I've lost my cleaning mojo

doodledog I read anaemia and though iron, I will ask for an appointment and have it all checked

nadateturbe

Callistemon
It was a while before realised not everyone did and I didn't have to do the same.

One of the things I like about GN, discovering it's OK not to do things.

I think I realised about 50 years ago nadateturbe 😂
My nephew's joke was "Here comes Nana with her magnifying glass and her duster!"

Callistemon
It was a while before realised not everyone did and I didn't have to do the same.

One of the things I like about GN, discovering it's OK not to do things.

VioletSky

Doodledog

Have you had your B12 levels tested? I also had Graves, and one autoimmune condition makes having others more likely-I also have Pernicious Anaemia. When my jabs are due for that it feels like someone has taken my batteries out. It’s way beyond tired. Maybe ask for yours to be checked (it’s just a blood test) as the injections make a huge difference.

My iron is always low no matter what I do

I'll ask about both, thank you

PA is not about iron levels though. It is an inability to absorb B12 because your body doesn't produce something called Intrinsic Factor. If you have it, the symptoms are many and varied, and people get different combinations of them. The most common are fatigue and insomnia although there are all sorts of other ones. It is quite common, and more likely in those with pre-existing auto-immune conditions.

VioletSky are you running a hotel? I "Deep clean" very rarely, usually it's enough to vacuum and dust the rooms we are using on a weekly basis and I have a dog. Windows get cleaned every couple of months or less and paintwork gets cleaned when I notice the fly sh!t. I have removeable covers on the sofas in the "dog" room, covered by matching throws. Throws get washed quite regularly as they get covered in dog hair and the covers get washed once a year. Give yourself a break and just do some things you enjoy and make you smile!

I also , used to be a domestic goddess !

The house would be immaculate - cleaned from top bottom everyday with flower arrangements too .

Now at 70 , I struggle with every day chores

This decline really started about four years ago with a knee injury .
It stopped me walking at pace and getting up the stairs easily .
My asthma worsened .
This year , I've had a kidney infection followed by a nasty fall now I have a virus which might be the new Covid variant .

My New Year resolution was to blitz the house .
I'm trying hard .

Yesterday was an example of how I'm slowly achieving it .
I promised myself a nice programme if I did a couple of hours of tidying .
Admittedly , after an hour I was struggling but I did it !
And it will be the sane today .
Promise yourself little treats .
Baby steps ... little by little .

People who are constantly cleaning and tidying because of an excess of restless energy do not create a relaxed environment.

Comments are definitely making me smile lol

I set myself the target of the downstairs hallway today and now have a sparkling entrance, it did feel good...

I was thinking 1 room deep clean every 2 weeks but after the comments, flexible lol

If I get it done straight away, I'll have 2 weeks to relax and enjoy

Thinking about this again- if I have to lose the Mojo for anything- cleaning would be the best one to let go

My mother used to say that the dust would be there long after she had gone. Housework is a boring task and after a lot of effort can need redoing the next day... and on and on!

Maybe your 'inner housewife' has finally gone on strike! Don't be tyrannised by needing things to be a specific way. Why not find things that you really enjoy doing and bring you satisfaction, to use your time. Join Spotify and explore music, look at art galleries online, get an Audible sub etc.
Guilt is such a waste of time. It only makes one feel bad and nothing changes.
Did you consider getting a cleaner occasionally. I have one who comes for a few hours in a month. Money very well spent.

could you concentrate entirely on yourself and give yourself lots of healing treats.. massage, yoga, country walks, manicure, facial, meditation, painting, drawing etc anything that you enjoy and just ignore the house for as long as it takes for you to start feeling some joy in life again... housework really isn't important in the scheme of things but you are...

Yes, your body and mind is saying you can't take on the weight that you were carrying.

And maybe that if you are not "useful" or "helping" then you have less worth or won't be liked.

It can be scary to let go and if you have spent a lifetime being the strong one then its hard to talk to people who know you in that persona.

But there are people out there with whom its OK to be vulnerable with, but it doesn't come quickly or easily. Nothing wrong with a period of withdrawal and getting help instead of being the giver.

Life has been a lot lately, there is just a lot happened or happening. Bereavements and struggling friends and family members and some times things are taken on me because I'm just stoic.

