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I think that I'm officially dowdy!

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Daisymae Tue 25-Oct-22 13:56:12

Watched a TV program yesterday and one of the characters was an older, down trodden lady. Guess what? I actually own two of the outfits she was wearing. One had been teamed with a sage green cardi, I hadn't thought of it, looked quite good so I'm in the lookout for one to complete the look! There's me thinking I'm on trendgrin

Daisydaisydaisy Thu 27-Oct-22 12:39:23

Hi there.

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Dartmoorgal Thu 27-Oct-22 12:44:02

I only disciver

Dartmoorgal Thu 27-Oct-22 12:46:32

I only discovered this look this summer- I think I look fabulous in my pretty Seasalt flowy frocks and my Superga gold trainers plus a pink M and S denim jacket. You should try it. Trendy and comfy!

lizzypopbottle Thu 27-Oct-22 12:47:05

I gave up wearing trainers, many years ago, when I had Achilles tendon problems. The back of the shoe aggravated them. I know there are low rise trainers available these days, arch support, anti-pronating, negative heel etc. etc. but I don't miss trainers, or the cost of them. Except in winter, I wear Sainsbury's little, navy blue, lace up pumps at £9 a pair, with an arch support because they are absolutely flat. My feet are beginning to feel the cold now.

I was brought up to regard white shoes, especially Minnie Mouse stilettos, as 'common'. My mother could be pretty bigoted about a lot of things (was your mother like that, LRavenscroft?), also including obvious eye liner ("face like two burnt holes in a blanket"), large buttocks in tight trousers ("like two boys fighting in a sack") and she would comment quite audibly which was embarrassing for anyone walking with her. I was also brought up to regard small feet as feminine. So I can't get past the look of clompy, white trainers on anyone, whatever their age. I can't help it, they just look ugly to my ingrained, mother led prejudices... but good luck to anyone who wears them. In the words of Mama Cass (Cass Elliot) "Make your own kind of music. Sing your own special song, even if nobody else sings along." (Paloma Faith made a great, up beat cover that plays in my car!)

Actually, my feet are not particularly large at UK size 5/5.5 and I was trying to sell several pairs of barely/unworn shoes at a car boot sale. All the women who walked by had feet much too big to consider my cast off shoes. Women's feet have been liberated!

Saggi Thu 27-Oct-22 12:47:15

Calf -length dresses with white trainers…. I love it also ….it is fashion. The fashion now…..would not be without a pair of spotless white trainers.

Amalegra Thu 27-Oct-22 13:10:06

I wear pretty much what I’ve always worn and if people don’t like it, fine by me! Don’t do the low necklines, really bodycon dresses now but I love my skinny jeans/ t shirts, etc. I do follow fashion but only if I like it and I think it suits me. Too high a heel is out unless a special occasion though! I think some of the fashion touted these days is in fact VERY dowdy and I wouldn’t be seen dead in it!

nipsmum Thu 27-Oct-22 13:10:22

I don't care either way . At my age I am comfortable in what I wear. After wearing uniform all my working life, I wear what I like and to hell with what people think of the way I look. No one has ever commented to my face that I look dowdy or anything else, not even my daughters

fluttERBY123 Thu 27-Oct-22 13:34:06

Quote from somewhere. "She's rich enough to be dowdy." She doesn't need to prove anything

greenlady102 Thu 27-Oct-22 13:34:49

I think that I officially dont give a flying fig

Happysexagenarian Thu 27-Oct-22 13:47:04

These days I barely have the energy to get dressed at all let alone co-ordinate my wardrobe!

I like colourful clothes but I have never followed fashion, I just wear what appeals to me and what I'm comfortable in. Usually that's trousers and loose longline tops. As I rarely go out it really doesn't matter what I wear as it's only DH that sees me. I'm definitely dowdy probably even scruffy. I really don't care.

Happysexagenarian Thu 27-Oct-22 13:47:58

Just realised how negative my response sounds, just having a bad day today.

rowyn Thu 27-Oct-22 14:07:51

I'm sitting here, in my sage green cardigan, Daisy Mae, and will concede that I might look dowdy, but will most certainly not equate that with being downtrodden.

I really don't care what others think of my appearance, as long as I haven't put something on inside out, or not fastened my buttons properly. At my age, I want comfortable!

rowyn Thu 27-Oct-22 14:10:06

PS and I've just discovered that the elastic in my trousers is not as elastic as it should be - now that's something that I will have to rectify!!

