Saying thank you

Any sort of "thanks" is gratefully received!! Unfortunately Young's nowadays are an entitled lot and don't see why they should"grateful" for anything....because according to them! "They're worth it!" And they "deserve" everything even though we all have tights older than the lot of them and we still say thanks!!!

I was always brought up to write thank you letters for presents given to me for birthdays and at Christmas. However the trend these days for adults to just transfer money into the recipients bank account has I think changed the whole feeling of receiving a present. It just doesn't feel the same as opening a parcel and I can't help thinking that it has a lot to do with the lack of thanks. I'm not condoning it just saying.

I have no problem with plain speaking at all, in fact I prefer it so I'm sure you will take on board my comment that I do not give presents or cards in order to be thanked. I'm not that sad, I merely expect basic good manners, something sadly lacking in all areas of life.

Oh dear, this really makes me feel my age!

I was taught as a little girl that you sent people birthday or Christmas cards, and grown-ups sent letters of condolence to a family when someone had died, and of congratulation when people got engaged, married, or had a baby basically for the same reason as you gave presents.

In order, that is, to make the recipient feel happy and loved, or at least well-liked.

Nowadays, people who send cards or give presents sound as if they do so solely in order to be thanked!

You are welcome to call me a crabbit auld wife if plain speaking annoys you.

I have two lovely grandsons, I used to get thank you notes when they were about 5!! Since then they have dried up, I might get a text if I'm lucky. It's a bit old fashioned now I suppose but my mother used to make me write thank you letters the same day as I received the present! I don't think parents these days place as much importance on good manners; mobile phones have changed everything and not for the better.

Harris and GSM

Same with me. I often send a text to ask if something arrived.

If I wish to thank a friend or neighbour when they have done something to help me out, I prefer to send some flowers, or chocs or wine than a card.

I think most people would.

I always get/give thanks for presents, just not for cards - and I do not expect to get thanks myself.

I buy heaps of presents for children, grandchildren and great grandchildren, more than 20 of them. Most thank me but one particular family doesn’t . I just think they are rude and it makes me not want to bother. My aunts and uncles never bothered to give me any presents and I didn’t really have a relationship with them, either. I think because we are migrants we tend to value the family ties more perhaps. Family is very,very important here.

i'm quite surprised at all this sending money to nephews etc.
i never experienced that. except once years ago an aunt sent me a five dollar bill, which was quite exciting. i was about 8. i remember going to deposit it in the bank, and being interested in how they have to offer me a rate for conversion into sterling first.
i doubt i wrote to thank her though.
probably why that was the only one.
someone in america either the same or the wife of an uncle, sent me a small transistor radio, which was nice.
we were not brought up to write thank you notes.
i can see now that it is quite a nice thing to do, esp to older or distant relatives.
but apart from an occasional five shillings at xmas, no one gave other people's children money or gifts. it just wasn't the culture.

I forgot to say my DDs did get a little present when it was the other DD's birthday . It all started when the second DD came along nearly at Christmas, they would be waiting in expectation and then Grans would arrive with Birthday presents so they always brought a small one for the other. They then did the same in summer for the winter baby. Nothing big just to say they had thought of them as well but we never had a name for them.
These days nephews, in particular, seem to expect substantial cheques which I have stopped as we never hear from them from one year to the next. The girls do Email me now and again but no card neither does their father my BIL.
It was always part of good manners when I was young and was quoted as "Manners maketh man".

We send eachother texts as thanks for cards and presents
If not I tend to ask if it was received. Maybe not for just a card but always for a parcel.
Which reminds me I have some thanking to do .

Agreed. Unless you meet up or speak on the phone and 'ah thanks for the card' is fine.

I’ve an 11 year old. If she hasn’t seen the sender of the gift to say thank you to, she writes a thank you note.

Who on earth sends a thank you for a card??? A bit OTT.

Sounds all too familiar Harris. Then you’re left wondering if it arrived.

I’ve even got ignorant grandchildren who don’t thank me when I send money so no hope for a card!

Would they normally have said thanks in the past? Maybe they are too busy after a house move...? I don't expect a thanks for a card though.

I expect an acknowledgment from my step grandchildren too Franbern but it doesn’t happen now. I was brought up always to write a thank you letter. Basic good manners. Each Christmas and birthday I vow that will be the last time …

I DO expect an acknowlegement if I have sent any of my g.children a present or money.
I was very touched that my 22-year old g.son did send me a text thanking me for his birthday card.
If I wish to thank a friend or neighbour when they have done something to help me out, I prefer to send some flowers, or chocs or wine than a card.

BlueBelle

So ‘a’ sends a card and ‘b’ thanks her for sending the card and ‘a’ thanks her for thanking her and ‘b’ thanks her for thanking her for thanking her
I m very happy to get a thank you for a present

Each successive card could have one fewer colour so that it is like an infinite series that converges to a finite limit.

[geek humour]

Georgesgran

Meant to add - everyone thinks we’re crazy, but we don’t care.

I think it is lovely.

welbeck

what does that mean ??
seven and a half what ?

That seven and a half years have elapsed since the person was born.

With those make a customised birthday badge kits that arrive with two sets of adhesive backed digits so that one could make a customised badge for any age from 1 to 110, it would be an inexpensive addition for the set of adhesive backed digits to have a few fractions as well.

With cards, do readers prefer a card with text on the front or one with a just a picture and the greeting inside?

I think that a card with just a picture is good because that means that it can be framed and displayed as a picture rather than just put in a drawer.

I view a card be it through the post or electronically deserves a thank you. I find it rude to not say a quick thank you and appreciate the fact someone has taken the trouble.

I always acknowledge birthday cards. Isn’t it a bit rude not to given that someone had to remember it was my birthday, buy a card, make sure they had a stamp, and post it in time.
Bit of a faff isn’t it, and if the sender doesn’t hear a dicky bird then they have no way of knowing if the card arrived

I thank by text message even if, in the case of family, I am seeing them later for a meal out.

Me too Mattsmum, but we're all different.

I didn't know you could still get tubes of smarties.

I still love writing real letters, and receiving them.