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Do you go to funerals?

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Oopsadaisy1 Sun 18-Dec-22 11:53:35

We go if it’s family and stay for a cup of tea afterwards, if it’s a friend we just go to the funeral and then come on home.

If we can get out of going at all we will.

I wouldn’t appreciate somebody I didn’t know turning up to a family funeral and staying afterwards to eat, drink and socialise.

Smileless2012 Sun 18-Dec-22 11:49:49

Condolences for the loss of your friend Kateflowers.

nanna8 Sun 18-Dec-22 11:48:49

I go if I knew the person well, otherwise not. I don’t like them at all though sometimes afterwards you catch up with old friends you haven’t seen in a while so I guess that is a small positive.

Kate1949 Sun 18-Dec-22 11:40:28

Funerals are horrible. The thought of going when you don't have to is beyond me. We went to one two weeks ago. A friend of mine of over 30 years. It made my husband finally decided that he's not having one. He said 'I'm not putting people through this'.

HeavenLeigh Sun 18-Dec-22 11:26:41

It does seem a bit strange to me,that’s the last thing I’d personally want to do, but each to their own I suppose, I only go to people I was close to or family funerals, it wouldn’t really enter my mind to just turn up

timetogo2016 Sun 18-Dec-22 11:21:34

Well it gets him out of the house for a while.

Farzanah Sun 18-Dec-22 11:21:12

Concentrates your mind on your own mortality I suppose.
I wouldn’t expect non family or those not close or known to the deceased to turn up at the bun fight afterwards 🤔

hollysteers Sun 18-Dec-22 11:14:36

In Ye Olden Days, people employed professional weepers to pad out the mourners.
Maybe your husband should be paid and start a new career!

Grandmabatty Sun 18-Dec-22 11:02:12

I go to funerals of family and friends. Did you go to your friend's funeral? Maybe he was keeping you company.

Luckygirl3 Sun 18-Dec-22 11:00:38

An unusual hobby! smile

kircubbin2000 Sun 18-Dec-22 10:59:13

I only go if its a close relative but since he retired my ex goes to 2 or 3 every week.
This week he went to one of my old school friends funeral although he couldnt remember her name and had never met her.
He also had 2 others to go to where he met some people he hadn't seen for about 40 years. I suppose it's a social thing in a way as there is usually a cup of tea etc afterwards but I find it a strange thing to do.
I always thought he would join u3a or take up a new hobby but I suppose everyone is strange in their own way.