Phoenix's Curse

Describing the ‘curse’ as nasty and sneering before having it explained is not being polite.

It isn’t ‘an internal joke’. I wasn’t around in Phoenix’s day but I had heard about her humour and am not excluded from enjoying it.

What you mean by this being a high school I have no idea but please don’t trouble to enlighten me. The way this memorial thread has been trashed - there is no other word for it - is appalling.

Honey did post politely and ask what was going on - she deserves a huge apology

This thread is an internal joke that only some members are privy too and is very easily offensive to others not in the circle.

This is a high school- how disappointing

All this is so childish and could have been avoided if Honey was replied to sensibly

All this might have been avoided if Honey had asked politely what it was all about.

But I will repeat that it's not right to descend to someone else's level of rudeness.

GrannyGravy13

^GN has got very po faced lately^

Yes kitty unfortunately it has.

Indeed

Define clique ???

GN has got very po faced lately

Yes kitty unfortunately it has.

I sometimes think it’s policed by the Taliban kitty. Certainly feels that way on occasion.

And, just because some of us have been on GN for years and years and know each other and knew Phoenix doesn't make us a clique - it makes us old!

And, welbeck, it is fairly difficult to avoid the father of 2 much loved grandchildren.

GN has got very po faced lately.

eazybee

This thread is following the same pattern of baiting that resulted in previous suspensions.

If a post is placed on a public forum all members may comment on it how they wish, and very silly of those who understand its relevance not to answer the early queries.

I don't believe advising posters to leave a thread is in the much-debated 'spirit of Gransnet'.

Yet posters have been advised to just that !

nadateturbe

I reported this yesterday. Don't expect anything to be done.
I am surprised by how some have reacted from whom I expected better.
Why would anyone want to be part of a group of silly nasty girls who haven't left the school playground?

You ruined your own thread.

I won't be taking part any longer, I won't be missed - I wasn't part of the "clique".
Nor did I ever agree with something just to be popular.

No doubt this post will be deleted very quickly!

No
Clique (as has been explained )

I started this thread after The Curse had been mentioned a fair number of times on the Our Phoenix thread and I did not want it to be missed.

I feel it was very disrespectful for people who presumably read all the threads to nit pick on a Curse that was patently meant to be funny and supportive.

I repeat Curses are not real - if they were my ExSil would not still be strutting round wreaking havoc with other women's lives.

We all think that then we get deleted/reported/banned

I have been following this thread and am sorry to see the way it has gone. There are threads on GN which have upset me, there are threads which I disagree with and some which I have no interest in so I choose to scroll past them and find something else. Life is too short to spend time arguing with someone you don't know and who you will probably never meet and who has no impact on your life. The origin of the poem has been explained - so why not leave it at that.

Elizabeth27

When Honey asked who and what this was about it should have been explained and all would have been well, but instead it was replied that you had to be in the know to get it.

If you wanted it to be kept between the few then this should have been in a WhatsApp group or PMs.

If a man had put a similar poem about women on here without explanation there would have been uproar and calls for him to be banned from gransnet.

All this is so childish and could have been avoided if Honey was replied to sensibly.

Agreed, would have been quite simple.

GrannyGravy13

eazybee surely the spirit of GN is participating in threads which interest you or those which you are knowledgeable about.

I would not dream of posting on a knitting/crafting thread, saying i do not understand why you like knitting it’s just ridiculous or something similar.

Nor would I go onto a memorial thread discussing someone I didn’t know, with demands for explanations.

I do not feel the need to be involved in the minutiae of everything GN, it’s a chat forum not my life.

Well said GG13

When Honey asked who and what this was about it should have been explained and all would have been well, but instead it was replied that you had to be in the know to get it.

If you wanted it to be kept between the few then this should have been in a WhatsApp group or PMs.

If a man had put a similar poem about women on here without explanation there would have been uproar and calls for him to be banned from gransnet.

All this is so childish and could have been avoided if Honey was replied to sensibly.

eazybee surely the spirit of GN is participating in threads which interest you or those which you are knowledgeable about.

I would not dream of posting on a knitting/crafting thread, saying i do not understand why you like knitting it’s just ridiculous or something similar.

Nor would I go onto a memorial thread discussing someone I didn’t know, with demands for explanations.

I do not feel the need to be involved in the minutiae of everything GN, it’s a chat forum not my life.

This thread is following the same pattern of baiting that resulted in previous suspensions.

If a post is placed on a public forum all members may comment on it how they wish, and very silly of those who understand its relevance not to answer the early queries.

I don't believe advising posters to leave a thread is in the much-debated 'spirit of Gransnet'.

I reported this yesterday. Don't expect anything to be done.
I am surprised by how some have reacted from whom I expected better.
Why would anyone want to be part of a group of silly nasty girls who haven't left the school playground?

You ruined your own thread.

I won't be taking part any longer, I won't be missed - I wasn't part of the "clique".
Nor did I ever agree with something just to be popular.

No doubt this post will be deleted very quickly!

Having made your point, would it now be appropriate for you to leave the thread StarDreamer? That is a query on my part, not a suggestion. (Please don’t tell me the difference between a query and a suggestion)

GrannyGravy13

eazybee

The way this thread is going, this group of friends of Phoenix will end up being suspended, just as she was.

Who would be to blame though?

I have the t shirt.
Available in a range of sizes, many customers to date.

Oh Wind Your Neck In StarDreamer!! (Yawn)

Is it too much to ask that those who don't like or understand what the poem is about just move on. No point staying on a thread you find offensive.
Asking politely for respect for Phoenix.

The original OP has been explained several times yet those who didn't understand are still posting about their hurt feelings. Everyone now knows how the original post upset and hurt some so why keep telling everyone - let it go and leave those who knew Phoenix and her sense of humour to remember her in their own way

Callistemon21

Oh no!
Is that you?

No.