timetogo2016
As daft as it sounds,i would stop speaking to them for a while,they will pick up theon vibes and maybe ask why you are being quiet.
Then quietly tell them they are hurting your feelings etc.
If that doesn`t work stop having them.
You are not a childminder,your a grandparent,totally different.
Then quietly tell them they are hurting your feelings etc.
Really?
I had a friend who used to plead with her son to behave because, if he knew how he was upsetting Mummy, he wouldn't do it ?
Of course, he did it more!
this makes me feel absolutely worthless
Why? You're the adult.
Be firm but kind and yes, 5 year olds and 3 year olds are exhausting.
Is the 5 year old at school? If so, he will probably have become more assertive and know just everything and his little brother will copy him.
Don't ask questions such as 'do you want to put your shoes/coat on?' because the answer will probably automatically be No!
'Coats/shoes on then we'll go out to play'.
Use a bit of psychology. Keep one step ahead!