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No more kisses, I cannot stand it, it has to stop!

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Sago Sat 22-Apr-23 19:11:39

I’ve just liaised with a local councillor on line.
We have never met, I have never spoken to her in person and she signed off with a kiss.

Why do people and I assume she is reasonably bright think it is appropriate to use kisses at the end of texts and emails?
She is about 50!

Whilst I am ranting the other thing that has to stop is “Bless You” I bought a new phone the other week the sales assistant “blessed” me about 20 times, I think I’ve got a first class ticket to heaven.

I don’t want to be blessed or kissed, I want it to stop.

Am I being unreasonable?

choughdancer Sun 23-Apr-23 18:56:57

I quite often say 'bless you', but in response to someone being very kind, definitely not because someone is old. I don't know where it came from as I can't remember anyone in my family saying it.

3nanny6 Sun 23-Apr-23 17:56:58

It seems the thing to do today and many times I get oh bless you in conversation. Probably once your over 60 people think it's amazing you can still get out and about.

Grandma70s Sun 23-Apr-23 17:34:09

I have a friend who often says “Bless her/him” when referring to old people. Quite odd, because she’s 76 herself.

Nannashirlz Sun 23-Apr-23 16:49:55

I only put xxxx to family or close friends and if someone sends them to me I send them back but all I can say is wouldn’t it be boring if we all did the same. Think you’re over thinking about something so small

Ailidh Sun 23-Apr-23 16:41:11

Don't get kiss texts on official letters but the older I get the more, "Bless you!"'s I get, usually prefaced by an "Aw!"
I find it utterly patronising, as though the blesser thinks I'm a jolly gallant old stick.
They're never religious blessings, at least, not as far as I know. Just admiration for what the poor old gal has managed to do today. I'm 67.

NotSpaghetti Sun 23-Apr-23 16:36:54

Kim - I agree.
Totally devalues something precious.

AGAA4 Sun 23-Apr-23 15:52:11

Kisses only for friends and family who are the only ones I would be that close to. Would be very odd if I kissed a business associate who I hardly knew so no written kisses to them either.

MaizieD Sun 23-Apr-23 15:39:12

I'd never dream of sending xxx's to anyone who I has never met and who wasn't a friend or relation. I don't even do it to one friend who dislikes physical contact. It's just devaluing a loving gesture.

I've not noticed the blessing in my part of the world; either no-one says it, or I'm oblivious to it. I'd use it occasionally about someone who's being a bit precious or exceptionally naive but it's definitely meant to be sarcastic..

I'm intrigued by 'kind regards'; where on earth did that come from? It's so meaningless... who is going to sign off with 'unkind regards'? Can 'regards even be kind? But perhaps that's a topic for Pedants Anonymous grin

NanaDana Sun 23-Apr-23 15:19:41

Yammy

Blondiescot

Who is ranting? Everyone's entitled to their own opinion - personally, I would see it as a lack of professionalism to receive an email from someone such as a councillor which signed off with kisses, so that might lead me to question their professionalism in other areas too.

I agree. Kind regards if you have had a lot of communication with someone otherwise .Yours faithfully or sincerely.

Please fully read the opener. The writer quite clearly states : "While I am ranting".. So that's who is ranting.. Q.E.D.

Farzanah Sun 23-Apr-23 14:42:10

Lol is much more annoying.

Callistemon21 Sun 23-Apr-23 14:36:23

Grandma70s

I was taught never to use ‘kisses’ (the xxx sort), not even to people I loved. I think my parents thought it vulgar.

Oops, too late, just posted a vulgar birthday card, sent with love and xx 😁

NanaDana Sun 23-Apr-23 14:21:35

Blondiescot

Who is ranting? Everyone's entitled to their own opinion - personally, I would see it as a lack of professionalism to receive an email from someone such as a councillor which signed off with kisses, so that might lead me to question their professionalism in other areas too.

Err, if you actually read the opener in question, the writer actually says " "Whilst I am ranting"... Q.E.D.

JaneJudge Sun 23-Apr-23 14:12:38

I sometimes do it on accident, maybe I need to be shot x

Yammy Sun 23-Apr-23 13:48:56

Blondiescot

Who is ranting? Everyone's entitled to their own opinion - personally, I would see it as a lack of professionalism to receive an email from someone such as a councillor which signed off with kisses, so that might lead me to question their professionalism in other areas too.

I agree. Kind regards if you have had a lot of communication with someone otherwise .Yours faithfully or sincerely.

Jackiest Sun 23-Apr-23 13:46:21

My husband had a friend and she always ended her messages with two kisses. They meant nothing it was just her way of ending a message. I suggested that he ended his message to her with two kisses which he did. He never got any more kisses after that.

Blondiescot Sun 23-Apr-23 13:27:25

Who is ranting? Everyone's entitled to their own opinion - personally, I would see it as a lack of professionalism to receive an email from someone such as a councillor which signed off with kisses, so that might lead me to question their professionalism in other areas too.

NanaDana Sun 23-Apr-23 13:18:02

Wow! Much ado about nothing. If you don't like it, just ignore it and move on. Rant? What on earth for?

Grandma70s Sun 23-Apr-23 13:07:18

I was taught never to use ‘kisses’ (the xxx sort), not even to people I loved. I think my parents thought it vulgar.

Sago Sun 23-Apr-23 12:53:24

timetogo2016

I can`t see what the problem is tbh.
Bless is a nice word and a X on a txt doesn`t mean anything really.

Maybe that’s my problem “ it doesn’t mean anything”.

Yammy Sun 23-Apr-23 11:14:50

It irritates me as well. In fact, I don't like being kissed by anyone except very close family. I was brought up in a family who never kissed not even at weddings or people were going away.
When younger, poor DH was known as the man with the wife who froze when kissed.
I still find it difficult to write one but I will reciprocate if someone sends one to me. I have actually got better at doing it since joining Gransnet where people are friendly.
I would never end a formal letter with a kiss.

maddyone Sun 23-Apr-23 11:04:39

It’s all harmless. I don’t let it bother me.
I don’t end business emails with a kiss though.

Kim19 Sun 23-Apr-23 11:01:51

My aversion is the very flippant and robotic 'love you' tagged on to the end of (mostly telephone) conversations. Ugh!

pascal30 Sun 23-Apr-23 10:57:12

timetogo2016

I can`t see what the problem is tbh.
Bless is a nice word and a X on a txt doesn`t mean anything really.

me neither.. my local coucillor puts a X too. I think it's just a lovely community thing.. I rather enjoy being called lovely and getting blessings from these young people and often by bus drivers.. It makes life more pleasant

silverlining48 Sun 23-Apr-23 09:53:07

But the tone of Aw bless’ is usually, if not always, patronising when used by a younger person to an older one.
Its not a problem but is annoying.

timetogo2016 Sun 23-Apr-23 09:44:31

I can`t see what the problem is tbh.
Bless is a nice word and a X on a txt doesn`t mean anything really.