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feeling Alone - don't comment if you feel I'm needy!

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Grammaretto Tue 11-Oct-22 05:20:47

That Sunday feeling is hard to throw off.
In our town there is a regular film show on a Sunday evening in the town hall.
It's run by volunteers and is popular for those of us who live alone.
It's an undemanding space. At the interval we can chat to anyone about the movie over tea and cake.

biglouis Tue 11-Oct-22 00:36:29

I think of sunday as a day when I dont do business, sleep in late and sort of kick back to the extent that I want to. Unusually for me I felt really unwell and miserable yesterday (sunday). Spent most of it in bed.

Ive suffered with clinical depression on and off for as long as I can remember and what OP describes to me (feeling empty and invisible) sounds like depression rather than being "needy". Depression is a very real medical condition.

Charleygirl5 Mon 10-Oct-22 22:09:37

Bea try to forget Sunday is Sunday and it is just another day of the week. It took me years to get over the "Sunday" feeling and I have managed it, my brain helping by not always sure which day it actually is!

I agree, most of us associate Sunday with a family lunch and a few people around and when one is on one's own and maybe having cheese on toast it is rather different.

Bea65 Mon 10-Oct-22 17:59:19

Yes Knitting Novice triggered these thoughts.. have actually worried about posting on threads..sounds ridiculous but when ur alone, without validation, how can u feel confident about airing true feelings and thoughts?

halfpint1 Mon 10-Oct-22 17:23:39

It would seem that Knitting Novice on the other thread introduced a very common problem and should give herself a pat on the back for being so honest. So many people speaking out can only be helpfull

Granmarderby10 Mon 10-Oct-22 17:10:41

Bea65 you feel whatever you feel. It’s absolutely the place to share your thoughts on your feelings but just be aware that some of the opinions expressed will be coming from those who have an *axe to grind*of the “howd’ya think I feel”/“ try being me” etc etc etc variety……
They in turn are probably just expressing how they feel lonely without actually saying it even to themselves.
I’m sure you are familiar with the old chestnut - that you can be alone without feeling lonely and visa versa.
So what if you are needy anyway ? The term has horrible connotations attached but it just means you need company it’s quite human.
I empathise totally about feeling invisible.

Bea65 Mon 10-Oct-22 17:09:07

yes AGAA4, what is it about the 'Sundays' .I personally think it's to do with a perhaps not a family tradition anymore .. as Sunday was a 'Family Day' when it was the norm of visiting the older members of the family..of course this was before weekend working for lots of people...and remember vividly visiting my elderly auntie once a month when she was a Nun!

AGAA4 Mon 10-Oct-22 16:45:21

I think many people get that feeling sometimes. I am mostly fine on my own but find some
Sundays difficult as do some friends. We don't live near each other so can't visit.
I don't think it means you are needy it's just that at times you can feel a lack in your life.

Bea65 Mon 10-Oct-22 16:07:40

Well ..I often FEEL alone does this mean LONELINESS?
someone mentioned on previous thread they felt alone over a weekend..some felt maybe OP was needy..others understood.. its an empty horrible sensation where you can feel INVISIBLE Do any other GNs feel this? I was a social butterfly but not now and hope this thread is a 'safe place to share' flowers