If anyone has been turned down by a rescue charity it’s for a very good reason in the best interests of the animal. Unfortunately people seem to think they should be entitled to adopt a homeless animal no matter what their circumstances.
No, I don't have a sense of entitlement. We were ready and willing to offer a home to a Newfoundland pup. We knew what we were doing, and met all the criteria (2 gardens, both at home, experience with large dogs, no children etc. I was in my late 50s and my husband early 60s). We'd seen him on the local shelter website, phoned to ask about him, and filled in the forms. We were told that someone would come out after Christmas (this was a few days beforehand) to check the house and interview us as potential owners, and that he was ready to come for an initial visit as soon as they reopened after the holidays. When the day came we were very excited (we had bought a bed, and I'd even saved some leftover chicken as a treat for him) and rang the shelter to arrange to collect him, only to be told that he had spent the past weeks with another family to see if they were a good fit, and he was staying with them. We had been kept on the back burner in case it hadn't worked out, but never mind - they had a lovely older staffie who could go that day. I was so disappointed. We didn't want an older dog, didn't want a staffie, and we'd been lied to.
My daughter and her partner wanted to adopt before getting her current dog. It would have been a first dog for both of them. There were no children, but the assessor felt that they might have them (they were in their late 20s). They both work full-time. They have a small back garden that is more of a yard.
They were rejected, and got a dog from a breeder. But:
They were both brought up with dogs and are very used to them - their dog is extremely happy and well cared for. They volunteer at a dogs' home on a scheme run by their work, so deal with all breeds and varying temperaments.
My daughter and her partner work in the same place, so were able to arrange their hours in the office to ensure that at least one of them is in the house at all times. Surely the vast majority of young couples work, anyway? Are shelters only willing to look at benefit claimants and the retired?
Their house backs onto a field, and is round the corner from a canal - their dog has plenty of space to run around and has two long walks a day. They are planning to move anyway - again, something that people of their age do. They have put a garden at the top of their wishlist for a new house.
My daughter may have children one day, but may not - these things are not always predictable, are they - for anyone? If she does, the dog will be as much, but no more of a risk than any other dog when a baby joins the family. It will be up to her to protect the baby, as with any other mum in the circumstances, but her dog is happy around children. We had a dog when she and her brother were born, and there were no issues - there is no reason to suppose that it would be different for her.
I can't help feeling that the shelter lost a chance to rehome a dog who would have had a good home with my daughter, and there is no chance that we will ever go to the one who lied to us about 'our' puppy again, or donate to their regular requests for money. Maybe they don't care - it could be that they have enough people wanting dogs - but the news is full of stories about 'lockdown pets' being abandoned now that people are back at work.
(I am talking about two different shelters in two different areas of the country)