Embarrassed ourselves with good friends.

Well done both of you. As you say it was both of you who made it an argument, both apologize. Done and dusted!

Thank you everyone for such thoughtful replies. Our feeling was that the right thing to do was call around with flowers on our way out with the dog and you all pretty much confirmed our feeling that it was the right thing to do. It's true DH brought the issue up so the initial blame was his but it wasn't a men thing at all. No one else did anything wrong...except me. If I had closed the conversation down immediately there would have been no issue so both at fault really. Meryl Street is right. We have dropped off the flowers and our lovely friends were fine. Quite surprised to see us and assured us evening wasn't spoilt at all. As they said ,we've all know each other too long to worry about little incidents so all well. Thank you all for your support and wise advice. I definitely feel happier for not having just left it wondering what they were thinking. ?

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I agree with NotSpaghetti although your DH could be the oe to apologise for bringing the subject up.

I'm sure it will all blow over

Exactly.

I think that even though it takes two to argue, you (and obviously your husband) should basically eat humble pie here and be the ones to apologise.

I wouldn't start apportioning blame by saying "the men" got overheated. I'd expect my husband to apologise first and I'd join in.
I hope your husband can do this with you.
If not I'd do it alone but wouldn't excuse him.
I expect he is also mortified by now too so fingers crossed.

I would do it now though. Don't put it off. The sooner the better.

I’m a great believer in, Let sleeping dogs lie ?

I agree with NotSpaghetti although your DH could be the oe to apologise for bringing the subject up.

I'm sure it will all blow over

One person may make an inappropriate comment but it takes two to turn it into an argument. If they were my close friends I would just ring and say what a lovely time I had and say something like 'I bet you weren't expecting fireworks at the end, I hope that didn't put a damper on your evening'.

A lot depends on your husband - if he's the sort to get over it and have a laugh about it it makes things easier. If he's sulking that everyone was against him it could be much harder.

Best to approach with caution. Maybe get the other lady on her own, woman to woman, say you really enjoyed the evening until the ‘men’ got over excited or something. Take flowers, a cake or whatever to smooth things over and see what she says.

To add to my comment, I think the OP and husband should call in when on a walk, just to say something along the lines of we should not discuss that subject, so sorry about that, you are our good friends and we do not like to upset you.
Coffee and biscuits all round then I hope.

Goodbyetoallthat that is so true and made me smile.
I like your name, and it is the title of a very good book too, as am sure you know.

I agree that an apology is in order & that it probably was not as bad as it seemed to you at the time.
As an aside I really don`t like the phrase " I don't suffer fools gladly".
Who is a fool? Someone who holds a different opinion to you?

I agree, merylstreep. Good, long-time friends ought to be able to disagree about stuff without it spoiling the friendship. Had alcohol been consumed? If so, people should bear that in mind and make allowances imo.

It’s been my experience in these situations that we view the situation far worse than the onlookers.

I agree with notspaghetti as well, your husband needs to go round with the flowers or both of you and apologise.
Don't let this disagreement spoil your friendship BrightandBreezy.

Drop by with the flowers your dog and an apology.

I do think DH needs to apologise personally here.

Sometimes, and I say this as somebody who has not always suffered fools gladly and had to apologise myself a few times, you have to bite your tongue.

Yes get your husband to apologise- don’t ruin a good friendship.

If you feel that an apology is necessary, doing so in person is best Imo.
You can be sure how they feel about the situation then.
Flowers would be the icing on the cake, so to speak.
I'm sure it will blow over when they see how upset you are also.

Agree with NotSpaghetti.

I think your husband needs to go and apologise in person.
It’s very bad manners to bring up a topic of conversation that you know will cause controversy.
I’m sure it will all be OK

Take flowers and say what a lovely time you had "until we spoiled it" towards the end.
Be remorseful (as you are) and I'm sure it will blow over.