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Hetty58 Wed 23-Nov-22 12:24:43

Sparklefizz, I'm instantly suspicious of that type of post, so I signpost them to local agencies and charities for help. Why would they beg on social media?

Ziplok Wed 23-Nov-22 12:23:19

I’m rather sceptical when it comes to this sort of thing. I’d rather donate to a food bank or a well known charity than give to random strangers.

nanna8 Wed 23-Nov-22 12:15:33

Yes! I paid for this lady who was buying bread and cakes and said she had no money. The shop lady told me she did the same thing all the time and she had a Mercedes parked up the road. I wasn’t too upset because I thought maybe in her mind she needed it and you’d have to be a bit weird or desperate to even ask!

Sparklefizz Wed 23-Nov-22 11:13:50

I belong to my local group Nextdoor, and there have been a couple of posts from people asking for things, eg. a woman saying she has no birthday presents to give to her son and can people donate, and another person saying their daughter is moving into a flat and can't afford any furniture and asking for a bed, sofa, etc.... all the basics.

These people may be genuine or they may not. Hard to know, but I got caught out many years ago when my daughter was a toddler and we were extremely hard up. I had just walked back from the shops in the rain with my daughter in the buggy when there was a knock at the door and a woman was standing there with a toddler not wearing a coat in the pouring rain. They were soaked.

She asked me for some clothes for her toddler and I felt so sorry for the little girl, so I suggested she come back in 10 minutes while I sorted out some of my daughter's clothes. I gave her a large bagful which we couldn't really spare but I couldn't bear to see that poor wet little girl.

Then I watched them walk down the road and get into a new car and drive off! confused

Since then I am very wary of requests.

Anyone else been caught?