Do you offer help or give it?

I offer,you can`t step on peoples feet that way.

I'd love it, but I live alone, there is no one who could get upset like a partner..

Very case by case, isn't it?

So in different situations, different approaches?

kittylester

I would be horrified if someone came in and cleaned my house top to bottom like my friend's other friend did.

My friend would never be disloyal enough to say what she felt but I imagine she was quite taken aback.

I'd love it. Sick or well. Anyone that feels they want to do this is very welcome.

Cleaming someone's house and doing the ironing is in whole different league to emptying the dishwasher!
The cleaning/bed changing and so on smacks of rude and invasive.

Depends on who it is.
I just help at the various family houses as they do here - if the dishwasher needs emptying it doesn't really matter who does it. We have stayed at AC houses while they have been away on holiday and I have cleaned then but wouldn't on a day-to-day visit.

With friends and neighbours I'm more of an offerer along the lines of 'I'm going to Sainsbury's on Friday morning. Can I get you anything?' Or 'I'll be cutting the grass tomorrow, shall I do yours while the mower is out?' I find specific offers tend to be taken up more than vague ones.

I would hate someone to come in and clean my house. My sister's friend came to water her plants while she was on holiday once. When she came back her friend had done her ironing, putting it away in wardrobes. Very intrusive.

I would be horrified if someone came in and cleaned my house top to bottom like my friend's other friend did.

My friend would never be disloyal enough to say what she felt but I imagine she was quite taken aback.

I do offer help, tending to suggest jobs rather than 'is there anything I can do', but I wouldn't dream of muscling in and doing anything not asked for! For instance, my 92 year old neighbour has been very poorly and weak with shingles, so I have offered bed changing, laundry, cooking, driving to GP, shopping etc. She is usually very independent but is now comfortable with requesting these things.

I am also fiercely independent and can be very difficult to help! The only help I would seek if ill or hospitalized would be cat care. I have a printed instruction sheet with the supply of their food and medication just in case!

I will offer help willingly and have done so on many occasions. I have taken on too much in the past but I do like to help it’s natural to me. Some people won’t ask for help and it’s difficult to persuade them to accept help. Just being an ear to listen to worries is my approach just be there for support.

Please send the house cleaning good friend, my way….. 😁personally, think it was a lovely thing to do

I am an offerer. However, my colleagues to complain that I was killing them with kindess!

However, I am very bad at refusing offers of help.

I took up an offer of help when I was on chemo. Some cooked food from a friend. I offer help but my reach is limited because I spend my whole life helping family.