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Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)

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AussieGran59 Fri 02-Sept-22 07:37:05

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silverlining48 Fri 02-Sept-22 09:49:20

Blossoming I share lots of those problems you describe too. I think the term for loud noise actually causing pain is 'recruitment' as explained by an ENT consultant. To do with the littke hair things inside the ear being worn down.
Childrens high pitched screams are unbearable.

MissAdventure Fri 02-Sept-22 09:47:23

I really can't move.
I'm not well enough or rich enough.
I could, I suppose, but I've been here 30 odd years, and it would mean moving into another ex council place, on an estate, with possibly more issues than I currently have.

JaneJudge Fri 02-Sept-22 09:44:01

MissA, can you move? It really sounds like she is making you unwell sad

downtoearth Fri 02-Sept-22 09:42:56

MissA my ex is severely dyslexic and was very chaotic and marched to his own drum,and my DGD is not without her issues,many times I could be found hiding in my car i some supermarkets furthest corner with a takeaway tea and my book when I was all peopled out grin

MissAdventure Fri 02-Sept-22 09:42:55

My girl would sometimes ask me what was wrong, as my neighbour drives me to distraction with her constant, overbearing ways.
It makes me feel really unwell sometimes, and tearful.
I often post on here about the neighbour and I do try to be kind...

JaneJudge Fri 02-Sept-22 09:40:18

I scored 27 confused

Zoejory Fri 02-Sept-22 09:40:10

I think I'm HIP

I do know an HSP though and her life is quite traumatic. She has no friends now and is totally alone
It's very sad. But nobody has been able to help her

downtoearth Fri 02-Sept-22 09:37:54

I also hate the summer and am quite happy to pulll the curtains and live in the dim light when it is hot sun and heat.

I find when the sun is bright it confuses me and disorientateds me,

I am learning a lot about myself,from reading others stories.
I find lots of contact with people drain my batteries.

Blossoming Fri 02-Sept-22 09:37:29

Sensory overload, also known as flooding or hypersensitivity, is one of the after effects of brain injury. Some examples. I struggle in large groups of people as I can’t handle lots of conversations going on around me. I can’t listen to loud or discordant noises, they literally make my brain hurt. Flashing lights are the pits. I have an increased startle reflex, even the doorbell ringing makes me jump out of my skin. My left arm and leg will jump violently when touched, which is interesting during medical appointments grin. It makes life interesting…

MissAdventure Fri 02-Sept-22 09:35:34

I found it easier once I gave up hope.
Now I just live with odd socks, boxes of wires, spanners, piles of washing, and seethe inwardly. grin

downtoearth Fri 02-Sept-22 09:31:30

MissA I didnt find it easy either thanks

downtoearth Fri 02-Sept-22 09:29:41

I have also got a tendency to blurt things out,which can get me blamed for having no filter,if I post on here very occasionally I find I have to choose very carefully what I say,as I dont want to give offence,as I do tend to speak before thinking.

MissAdventure Fri 02-Sept-22 09:28:29

My daughter apologised to me before she died, saying she knew the idea of a boy coming to live with me must be horrifying, but there was no other option. smile

downtoearth Fri 02-Sept-22 09:24:59

I scored 18,have always enjoyed my own company,hate loud noises,jump easily,I live with silence,as I cannot stand the TV on,or the radio,find huge crowds of people make me want to shrink and hide,I prefer small doses of one to one.

I have brought up two families,DGD moved out 6 months ago,for the first time in my life I feel I have the space around me I always craved,I now for the first time in my almost 70 years live alone.

I have a friend who at 55 has discovered he is on the ASD spectrum,all of those questions I am sure would score him 100%

MissAdventure Fri 02-Sept-22 09:15:15

I used to have to abandon shops if the music meant I couldn't concentrate, and throw in some heat, too...

Baggs Fri 02-Sept-22 09:00:59

Music that is played as background noise or something to help people concentrate, which I know a lot of people find helpful, absolutely does not help.

Music is something to concentrate on by itself. Something I cannot do if I'm supposed to be doing something else as well. For me, music, even just (there is no just ) listening requires deep concentration on that and nothing else. Most people simply do not understand this. I'm not blaming anyone but I do wish more people got it.

We got rid of our telly because it drove me insane that MrB would walk into the room where it was, switch it on and then walk out of the room! What was the point?

He has got used to me switching his phone to silent (I leave a note beside it) whenever I find it lying around unattended (it's too big for his pockets) and, the other day, when he turned the car ignition on to add some air to a tyre, the radio came on. I went out and switched the sound off. Apart from anything else, I regard imposing unnecessary noise on other people (e.g. neighbours) as pollution.

Recently I had to stop following a story podcast because, as well as suitable music being played at the beginnings and ends of stories and during pauses, it was played while the story was being read. Spoiled the whole experience for me because I had to listen to one or the other but couldn't ignore the other.

As one DD put it about me: "You hear things no-one else hears."

honeyrose Fri 02-Sept-22 08:46:15

I scored 22 which makes me highly sensitive. I suspected this and I seem to be getting more sensitive and jumpy as I age. Interesting quiz.

GrannyGravy13 Fri 02-Sept-22 08:43:38

I have just done the test, scored 20

Not surprised., I hate violent films/tv/books, jump out if my skin when my phone rings or at any loud noise and I often retreat to my bedroom for me time

MissAdventure Fri 02-Sept-22 08:41:16

Until recently I would have poo poohed the whole concept, but now, perhaps I'm considering the idea.
Sneezes make me jump almost out of my skin, and on turn make me angry, even if they're reasonable ones.

There was a thread a while back about foods from childhood, and I wrote how I would silently cry at meal times, and would start almost every mealtime being warned "Don't start!!!"

I also absolutely loathe the hot weather, I find it almost frightening when it is so hot.

Loud voices, my space being invaded (my mum lived with me for 9 months and I gave her 2 hangers outside the wardrobe to put her clothes on) blush

I'm not sure if I'm seneitive or a miserable old bag.

Oldnproud Fri 02-Sept-22 08:36:01

silverlining48

I did the test and got a lowish score but my startle reflex is high. If my dh sneezes I not only jump out of my skin but often scream. Just can’t help it.

I was the opposite - I got a high score, but I don't have a high startle reflex.

AussieGran59 Fri 02-Sept-22 08:30:44

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silverlining48 Fri 02-Sept-22 08:29:16

But not Brit

silverlining48 Fri 02-Sept-22 08:28:49

He does sneeze particularly loudly Brit any unexpected noise affects me

silverlining48 Fri 02-Sept-22 08:26:10

I did the test and got a lowish score but my startle reflex is high. If my dh sneezes I not only jump out of my skin but often scream. Just can’t help it.

Oldnproud Fri 02-Sept-22 08:20:19

I have just done the sensitivity test - scored 22.