easter time. We were given airguns and catapults for our tenth birthdays, we rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or just yelled for them.
Not everyone made the school rugby, football, cricket or netball teams. Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that. Getting into the team was based on merit.
Our teachers hit us with canes and gym shoes and threw the blackboard rubber at us if they thought we weren't concentrating.
We can string sentences together, spell and have proper conversations now because of a solid three Rs education.
Our parents would tell us to ask a stranger to help us cross the road.
Mum didn't have to go to work to help Dad make ends meet because we didn't need to keep up with the Joneses!
The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law!
Parents didn't invent stupid names for kids like Kiora, Blade, Ridge and Vanilla.
We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility and learned to deal with it all.
You might want to share this with others who grew up in an era before lawyers and government regulated lives.
And while you are at it, forward it to your children, so they know how brave their parents were.

(Shared with permission from another group)