No more kisses, I cannot stand it, it has to stop!

I object to strangers, children and trades people calling me by my Christian name instead of Mrs...... Nowadays even sites like Amazon say Hello E......
when I was young we never even knew people’s forenames.

undines

Surely there are far worse things in personal interactions to contend with than kisses and blesses. It's just people trying to be nice - get over it!

There will always be "far worse things" in personal interactions... many of us have probably already experienced some of them.

But why should that prevent anyone from commenting on more minor irritations? Is there some yardstick by which we have to measure our annoyances and not comment if they fall below the bar?

That's the nature of 'chat' on SM sites - we can natter about things that are fairly inconsequential, maybe just for the heck of it... we don't have to focus on the serious stuff continuously - do we?

I recently had an email from a utility company that started "Hi hun" . I must admit I thought it was unprofessional

One of the good things about Gransnet is that it serves to remind you how different good manners are even in two countries that geographically quite close.

Here in Denmark, no-one would ever add kisses to a business e-mail, and if anyone did by mistake and a complaint was made by the recipient to the firm, boy! would there be trouble!

Back when businesses and government offices started using e-mails, most firms made templates that you had to use. If they did not use templates, they issued guide-lines that had to be followed, as the e-mail was a business communication.

So the problem with xxx = kisses hasn't arisen here. They are not commonly used in letters, either, except sometimes by children in the past, when children wrote letters to their grandparents. I have never received a letter from a close Danish friend with kisses, only from close British ones.

A medical professional who was over-familiar would be complained about too, here.

In my experience, people who say "Bless him/her" when he/she isn't around usually mean completely the opposite!

Coco51

’Bless you’ is a comment I hear frequently in Norfolk. It is a term I feel indicates kindness. As to kisses, it can be comforting to people who are having a tough time and to show you care about them, even if they are strangers.

There is a lot of room for compassion in our society, why is it so offensive to people here?

I'd someone says "Bless or Bless you" then I'd cringe inwardly but I wouldn't say anything. Although as a po says it's the patronising tone it's usually said in that I dont like.

Not appropriate unless I have sneezed or the person saying it is a vicar other minister of religion.

BlueBelle

…..And I m not your hun

Or "you guys". Example - a waiter/waitress asking "are you guys ready to order" . "Are you ready to order" is enough.

’Bless you’ is a comment I hear frequently in Norfolk. It is a term I feel indicates kindness. As to kisses, it can be comforting to people who are having a tough time and to show you care about them, even if they are strangers.

There is a lot of room for compassion in our society, why is it so offensive to people here?

So much going on in the country and the rest of the world right now and people are getting wound up by a few x 🙄 xx

NS, I second your thought to the letter. 👍

Surely there are far worse things in personal interactions to contend with than kisses and blesses. It's just people trying to be nice - get over it!

It could be a lot worse lol! My husband and I were crossing a road , looked both ways ,all clear ,when a car flew round the corner at speed , the driver pulled up and told us we were too old to cross the road on our own . My husbands reply was "You'll be dead before us , wrapped round a tree , the way you drive. Let's hope so , well all be safer " Rather nasty , but to the point. The driver just sped off cursing to the sound of bystanders applauding .

here y`ar Grammar Grandma and everyone..

xx

what a sad place we have become.

Aww bless them 😉 it could be worse … x

I agree "Seadragon" I hate the continental.type kissing on both cheeks from strangers . I do not mind being blessed as I've led a terrible life and could do with it ! Seriously it is patronising. I don't like being patronised because of my age . I joined the library of my former university as an external borrower recently .The librarian was incredibly patronising, she explained the Dewey system to me and told me to go and browse and cone back to ge shown how to take books out on the computer system. Little did she knew I used to be a professional librarian and set up the computer system in the college I used to work at. I didn't say anything but checked my books out when she wasn't looking , and made a mental note to go to the other librarian next time who treated me like a fully functioning adult.

No kisses on emails unless to immediate family, or very close friends. Not appropriate when communicating with strangers, or even people we deal with on a professional basis. I’d be very surprised if , for instance, my plumber ended his emails with x. A bit like hugging people that you’ve just met for the first time.

NanaDana

Yammy

Blondiescot

Who is ranting? Everyone's entitled to their own opinion - personally, I would see it as a lack of professionalism to receive an email from someone such as a councillor which signed off with kisses, so that might lead me to question their professionalism in other areas too.

I agree. Kind regards if you have had a lot of communication with someone otherwise .Yours faithfully or sincerely.

Please fully read the opener. The writer quite clearly states : "While I am ranting".. So that's who is ranting.. Q.E.D.

Not very good at reading I usually skim. Your doing the ranting repeatedly telling us to read.

I grew up thinking 'bless' was something people said in relation to simple people... not sure why but it has stayed with me. So if someone says 'bless you' to me I assume I've done something stupid.

Kim19

My aversion is the very flippant and robotic 'love you' tagged on to the end of (mostly telephone) conversations. Ugh!

They do it on the radio all the time. The presenter has just spoken to this person for 10 secs and he/she doesn’t say ‘goodbye’ they say ‘love you’ 😫😫😫

Our French friends kiss you. However, in our part of France it’s the norm to kiss twice on each side of your cheek! Really not great when all the family are present it can take an absolute age when all welcome you in this way!

Quite frankly I have more to worry me

Since moving to Essex snd I wonder if it is a geographic thing ? I get ‘Bless Ya’ at least twice a day from strangers, it makes me cringe!

One of my old managers finished a phone call with “love you”. Of course it was a mistake but funny.

Doesn’t bother me one iota - though I’d think it was very odd if I got kisses o the end of an official letter

I must be a very intimidating battleaxe, as no-one tries to bless me.