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A friend suffering with depression

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sodapop Fri 27-Jan-23 17:39:50

Absolutely agree with Oopsadaisy & Pascal keep sending chatty messages and let your friend know you still care about her even if she can't respond at present.
I hope your friend recovers soon LRavenscroft

FannyCornforth Fri 27-Jan-23 13:36:36

Yes, you’ll be doing the right thing.
Even if she doesn’t reply, she will appreciate knowing that you are thinking of her.

She probably doesn’t know what to say; or thinks that you won’t want to hear what she does want to say.

Depression makes you feel worthless, she might feel that she isn’t worth your friendship.
It also makes you say dreadful things to your inner self, if you know what I mean.

You sound like a lovely friend

pascal30 Fri 27-Jan-23 13:24:26

You sound like a lovely,caring person I'm sure that she'll find comfort even if she isn't able to respond. Depression is ghastly

LRavenscroft Fri 27-Jan-23 13:13:55

Thank you both very much for your response. I'll keep up the messages to show her that I care.

pascal30 Fri 27-Jan-23 11:46:25

I think this is the time she most needs to be reminded that you care about her and are thinking of her. I would accept that she is ill and can't keep contact but continue to send her regular short messages telling her you care until she is able to respond. And bear in mind that depression can last for some time.

Oopsadaisy1 Fri 27-Jan-23 08:55:32

Can you send her weekly/ monthly emails? Just a friendly chatty one about your day to day doings, that let her know that you are still thinking of her?

Hopefully when she gets better she will look back and see that you were still there for her, it might make it easier for her to get back to a normal friendship with you.

LRavenscroft Fri 27-Jan-23 07:54:37

Hi. Just wondering what other people would do? I have a friend in the US who is suffering with clinical depression and IBS. She doesn't seem to be as forthcoming in the friendship as she was, no Facetime chats for about 9 months, no Christmas gifts by post. I really feel for her but am not sure if there is anything more I can do to keep the friendship alive apart from respect her boundaries and lack of communication. She seems to be drifting away. I still keep in touch for birthdays, Easter and Christmas on FB but do feel for her.