No more kisses, I cannot stand it, it has to stop!

I find the whole bloody country wears its heart on its sleeve these days……can’t watch a tv programme without someone starting to cry or waiting/encouraging someone to cry. I now turn off. All the kisses and ‘bless you’s ’ are part of the same disease.

That channel is the funniest!

m.youtube.com/watch?v=w4nRIw_ATJA

I add xxx's with personal texts and social media messages to friends but would never do that with someone I do not know, or in a business capacity.

Quichette I can remember that phrase being used that way in my childhood in London, given my family background, I wonder whether it originated with Irish immigrants to the US.

On 'Aw, bless'. It dates back to at least the 1990s. I first heard it when I was telling someone something about my mother, probably around 1995, and their response was 'Aw bless' said in that patronising manner. It was the first time I had heard the phrase and it made my hackles rise. My mother was someone with a busy social life, still travelling abroad for holidays and generally on top of life.

There are videos in translating southern US english

They are pretty funny

In the southern U.S. states, "bless your heart" means "you are a complete idiot, aren't you".

How did this "Aw, Bless". catch on in this way, I wonder? When someone says it to me, I cringe and walk on, feeling 100 years or more!

Well, my DH recently contacted our decorator about a forthcoming overhaul to our house and accidentally put a heart emoji at the end! He hastily re-messaged him to explain it was a case of "fat fingers". Said decorator was highly amused

Foxygloves

Actually though I do find “Bless” rather patronising especially when it’s when I forget my PIN or can’t get the automatic check out to work.
Or like whenI picked up my last courtesy car - a rather racy white Audi 3 , the “bless” punctured my trendy supergran image.

I really felt annoyed when I saw a different GP and she kept saying "Oh bless" to me.

She misdiagnosed me too.

Bijou

I object to strangers, children and trades people calling me by my Christian name instead of Mrs...... Nowadays even sites like Amazon say Hello E......
when I was young we never even knew people’s forenames.

I work in health care in a patient facing role and always use Mrs, mr, miss as some patients don’t like us using their first name . However we had to use first names if we have patients with the same surname , although we check the dob .
The problem with Mrs, miss is that some women object to it. We can’t win 🤷‍♀️

Lots of people don't think of them as kisses, just a standard way to sign off an email.

Also, many people think 'lol' means 'lots of love' rather than 'laugh out loud'.

I wouldn't let it worry you!

Foxygloves

Actually though I do find “Bless” rather patronising especially when it’s when I forget my PIN or can’t get the automatic check out to work.
Or like whenI picked up my last courtesy car - a rather racy white Audi 3 , the “bless” punctured my trendy supergran image.

You got an Audi 3 as a courtesy car?

I'm impressed. We were only offered a 'low-budget' vehicle. It was so tiny. And orange.

Dickens

Baggs

This is a chat forum and I initiated conversation, why isn’t it enough to say you think xxx at the end of an email is positive and “ bless you” is endearing.

But what if one doesn't think xxx is positive and that bless you is endearing? What if you just think they are not worth noticing or 'minding' about even on a very low level?

What if you think live and let live so long as something isn't mean?

But what if one doesn't think xxx is positive and that bless you is endearing? What if you just think they are not worth noticing or 'minding' about even on a very low level?

What if you think live and let live so long as something isn't mean?

Then you just say so. As you did.

... without suggesting that the OP has a 'problem' or doesn't have 'a life'.

Which, as you say, Dickens, is what I did. I wasn't rude, just straightforward.

Baggs

*This is a chat forum and I initiated conversation, why isn’t it enough to say you think xxx at the end of an email is positive and “ bless you” is endearing.*

But what if one doesn't think xxx is positive and that bless you is endearing? What if you just think they are not worth noticing or 'minding' about even on a very low level?

What if you think live and let live so long as something isn't mean?

But what if one doesn't think xxx is positive and that bless you is endearing? What if you just think they are not worth noticing or 'minding' about even on a very low level?

What if you think live and let live so long as something isn't mean?

Then you just say so. As you did.

... without suggesting that the OP has a 'problem' or doesn't have 'a life'.

Oops I may have put these (the door one certainly) on the wrong thread.
Bless 😱😱😱😱🥊🥊

Actually though I do find “Bless” rather patronising especially when it’s when I forget my PIN or can’t get the automatic check out to work.
Or like whenI picked up my last courtesy car - a rather racy white Audi 3 , the “bless” punctured my trendy supergran image.

Oh dear Sago that has happened to me before now too - a light hearted, tongue in cheek thread title was taken seriously and overthought.
It should be possible without signalling with “light-hearted” but sadly perhaps your and my SOH is not shared by all.
Cheer up, it made me smile and no way led to stressing about Mormons, Jehovah’s Witnesses, gypsies with lucky white heather or brush salesmen 🤣🤣🤣

Baggs wanders off wondering what the polite way of saying something is grumpy is.

N.B. Some thing, not some one

Then there are more polite ways to express your feelings.

This is a chat forum and I initiated conversation, why isn’t it enough to say you think xxx at the end of an email is positive and “ bless you” is endearing.

But what if one doesn't think xxx is positive and that bless you is endearing? What if you just think they are not worth noticing or 'minding' about even on a very low level?

What if you think live and let live so long as something isn't mean?

Sago

*OP here* Wow quite a reaction, this was meant as a light hearted post.
I don’t need to “ get over myself” I am aware of all the problems in the world etc etc.
This is a chat forum and I initiated conversation, why isn’t it enough to say you think xxx at the end of an email is positive and “ bless you” is endearing.

"get a life"
"get over it (or yourself)"
"what's your problem"
"sad" or "saddo"

All part of the current lexicon used by those who want to discredit or invalidate someone whose opinion rankles.

It was pretty obvious that you weren't declaring this a major-league problem, just one of those things that grate and irritate.

OP here Wow quite a reaction, this was meant as a light hearted post.
I don’t need to “ get over myself” I am aware of all the problems in the world etc etc.
This is a chat forum and I initiated conversation, why isn’t it enough to say you think xxx at the end of an email is positive and “ bless you” is endearing.

The Pope blesses people all the time 🤪

silvercollie

Oh dear, what is your problem, Sago? These people are only trying to be friendly for Heavens sake!
Bless you XXX

These people are only trying to be friendly for Heavens sake!

Are they? Do you think they would put little kisses on their communications with their superiors - politicians, their bank manager; do you believe they'd say, "aww, bless" to their surgeon, their MP, or any other high-profile public figure - or even to a member of the RF?

I really doubt it - it's creeping over-familiarity, unprofessional and patronising. It's 'teenage'-Facebook-speak... and I don't like it either.

So there. And suggesting people have a "problem" because you don't share their opinion - is rude.