My mother would never have claimed to be much of a cook, although she baked a good cake. My older sister was born in April and me in August so our two birthday and Christmas were evenly spaced through the year and there was a Christmas-type rich fruit cake for each occasion. After I'd had a birthday party once when I was still quite little Mum said one of my friends' mothers complained that children don't like rich fruit cake but she replied quite rightly that nobody had told her two that. We would have mutinied otherwise. I remember sponges with jam, lemon curd and/or butter cream, butterfly cakes and various tarts. There was a well-thumbed and dog-eared copy of the Be-Ro book in a kitchen drawer.
Sundays was always a roast; lamb or beef mostly, pork less often and chicken only an occasional treat, in summer I think because when I think of it I think of new potatoes and fresh garden peas which I enjoyed helping to pod. Otherwise it was mashed potatoes, brutally-boiled veg and Bisto gravy, often with lumps in. I still can't hear With A Song In My Heart without feeling a little queasy! There would be pudding to follow; a steamed pud or a fruit pie or crumble (rhubarb, blackcurrants or gooseberries from the garden in season, oh joy!) with custard, maybe rice pudding, maybe banana custard.
Sunday tea would typically be a salad of lettuce, tomato, sliced hard-boiled egg, cucumber with tinned salmon, tinned sardines or whatever was the tin of the week; tinned peaches or pears usually with sterilised cream, which I wouldn't eat, but occasionally with ice cream. There was always bread-and-jam, cake and tea to wash it down.
Midweek tea when dad got home from work would have been cold leftover roast with chips or mash on Monday, often fish on Tuesday because that's when the fresh fish van came round, otherwise variations on egg, sausage, fish fingers, luncheon meat with chips or mash, or maybe beans on toast. Plus bread and jam, cake and tea of course.
Grandparents don't really register with me on the food front. All three of the grandparents I knew were in their 60s by the time I came along, and they lived a hundred miles away which in pre-motorway days was a long trek in a hired car through Liverpool, Preston and Lancaster (there's a reason why Preston and Lancaster got very early motorway bypasses) or by train. I can't remember eating at my Grandma's (dad's side) except that she did toast on the toasting fork (or "forking toast" as I once put it and was never allowed to forget) in front of the fire, which I thought was really cool (the act, not the toast or the fire). At Nanna and Granddad's the food was much as I described for Sundays at home. Their house smelled of a mixture of boiled cabbage, boiled washing (Nanna had a dolly-tub and mangle complete with dolly-peg and posser, if any of you remember those), Granddad's pipe and outside privy. It's one of those unforgettable smells I can conjure up any time. Oh, and they were inordinately fond of sago and tapioca pudding with the tinned fruit, which I wouldn't eat. I wouldn't eat the crusts of my bread and butter either. They told me if I didn't eat my crusts my hair wouldn't curl but that was a dirty rotten lie – I take after my mother hairwises and had thick, naturally wavy locks much to the disgust of my big sister who inherited dad's thin, straggly hair!