I am always the strong one, I'm always the one who never cries, always good in a crisis, always the one who just gets whatever it is done. I'm always the one who forgives until I get pushed too far, always the one who bounces back.

I think maybe I just need to fall apart a bit sometimes and I dont know how to do that and maybe my body is trying to tell me so

But I can't just exist, I'm always doing something with my brain or my body

I don't know, I don't talk to people close to me because there alway seems to be something others are already dealing with

foxie48

I've made the decision that any energy that I have is for things I enjoy doing or will help to keep me fit and strong. Housework doesn't come into that category. I'm fortunate to be able to have a weekly cleaner and I just do odd jobs during the week whilst listening to a podcast. OH does more than his fair share round the house too. I hardly ever switch and iron on!

So agree. Life is too short and I am allergic to ironing.

Thirty odd years ago I had a breakdown caused by overwork and stress. I was depressed and lacked any energy. It took a time to get over but after awhile I I bought myself some drawing and painting equipment. My dh has said so many times how he will never forget seeing me absolutely absorbed in front of an easel in the garden. I looked so happy and peaceful. My home has drawers and cupboards that need sorting etc etc. But you know there will still be things that need doing when I have shaken off this mortal coil. I do what is needed and I cook decent meals which we enjoy. Other than that my home is covered in paintings of my grandchildren doing various things from babyhood to adults, family and friends, holidays, flowers et etc. Art of any kind from sketches with a pencil, irrespective of talent, is recognised as a valuable aid to recovery for health problems.
Just look around you when you go for a walk or look about your home and just appreciate the arrangement of everyday items. See things with fresh eyes. I so wish you well and hope your mojo will return very soon in some way or the other.

I've made the decision that any energy that I have is for things I enjoy doing or will help to keep me fit and strong. Housework doesn't come into that category. I'm fortunate to be able to have a weekly cleaner and I just do odd jobs during the week whilst listening to a podcast. OH does more than his fair share round the house too. I hardly ever switch and iron on!

Ive always had a policy that if I dont enjoy it and it doesnt bring me money then it probably isnt worth doing. I loath housework as boring and a waste of time. Thats why I have a cleaner 2 mornings a week.

I dont admit casual visitors and if I do they take the place as they find it. If they dont like it I will quickly point to the door.

Im a very orderly person and put things back where I found them - especially anything to do with business. Other than that I hardly touch the place.

Life still goes on.

Doodledog
When I was first diagnosed with pernicious anaemia my then Dr knew that I needed the injection x monthly.
My new practice didn’t like that at all as the majority have it 3 monthly. I still have it x monthly. 😊
I know someone who’s Dr won’t give it x monthly so she pays a private Dr to have another injection.

Hi Violet.

I have a lovely cleaner. it means the energy I do have is spent on nicer things. (Combination of quite bad CFS and depression).

You don't have to see it as "forever".

There's enough to be getting along with keeping tabs on the other everyday things one has to do.

Doodledog

Have you had your B12 levels tested? I also had Graves, and one autoimmune condition makes having others more likely-I also have Pernicious Anaemia. When my jabs are due for that it feels like someone has taken my batteries out. It’s way beyond tired. Maybe ask for yours to be checked (it’s just a blood test) as the injections make a huge difference.

My iron is always low no matter what I do

I'll ask about both, thank you

PinkCosmos

VioletSky - I did not appreciate that you had suffered mental health issues when I wrote my earlier response. It was not mentioned in the original post

I am sorry if I may have come across as flippant.

No!

Please don't worry

I'm just finding it hard to know what's going on these days as I think I'm at the age my hormones are on the way out in general

My mental health doesn't seem too bad but physically it is reminding me of being very depressed and not having any energy. Especially when I'm energetic at work or helping friends etc

It's a strange one

VioletSky - I did not appreciate that you had suffered mental health issues when I wrote my earlier response. It was not mentioned in the original post

I am sorry if I may have come across as flippant.

Germanshepherdsmum

You used to dust every day? I feel faint … 😱

😂😂

Have you had your B12 levels tested? I also had Graves, and one autoimmune condition makes having others more likely-I also have Pernicious Anaemia. When my jabs are due for that it feels like someone has taken my batteries out. It’s way beyond tired. Maybe ask for yours to be checked (it’s just a blood test) as the injections make a huge difference.

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