Elizabeth7 Thu 27-Oct-22 14:21:48

I am glad now the children have left home I can wear what I want. Some days I wear black trousers and a dark coat. That is when I mean business!
Other days I wear a gold coat and have leopard print boots and hand bag! I feel great, playful and not dowdy. I enjoy colour therapy and wearing pinks, greens and blues.
When it is heavy rain I have a waxed dark green jacket.
A while back I caught my reflection in a shop window and realised I was stooping. Now I straighten up and walk confidently. I would hope that everyone wears what they like and not worry about other people. After all the young women wear such close fitting leggings and tops they show every lump and bump!! Not a good look!! LOL I remind my OH to take his blood pressure pills!!! smile

MerylStreep Thu 27-Oct-22 14:35:59

doesnt matter what I wear as it’s only DH who sees me
How sad ?

Wyllow3 Thu 27-Oct-22 14:42:29

Another one discovering the excellent fashion idea of white trainers with summer wear (no sock please except those liner socks) I wear trainers 99% of the time (more or less always have, tho have some nice summer sandals for "best")and my feet are happy look good feet for my age.

In fact, the clincher was my DGD age 6 for first time commenting on my wear. "that's neat! ( current compliment?) when she saw the Adidos tennis type trainers.

I'm pretty much a trousers and jumpers and jersey tops person - but they are pretty and often bold colours.

No offence beige person but - NO!

I know it "goes" with everything but.....

I think the shopping trolleys in the picture are fab. I don't need them yet, but, wow way to go!

Wyllow3 Thu 27-Oct-22 14:44:50

I do need to find an equivalent of the white trainers for winter tho. I have neat black trainers but they aren't quite the same as the summer equivalent.
Not quite a doc Martin person so this needs some thought...

NotSpaghetti Thu 27-Oct-22 14:55:09

Marilla - I have that busty problem too. So easy to look on the frumpy side with it! ?

I have a wedding to go to and recently tried on some fabulous dresses from Bombshell - they all fitted really well but... my enormous bosom gringringrin

Missingmoominmama Thu 27-Oct-22 15:20:34

My 35 yr old son told me I was too old to wear cardigans ironically.

I told him I don’t really care! grin

kittypaws49 Thu 27-Oct-22 15:29:38

We often stop off at the supermarket on the way back from our smallholding ( think feeding animals and birds, gardening etc ) and I'm always in muddy, scruffy old clothes, the women on the tills must think, if they notice, that I don't have any decent clothes. Sometimes feel that I ought to explain why I'm dressed like that. Talking of shopping trolleys, I use mine a lot and don't care what people think, I'm 72 and need it. And yes, I wear flowery dresses and white trainers sometimes, why not ?!

rockgran Thu 27-Oct-22 15:37:13

I aim for clean and tidy = anything else is a bonus.

Daisymae Thu 27-Oct-22 15:38:41

I don't actually think that I am dowdy, it's that the costume department of the TV program do. Think Seasalt, Poetry, Landsend. I don't really do bright colours though!

Sarah74 Thu 27-Oct-22 15:58:48

Wyllow3

I do need to find an equivalent of the white trainers for winter tho. I have neat black trainers but they aren't quite the same as the summer equivalent.
Not quite a doc Martin person so this needs some thought...

There are some quite neat boots around, Wyllow - like these ones in Seasalt - not as clumpy at Doc Martens - that look good with midi dresses

Musicgirl Thu 27-Oct-22 16:11:06

I am smiling to myself as I am wearing a sage green cardigan today but it suits me. It is teamed with a Seasalt long top with a poppy design. Most of the time, I wear black trousers or leggings with colourful tops and cardigans. Red and gold are my favourite colours. I generally have a fairly bohemian look as my favourite footwear is Red Or Dead Ziggy. Seasalt, Fat Face and Joe Browns are my favourite brands. My hair is its natural, original colour. I always wea jewellery; usually a necklace and a brooch. I am wearing two brooches today - a harp brooch on the left and a pair of spectacles brooch on the right. I have never looked right in scarves and I think they can look very ageing anyway. I have used a shopping trolley for years.

Barmeyoldbat Thu 27-Oct-22 16:45:34

Sarah74 I have pair of those black boots, bought them as this years footwear with everything I wear. It’s trainers all summer and then ankle boots. after a trip into Glastonbury the other day I was pleased to see that all the women had flowing while hair like mine and men with a pony tail like Mr B.