I have driven for 50 years, passing my test in London and 3 weeks later drove to Yugoslavia. Have lived abroad and travelled all over and still feel I am an alert and organised driver. I even took an optional test drive for older drivers and got a very good result. I have spent 10 years , 3 days a week, doing volunteer hospital car driving , taking patients to and from hospital mostly from a very rural area. (For which you have to have a clean driving license and be crb checked ) The observations I would make to people are these. Firstly, I have found so many women end up not keeping up with their driving especially when their husbands retire. Secondly, the assumption that it is a good idea to keep the bigger car if there were two, is definitely to suit the man. I encourage all women to drive at least a couple of times a week, to keep up their confidence and that it is important that they feel comfortable in whatever car they have. So rather than keeping a car that suits the husband but can feel a strain to drive if you are shorter, to do a part x and find a car that suits them both. I also think women need to drive on their own or with other friends and that way you keep up your confidence and belief in your ability to travel anywhere , as you have done for years. It may seem to be a kindness when the husband offers to drive you to the shops etc, but that sets a trend that they are the main driver and may say oh they will do the m ways etc but we all need to keep up our skills. on all sorts of roads and conditions. Also you do notice some men see driving as their job to sort of fill that gap when they retire. And dont allow them to tut sigh or make comments when you are driving. If they do , return the compliment the next time they drive and when they complain , say ditto. or alternatively suggest that they might like to sit in the back, shut their eyes, or take a taxi!!! This is not just being stroppy. As others have said , no one knows what might happen. There may be eye problems or someone has a stroke or an illness that means they can no longer drive. It is not important which partner is in that position. what does matter is that the other person can drive competently and therefore not add that as an extra strain if they need to drive to or visit someone in a hospital. The same goes for living in rural areas. You need to look to the future and decide how you will manage without a car, if you might move and make some plans. I put my money where my mouth is, and whilst I still drive everywhere I have moved into a town where there is a train station and good bus connections should I get to a stage or something means I can no longer safely drive. To me independence is the most important thing. I have been independent all my life, have no doubt made many mistakes over the years but for as long as possible I plan to carry on living in this way and being a confident driver happy to go anywhere , with ability to check the car over, although now I would not choose to change a tyre myself but obviously I belong to RAC , have a garage that I trust to do jobs and look ahead to think what might need doing etc so that I am not trying to organise something in a rush. So I do think it is good to just on your own , look at your pattern of things you do, what you would not be able to do without your own transport etc. Look at the things you would be prepared to give up and the things that matter more and work out how you would be able to continue going, so sharing transport, paying for fuel etc . But most of all for anyone whose partner has not retired yet do look ahead and have a talk to each other as to how you see things might change. There are several people I know who have been very happy to pack up the car and say that they have worked out different ways to do things, and have made a note of the total cost of running their car and then put that as an amount per month that they are prepared to spend on taxis etc. To make a big change is something that needs acknowledging and preparing for , but to me the importance is you both getting to an agreement as to what would be best for you and going on from that.