AIBU unreasonable to hate the word posh?

Parents outdoing one another to see who could throw the best birthday party for their child at the hotel.
Competition like that isn't usually a sign of being posh, more like pushy and showing off.

SporeRB

I came from a country where there is no class system and I have difficulty recognising accents, so I have no clue whether a person is posh or not from their accents.

Many, many years ago, we went to Cyprus on a holiday. I told DH ‘Guess what, I have just spoken to an American lady!’ and he replied ‘She‘s Irish.’

It was a good class hotel and there was more drama in the 2 weeks we were there than in any hotels we have stayed in. Parents outdoing one another to see who could throw the best birthday party for their child at the hotel.

DH has a niece and nephew who went to Oxford and Cambridge university. We are not close to them.
You know they are posh because you cannot help but feel very uncomfortable in their company

I think feeling uncomfortable in someone’s company could be as much about you as them.

Does being poor (or not) preclude a person from being 'posh'?

My DD1 went to Oxford - she has not become anymore posh and we all feel comfortable talking to her.

SporeRB

I came from a country where there is no class system.
Where is that? I’d love to know.

And do you mean a country where no-one thinks they’re better than the next person just because they’re wealthier, ‘better’ educated or have a ‘better’ job and they have advantages because of those things?

Or do you mean a country where there is no overt label-claiming by people to be ‘working, middle, or upper class?

I came from a country where there is no class system and I have difficulty recognising accents, so I have no clue whether a person is posh or not from their accents.

Many, many years ago, we went to Cyprus on a holiday. I told DH ‘Guess what, I have just spoken to an American lady!’ and he replied ‘She‘s Irish.’

It was a good class hotel and there was more drama in the 2 weeks we were there than in any hotels we have stayed in. Parents outdoing one another to see who could throw the best birthday party for their child at the hotel.

DH has a niece and nephew who went to Oxford and Cambridge university. We are not close to them.
You know they are posh because you cannot help but feel very uncomfortable in their company

I'm not Posh. I've been poor all my life, brought up wearing hand-me-downs from older cousins, currently about 98% of my wardrobe is from charity shops but my parents taught me to be courteous speak nicely (although it's gone down hill a bit now as I swear and cuss more than I ever did). I'm also not as well educated as many are today. Due to speaking nicely I often had people thinking I was Posh. It never offended me. These days I find there are many other reasons to dislike something rather than being called Posh.

I'm with Sarah74 on this one!!!

Oh lordy, I was just watching a programme about Russion Oligarchs and their yachts. One fabulous one was shown and I'm afraid 'Crikey, that's posh' slipped out.

Not sure what that meant.

Joseanne

Thinking about it, maybe prople can be posh without bring "snobbish".

Definitely Joseanne

Posh and snobbish are two totally different things/attitudes.

I think Hyacinth Bucket was snobbish as were Margot and her husband in the Good Life

The actress who played Margot appeared in To The Manor Born, the character she played was posh

Thinking about it, maybe prople can be posh without bring "snobbish".

Isuppose it depends what kind of area, housing or open countryside.

The word which gets me is "naice" to describe an area. I equate it with people who can't spell.

Posh to me is both cringeworthy and a word used by people who for whatever reason, believe that folks who earn a load of money, live in a leafy street in a million pound mansion and spend £16,000 a term for their child's schooling, are somehow better than them and someone to aspire to be.

That's not me, then.

Apparently I talk posh, dress posh and have posh values! What does that mean? I haven't the foggiest, and equally have no idea if these descriptors are an insult or a compliment(?)!

Keffie12

Posh I have found is used usually in the class system. No I don't like the word. I find it for me very common

But the word common is definitely used in the class system.🤣🤣🤣

A term which I find hilarious and indicating foolishness and snobbishness is “high end”

Posh is ok used in a lighthearted way,but not a word I use very often. I don’t really like the term ‘high end’ mainly because we have a friend in our circle who constantly goes on about everything she buys being very ‘high end’ it’s become a bit of a joke now, its as though she thinks we all buy a load of cr.p!

I’m going to say sprauncy from now on.
I use posh a lot! Everyone understands what I mean. Something to admire or emulate, sometimes out of my price range.
. But if the posh person is a snob (another English gem) then it’s not a compliment. Viz being defensive about sending your kids to a private school.

To me posh is a compliment something I like, but don’t always want as it is invariably beyond my standards and the maintaining of it too much. It is not always cosy which I like better. I have an accent in particular on the telephone. I am often told I sound posh. I definitely take that as a compliment and know it is meant to be as I have asked the question several times

I don’t mind the word at all but then I’m not posh and don’t personally know anyone who is.

Posh I have found is used usually in the class system. No I don't like the word. I find it for me very common

yes! me too.

I'm sorry, I can't stop laughing. The more I read the word "posh" the funnier it sounds!

Just me then? I'll get my coat

greenlady - if you look back you will see a great link posted by M0nica about this. You may be interested.
It sent me down a rabbit hole that's for sure!
Fascinating.

I gather it’s wrong. Just something I was told as a child Never mind