No more kisses, I cannot stand it, it has to stop!

Whinging about "minor irritations" disqualifies the 'minor' part and just shows someone to be irritable/grumpy.

'Course.... if that's the impression someone wants to give....

I'm completely with you, Sago. People I hardly know put their crosses at the end of whatever they have said - thoughtless, hollow and meaningless.
The only time I put kisses after my name is to my little grandchildren because I DO kiss them whenever I see them - so it is truly 'ersatz' !
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It does seem a little disrespectful tho when a much younger person speaks to us in such a way. I do chuckle when the butchers young assistant calls DH “ my mate “ 😀

I like kisses, and kissing, and cuddles, and holding people in my arms...This is the way I grew up, and the way I like to be.

but would never put x or xxx, unless I meant it as such. I have occasionally put an 'x' on messages to people I don't know on GN, because of the nature of the message and situation.

But would never expect it in message from local councillor, or any non personal situation.

Of course we have many worse things to be concerned about, as we all know, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t vent our much less important gripes on this forum.

I reserve kisses on texts and emails for close friends and family. I sometimes stop and think after typing one to decide if it's appropriate and sometimes end up deleting especially if it's to a man in case they take it the wrong way!

As for 'Aww Bless' it usually only seems appropriate in response to something relating to a small child or where an adult has done something inappropriate and is unaware, in which case it would be said about them not to them! I don't tend to use the expression myself but know people who do.

Hithere

Same as religious people putting references to God in every situation- i learned to ignore it

Religious people don't always do that.

Oh dear, what is your problem, Sago? These people are only trying to be friendly for Heavens sake!
Bless you XXX

My sister and I don't even put a kiss at the end of our messages, but people who I don't know that well always stick a couple on at the end of theirs.

Some messages are set up with kisses and signatures. Sure it was a mistake on her part. Move on.

silvercollie

Oh dear, what is your problem, Sago? These people are only trying to be friendly for Heavens sake!
Bless you XXX

These people are only trying to be friendly for Heavens sake!

Are they? Do you think they would put little kisses on their communications with their superiors - politicians, their bank manager; do you believe they'd say, "aww, bless" to their surgeon, their MP, or any other high-profile public figure - or even to a member of the RF?

I really doubt it - it's creeping over-familiarity, unprofessional and patronising. It's 'teenage'-Facebook-speak... and I don't like it either.

So there. And suggesting people have a "problem" because you don't share their opinion - is rude.

The Pope blesses people all the time 🤪

OP here Wow quite a reaction, this was meant as a light hearted post.
I don’t need to “ get over myself” I am aware of all the problems in the world etc etc.
This is a chat forum and I initiated conversation, why isn’t it enough to say you think xxx at the end of an email is positive and “ bless you” is endearing.

Sago

*OP here* Wow quite a reaction, this was meant as a light hearted post.
I don’t need to “ get over myself” I am aware of all the problems in the world etc etc.
This is a chat forum and I initiated conversation, why isn’t it enough to say you think xxx at the end of an email is positive and “ bless you” is endearing.

"get a life"
"get over it (or yourself)"
"what's your problem"
"sad" or "saddo"

All part of the current lexicon used by those who want to discredit or invalidate someone whose opinion rankles.

It was pretty obvious that you weren't declaring this a major-league problem, just one of those things that grate and irritate.

This is a chat forum and I initiated conversation, why isn’t it enough to say you think xxx at the end of an email is positive and “ bless you” is endearing.

But what if one doesn't think xxx is positive and that bless you is endearing? What if you just think they are not worth noticing or 'minding' about even on a very low level?

What if you think live and let live so long as something isn't mean?

Then there are more polite ways to express your feelings.

Baggs wanders off wondering what the polite way of saying something is grumpy is.

N.B. Some thing, not some one

Oh dear Sago that has happened to me before now too - a light hearted, tongue in cheek thread title was taken seriously and overthought.
It should be possible without signalling with “light-hearted” but sadly perhaps your and my SOH is not shared by all.
Cheer up, it made me smile and no way led to stressing about Mormons, Jehovah’s Witnesses, gypsies with lucky white heather or brush salesmen 🤣🤣🤣

Actually though I do find “Bless” rather patronising especially when it’s when I forget my PIN or can’t get the automatic check out to work.
Or like whenI picked up my last courtesy car - a rather racy white Audi 3 , the “bless” punctured my trendy supergran image.

Oops I may have put these (the door one certainly) on the wrong thread.
Bless 😱😱😱😱🥊🥊

Baggs

*This is a chat forum and I initiated conversation, why isn’t it enough to say you think xxx at the end of an email is positive and “ bless you” is endearing.*

But what if one doesn't think xxx is positive and that bless you is endearing? What if you just think they are not worth noticing or 'minding' about even on a very low level?

What if you think live and let live so long as something isn't mean?

But what if one doesn't think xxx is positive and that bless you is endearing? What if you just think they are not worth noticing or 'minding' about even on a very low level?

What if you think live and let live so long as something isn't mean?

Then you just say so. As you did.

... without suggesting that the OP has a 'problem' or doesn't have 'a life'.

Dickens

Baggs

This is a chat forum and I initiated conversation, why isn’t it enough to say you think xxx at the end of an email is positive and “ bless you” is endearing.

But what if one doesn't think xxx is positive and that bless you is endearing? What if you just think they are not worth noticing or 'minding' about even on a very low level?

What if you think live and let live so long as something isn't mean?

But what if one doesn't think xxx is positive and that bless you is endearing? What if you just think they are not worth noticing or 'minding' about even on a very low level?

What if you think live and let live so long as something isn't mean?

Then you just say so. As you did.

... without suggesting that the OP has a 'problem' or doesn't have 'a life'.

Which, as you say, Dickens, is what I did. I wasn't rude, just straightforward.

Foxygloves

Actually though I do find “Bless” rather patronising especially when it’s when I forget my PIN or can’t get the automatic check out to work.
Or like whenI picked up my last courtesy car - a rather racy white Audi 3 , the “bless” punctured my trendy supergran image.

You got an Audi 3 as a courtesy car?

I'm impressed. We were only offered a 'low-budget' vehicle. It was so tiny. And orange.

Lots of people don't think of them as kisses, just a standard way to sign off an email.

Also, many people think 'lol' means 'lots of love' rather than 'laugh out loud'.

I wouldn't let it worry you!