Okay, here goes.
I had an absolute perfect friend we knew each other inside out, worked together as carers and my work was sheer joy because I was with her. She was my soul-mate-mate, she was wonderful in every way.
Last August she died, I cant even believe that I am writing the word died, she had JUST had her 55th birthday.
Her husband is lovely too we have a laugh when I see him he puts odd comments on social media.
My friend close friends are holding her husband and up checking he is ok, Sunday lunch at their home, messages. Shortly after loosing his wife, whom he worshipped the ground she walked on, he lost his dad too so the poor man is absolute lost.
Ok, so the bones of this explanation are that my husbands interpretation is * an affair can develop* to which I have cried and pleaded my case that all I am doing to what ANY loyal friend would do and support him, check that he is ok, along with the other close friends. Its hurt me very much to think something such as this, that has left a huge huge void in alllll of lives can be viewed as disgusting and totally unacceptable as an affair could develop.
I am NOW having to check he is ok or pop over if I am in the area SECRETLY for fear that IF I openly say his name, it will be red rag to a bull scenario...
I have explained nicely and calmly and I have explained yelling and shouting ...... so what on EARTH can be done? I can't desert the man turn my back on him because my friend is no longer here.
Its a terrible, terrible situation to find myself in AND AN EXTREMELY SAD SITUATION TOO.
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