Riggi ˆMy mother in law often does the "save your cutlery" for the next course thing^
This is more often than not done in France, even in restaurants. Don’t like it either.
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What is the strangest rule you had to follow at someone else's house?
(178 Posts)I had a friend when I was young and their family had a rule that meals were silent. So if the salt or gravy ended up out of reach, you just weren't going to get any.
I also had an aunt who only allowed one quarter of a teaspoon of sugar in tea on weekends and special occasions. Everyone had their own way of sneaking in a bit of sugar from their bags or pockets when she wasn't looking lol
Calendargirl
Going to a friend’s house, I was about 12, and staying for dinner (lunch), was quite taken aback when her mum served up the main course, and my friend whispered to me to clean my plate well. It was a nice meal with gravy, but when we had finished and the pudding came, it was served on the same plate! I then realised why it was best to leave no gravy traces.
Apparently to save on the washing up!
My mother in law often does the "save your cutlery" for the next course thing. I think she just doesn't have enough if there are guests. DH knows that I don't like doing and always takes mine into the kitchen and rinses it for me!!
She also has rules about what you are allowed to drink and when. So you can't have a hot drink at 4pm because it's too near dinner time. She only drinks cold drinks (often sugary and fizzy), I almost exclusively drink hot drinks - even did as a child - and my son (now an adult) is the same; but we're often not allowed one.
Doodledog
I can't see that it would matter (trodden-in dog poo notwithstanding) as people don't lick the floors. If you vacuum or mop, surely a bit of residual dirt will be removed?
Exactly.
Different if it was a brand new, white carpet (but why would anyone?); and if I'd been tramping through mud or if I was particularly wet through I'd offer; and I would never refuse, in fact always offer; but it feels a bit precious.
When I went to stay with my nan with my new baby, I was worried that she wasn't taking her bottle. (Daughter, not nan!)
My nan took the bottle, took a big swig out of it, and said 'well, I'm not surprised, the poor little mare!'
She set to, and made up some carnation milk, with lots of sugar, in a saucepan, and fed that to my baby. (Who downed the lot!)
That’s why they are called Yorkshire and not Lincolnshire puddings
We had tinned fruit,evaporated milk and brown bread for Sunday tea.
Yorkshire puddings were served before meal so you would be happy with a smaller serving of meat.
My paternal grandmother used to make Yorkshire puddzings with the wrong flour, they were as flat as pancakes and had a texture like rubber! Dare we comment?.....definitely not! She thought she was the best cook in Lincolnshire
shysal
As a child I was unaware that on my relatives' farm in Yorkshire, the Yorkshire pudding was served on its own with gravy before the main roast beef course. I sat and waited for the rest of the food to arrive. As farmers they filled the workers' bellies before dishing up the meat. I understand that the custom is still adhered to by some in the county. The batter was cooked underneath the drips from meat on a rack and tasted wonderful!
My Yorkshire granny did this. Three huge flat trays of Yorkshire pudding made. The first eaten for starters with gravy and sliced onions in vinegar. Second with the meat and third for pudding with sugar and lemon. Needless to say the meat servings were meagre 
My Grandad would only eat lettuce with sugar, cucumber swimming in vinegar, and loads of Carnation in drinks, on puddings - any excuse.
My Gran would not allow red and white flowers in the house at the same time - she'd mutter blood and bandages, a war thing. You couldn't bring May blossom I to the house as it invited death in etc...
I used to stay over with a friend, who had her Gran living with them. We were to,d to avoid her first thing as she was a 'demon' ? I later found out she has haemoroids and used neat Dettol on the first thing every morning! No wonder she was bad tempered!
shysal
As a child I was unaware that on my relatives' farm in Yorkshire, the Yorkshire pudding was served on its own with gravy before the main roast beef course. I sat and waited for the rest of the food to arrive. As farmers they filled the workers' bellies before dishing up the meat. I understand that the custom is still adhered to by some in the county. The batter was cooked underneath the drips from meat on a rack and tasted wonderful!
I live on my own and wouldn't dream of having the Yorkshires with the main course; I still eat them as I was brought up to do, first with gravy, and when I had finished them, the rest of the roast dinner. I don't think it's unusual to eat them like that, certainly not in Yorkshire families.
