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ExDancer Wed 19-Oct-22 12:36:58

My friend and I were shopping and she went to the checkout to pay, she's a chatty person and said to the cashier "Its a beautiful day today".
The reply she got was "If you say so".

sodapop Wed 19-Oct-22 12:41:56

Unnecessarily rude I think Exdancer it would have been just as easy to agree.

grandtanteJE65 Wed 19-Oct-22 12:42:32

Not a very polite answer, I agree, but the cashier was obviously having a bad day.

Did either of you ask her what had upset her?

nanna8 Wed 19-Oct-22 12:44:55

Maybe slightly more honest than have a nice/ lovely day which most say.

Namsnanny Wed 19-Oct-22 12:46:03

Was it said with a wry smile?

Baggs Wed 19-Oct-22 13:09:31

If the cashier was inside a shop with no view of the beautiful day outside her "if you say so" response sounds simply honest to me. We also don't know what her tone of voice was or what her facial expression was as she said it so we are getting only about 7% of the story: the words but not their meaning and context.

I'm not sure telling such tales of shop assistant 'rudeness' is good manners.

lemsip Wed 19-Oct-22 13:59:27

it was probably the umteenth time she's heard it... no need for to be nasty though.

biglouis Thu 20-Oct-22 02:52:05

Perhaps then I should stop remarking on the weather when the Tesco person or the courier delivers. I would not like to do one of these jobs but surely its more pleasant when people are friendly. Its just an ice breaker.

Or maybe I should just snatch the parcel and slam the door in their face. Im expecting a courier tomorrow so maybe Ill ask him/her.

FannyCornforth Thu 20-Oct-22 06:41:27

I wouldn’t say that this was a case of ‘bad manners’, more a case of grumpiness.
(But as others have said, we have no idea of their intonation)

People, even people on a low wage, are allowed to be grumpy.

It also sounds a bit like a case of, ‘cheer up love etc’, which I loathe.

And as Baggs rightly says, it’s bad manners in itself

Ashcombe Thu 20-Oct-22 07:01:20

I like to talk to cashiers, most of whom respond politely and I try to show an interest in their day by asking, “Have you had an early start?” (5.00a.m. is typical at the larger branch of Lidl which opens at 7.00 a.m) or “It’s busy today but I guess that makes the time pass more quickly for you.”

Over time, I've heard many positive facts about Lidl as an employer. Apparently, they pay above the minimum wage, offer decent sick pay and a pension scheme and staff say they like the fact that they're not just on the tills all day but are expected to move from that to shelf stacking, unloading deliveries, etc., as the need arises.

Allsorts Thu 20-Oct-22 07:16:42

I’ve always worked with people and never been rude, you could be the only person they speak to all day. I should think that rude cashier was either in the wrong job or having a bad day, but that shouldn’t excuse rudeness. To be polite and friendly helps everyone, why be different?

LovelyCuppa Thu 20-Oct-22 07:57:34

They may not necessarily have meant it to be rude. If they haven't been out all day they are just taking your word on the weather.

Lucca Thu 20-Oct-22 08:32:47

Storm in a teacup ?

MawtheMerrier Thu 20-Oct-22 08:46:14

biglouis

Perhaps then I should stop remarking on the weather when the Tesco person or the courier delivers. I would not like to do one of these jobs but surely its more pleasant when people are friendly. Its just an ice breaker.

Or maybe I should just snatch the parcel and slam the door in their face. Im expecting a courier tomorrow so maybe Ill ask him/her.

Bit of an over reaction Biglouis ?
Poor shop assistant’s shift may have started at 7 and I am sure we can all remember those days when we went to work on the dark, came home in the dark and felt like moles, hardly coming up for light, Monday to Friday!
Mind you we Brits do like to comment on the weather don’t we. It’s a sort of default greeting.
My non-English speaking friends find it quite hilarious when people state the obvious about the weather!
So I would put it down to 1) how she said it or 2) possibly an unhappy lady and live with it!

Joseanne Thu 20-Oct-22 08:56:20

During the

Serendipity22 Thu 20-Oct-22 09:00:23

I get what you mean but if that were me, i would view it various ways, they may have problems in their life, sadness, I would also take into account how their reply was said, my mum always said "Its not what you say its how you say it."

As long as I know I was pleasant with someone I wouldn't look negatively at their reply, like I have always said Be kind, we don't know what others are going through.

smile

Joseanne Thu 20-Oct-22 09:02:37

During the wonderful summer there were quite often exchanges with the cashiers like,
"Lovely day!",
"I wouldn't know" or "It had better last until my day off."
Almost like saying, "it's alright for some!"
In life words just tumble out of people's mouths without thinking. I wouldn't be offended and I'm a stickler for proper manners.