Don't watch street harassment in silence - ask 'Are you Okay?'

I wouldnt expect any woman being threatened to behave in a particular way. It's very dangerous to leave an abusive man.

Not harrassment but we once spent half an hour watching a massive row between our neighbour and her fiance. it was confined to yelling so we didn't interfere and it culminated in her hurling her engagement ring into the bushes. A couple of days later the fiance turned up with a metal detector. He found the ring but, as far as I remember the relationship didn't survive.

Some years ago my uncle intervened when a man worse the wear for drink was being very abusive to his girlfriend on a late night bus from town. He ended up being punched by the man & had bruising to his face and a black eye. The girl got up and walked off the bus with the man in question and never said a word.

Good advice, Yammy.

Yes, I once witnessed two cars reverse out of parking bays and hit each other. One was an elderly gentleman the other a young man. The elderly one gave him a real tongue lashing so a friend and I went over and said we would be witnesses they were both at fault. He soon quietened down.
I also witnessed a road accident when one driver jumped out and started on the other when the first had clearly come out of a side road without looking. The poor chap's wife was hysterical. I gave them my name and address and the police came and I had to give a statement luckily it never went to court.
These days if I saw someone being attacked I think I would think twice but shout from a distance. Or knock on a door if we were among houses and ask them to phone the police.

Once on a train a young girl was being harassed by a couple to give up her seat. She looked terrified but stayed where she was. They became very aggressive and menacing but other passengers, although staring, did nothing. I became quite concerned so I told them to leave her alone or I would call the train manager. They went through to the next carriage in the end. The girl didn't so much as look at me let alone say thank you. Don't think I would bother again.

I would always ask even if I shouted it from a distance. So they could shout back no ring the police.

I saw a very unpleasant situation escalating outside my house some years ago. A young couple were arguing - he was waving his arms about, shouting in her face, and then to my alarm he tried to push her into his car. I rang 999, as I was alone in the house, kept watching and gave them the car number and descriptions. The argument continued, and then the police arrived fortunately. They sat him in their car and a policewoman talked to the girl. I like to think I would have gone out to help her, however angry the other person, had the police not arrived. They later rang and said it was a 'domestic' and that he had been given some useful advice. I do hope so.

Georgesgran

I saw a lady sitting with her legs out of her car and her head almost down to her knees and her shoulders heaving. As I walked past, I asked if she was ok and we laughed when she said she’d been eating a Gregg’s sausage roll and didn’t want to get flakes of pastry in her car!
At least I asked?

This did make me laugh, Georgesgran

I once did just that. A man was intimidating a woman. Refusing to move so she could drive off and shouting at her. He was quite taken aback at a passer by asking her if she was OK. I think it sunk in as he stormed off and she drove away.

A close family member helped a lady getting abused by a man and the woman told her to mind her own business ?

My confidence would certainly be influenced by the size and mood of the harrasser.

I saw a lady sitting with her legs out of her car and her head almost down to her knees and her shoulders heaving. As I walked past, I asked if she was ok and we laughed when she said she’d been eating a Gregg’s sausage roll and didn’t want to get flakes of pastry in her car!
At least I asked?

It's a difficult one isn't it?

I like to think I would ask someone if they were ok but don't know if I would when confronted with it

It's not that easy. I once saw a woman being pushed and shouted at by a man. I was in my car so was able to pull over and ask if she was ok. She made her escape when I spoke to her. But I was in the relative safety of my car. The man was aggressive and told me to f off so I dont know what I would have done if I was walking down the street.

It would depend on the circumstances. If a man were harassing someone, I confess I would think twice. Things could turn very nasty.

In my opinion, when you see bullying, you stand by the victim silently.