DH is driving me mad because I can’t get his normal coffee brand

MawtheMerrier thank you for some light relief

My oh my!
The OP was simply trying to source this coffee, there is no need for exaggerated made up accounts of her husband’s motives or behaviour, and no need for feminist rants either.
Many of us want our husbands and families to be happy with their favourite foodstuffs.
‘Driving me mad’ is just a phrase we use.

Isn’t it time somebody said “LTB” ?

Are the threads related? I haven'r read the other threads so I was just replying on this one

And, surely, we all know now why women often stay with abusive men

Not sure how we are all suddenly talking about bullying on this thread. There is nothing to suggest it in the OPs words. I just took it to mean that she wondered if anyone on here could suggest an alternative.Maybe her husband is doing the same elsewhere. Sadly he may have to do without if he can’t find a replacement to his taste but at the moment the OP seems just to be looking for advice from fellow coffee lovers. I can’t help as I hate the stuff.

This ... exactly, thanks.

Everyone has their favourite something or other, and yes I’d try and find it for my DH the same as if I wanted a particular thing he would do the same for me, difference is my DH wouldn’t be driving me crazy and nor would I him, we would just accept if couldn’t find it then try other types till got something we liked,

www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/252930256

Panic over!
In stock

I must remember to take it out of my basket.

That is another story altogether. Hugely expensive coffee pods and terrible for the environment ;)

I would buy him a Nespresso machine for Christmas. They make the best coffee!

kittylester

Fleurpepper first of all you talk about him being aggressive to the Op's friend, or disrupting the daughter's wedding then.

Why do you assume the worst - very emotive.

Oh dear- I explained, those other cases were on other threads today- about men being very unpleasant. One to a Gnetter's friend, another to his grand-daughter, and now about nonsense like coffee type. The 'emotive' response was due to wondering why so many women put up with men who are so controlling or unpleasant. Perhaps you have not read the other threads.

In this case, we just don't know how the reaction was, from a mild 'what a shame you got a different coffee' to 'whyt did you buy this much for, you witch (or worse).

As Hithere says, unacceptable behaviour and why put up with it?

Let him drink tea!!
#marieantoinette

Seriously, I have a favourite coffee but it seemed to be unavailable so i ordered a different kind in last week's order. Who knows - I might prefer it!

If you were his employee, he wouldnt pay you enough for these demands

As your dh, tell him to look for the coffee himself

Unacceptable behaviour either way

Fleurpepper first of all you talk about him being aggressive to the Op's friend, or disrupting the daughter's wedding then.

Why do you assume the worst - very emotive.

Presume you mean a suitable replacement husband?

kittylester

*Fleurpepper*, what kalu said.

Unkind, yes - bullying, no!

We don't know- only OP knows- the words used, and how it was done.

As said, the 3rd thread today on women putting up with really unpleasant stuff from their men. Why do they?

Darling husband I haven’t been able to get the coffee you like so I m handing the job back to you if you can’t find it either you’re very welcome to drink mine darling

Just tell him to go and find one he likes.

That’s all you need to do.

If you want to be conciliatory tell him you’ll put it on the shopping list once he’s found it.

Buy a substitute as close to his favoured one destroy the packet. I think he won't notice the difference. If he does and complains tell him he knows where the shops are.

Fleurpepper, what kalu said.

Unkind, yes - bullying, no!

Annajay

Is this for real??

Nah!

Well yes, just depends on it is said, and how he is 'driving her mad'. But who would do such a thing? If she got the 'wrong' coffee- he could say ' what a pity, I prefer the other one' and then, once she said she could not find it, reply and say 'ah, what a shame. I'll see if I can find it or an alternative more to my taste'.

If he goes on and on, and 'drives' her mad - is rude or unpleasant about it- then it gets close, and closer, to bullying.

The 3rd thread today about unpleasant men doing unpleasant things, with women who seem to put up with it, somehow. And it upsets me and makes me wonder, why?

I’m sure there are times DH and me drive each other mad…it’s just an expression not literal.

I have no problem going out of my way to find a treat that DH likes and likewise, neither has he going on the hunt for something special I like. There is no bullying in our marriage of almost 48 years. That wouldn’t work for either of us.

I am another one who would just tell him to source it himself.

Tell him to find it himself! Why do women put up with this from men!