I have only just now realised I can pick up pm’s on the main page, had only ever seen them in my email. I am so sorry to those you’ve contacted me, you must think me so rude. I will reply.
From dopey in S Hampshire
Desperately sad story of the assisted suicide of a grieving mother


eh? I never knew that either! I've always accessed them via email alerts too! 
It's like the blind, leading the blind! No wonder my DC groans "Oh Muuummm!" 