Talking about strange ideas about food - I was a police cadet back in 1971 and in lodgings. The first time I had a salad at these lodgings I was asked if I had sugar on my lettuce as they did! I was quite a shy person and it was the first time I'd lived away from home so answered "yes" as I didn't want to stand out or seen to be awkward. They served the lettuce already with sugar on it. There was a salt pot so when I was on my own I put lots of salt on to cover up the taste of the sugar.
The next time it happened there was no salt and so I had to eat the lettuce as it was served - YUK.
NotSpaghetti
Froglady and lixy - this is so you don't take "the luck" away from the house.
Thank you for that- I've always wondered what the reason was behind it.
They used to feed carnation milk to babies in the hospital. Maybe they still do ? I was horrified to find that with my English babies. They didn’t do that here.
I can't see that it would matter (trodden-in dog poo notwithstanding) as people don't lick the floors. If you vacuum or mop, surely a bit of residual dirt will be removed?
hamster58
I’m amazed how many of us don’t ‘get’ or take exception to people asking for shoes to be removed. I wouldn’t want to take mine off if the house was dirty-but if it was, they probably wouldn’t ask-but surely you can see how much dirt like chewing gum dog faeces etc or squashed berries can be inadvertently on our shoes. Sweaty feet on a carpet isn’t great, but isn’t the previous option worse??
Honestly, in over 40 years of owning houses and I have never had anything nasty, dog poo or squashed berries on my carpets and visitors were not asked to remove their shoes!
Saggi
I have a good friend who only drinks coffee…. so when you visit her you have to take a tea bag AND whatever sugar you want as she uses sweeteners( gross!!!) . Lucky we’ve been friends a long time. I don’t drink coffee…in fact I hate the smell of it… but I still keep it in house for people.??♀️
I only drink black coffee but always have tea bags and buy some milk if I know people are coming round or if I’ve got workmen in. I also buy gluten free biscuits if I know a visitor can’t eat my usual ones - it’s just polite to cater for everyone.
Oh ho! Carnation milk - My Great Aunt put it in tea, and no cup of tea was complete without at least one cats’ hair
My mum used to take her makeup off with a cotton wool ball and then wash it and leave it on top of the cooker to dry.
She also cut up used paper for shopping lists and saved rubber bands and string.
Hmmm, I do all those. Doesn't everyone? ?
My mother would never allow any sweet spread but marmalade on our toast. Jam could be eaten ( if absolutely necessary but frowned upon) on untoasted bread
It was a delight, therefore to stay with my grandfather who would make cinnamon toast with sugar for me- odd because this was my mother's father
Stranger to me, though was his morning habits. He would break into the bedrooms at day break saying 'Wake up , you are missing the best part of the day'. He would then leave the bedroom doors wide open and go to the lavatory taking his smelly old pipe with him
He would sit there, the loo door open, preparing his smoke which we could soon smell throughout the house.
When we asked politely why he didn't close our doors, he explained that he did NOT smoke elsewhere ever but it was was necessary to do it at that time and place to disinfect the room
I suspect this might have been an old custom which maybe even went back hundreds of years to when tobacco was brought back to the UK and as with many things, was given a medicinal value to improve its acceptance
Froglady and lixy - this is so you don't take "the luck" away from the house.
shysal
At my granny's house tea bags were saved and hung on the washing line to dry for another day.
When tea was introduce into the UK, drying the leaves was common practice in the poorest homes as it was so expensive. Tea was often kept in locked caddies in wealthier homes. The hostess would be the one who spooned it into the teapot, not the staff or the "girl" if they were employed. Some older people may have remembered these things when it came to rationing during the war and revived it, carrying it on afterwards.
Tea leaves were also scattered on carpets to clean them but I don't know if it worked or if it just kept a check on the whole carpet has been cleaned 
Teacheranne
My mum used to wash cling film after she’d used it and peg it up to dry!
My DM did this and washed plastic bags too. The shrubs in the garden were festooned with drying plastic some days. She also cut up used paper for shopping lists and saved rubber bands and string.
We used to visit an uncle who also insisted the children must finish everything on the plate or they would turn into a hairy rat. This really annoyed me as they were quite small at the time and believed what he said.However he still insisted on saying it.
Further to taking your outdoor shoes off indoors, my first high school uniform list insisted we had two pairs of Clark's shoes: one heavy duty pair for coming and going to school, and a lighter weight pair we had to change into during the day.
There was a choice of three styles in each category to choose from.
This was in 1968.
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