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You’re never going out looking like that?

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Foxygloves Wed 31-May-23 07:30:53

How many of us had that ringing in our ears in our teens when our Mum or Dad saw us dressed to go out?
I remember my mums insistence that I change out of my jeans, tucked into knee length black suede boots which I was wearing with my snazzy little leather bomber jacket -if I wished to accompany her into town on a shopping trip. (Dear Mum did tend towards the Ladybird Peter and Jane school of dress for shopping. )
I cannot imagine what she would have made of this style statement.
But I am happy to say neither my father nor DH would have even thought about walking the dog dressed like this. Carrie really needs to have a word.

Grandma70s Wed 31-May-23 10:02:26

My mother never objected to what I wore, but my professor (head of department when I was a young university lecturer) used to tell me not to wear such short skirts. I thought ‘Silly old man” - he was about 45 - and went on wearing exactly what I liked. It really wasn’t his business.

My sister in law had a very dictatorial father. She used to change her clothes in a telephone box once she was out of his sight.

Aveline Wed 31-May-23 10:09:25

My parents never said outright that they injected to anything I was wearing but I do remember seeing them deliberately swallowing any objection. They did well. I remember wearing some appalling things eg a jet black nylon wig or my red leather hot pants!
Cheap and nasty huge fake eyelashes to a severe Church of Scotland service one holiday was a particular low point. I must have looked like a 14 year old pantomime dame. confused

Aveline Wed 31-May-23 10:09:41

Objected not injected!

vintage1950 Wed 31-May-23 10:17:20

In the early 1970s I did a year's placement as an assistant teacher of English in Austria. A teacher (male, middle-aged and the father of four girls) objected strongly to my parka because the hood was trimmed with fake fur, and it was summer. I said I couldn't remove the fur trim, so he actually took the parka from me, tugged at the fur, and said I was quite right, it was stitched into the seam!

Marydoll Wed 31-May-23 10:23:26

I should have stressed my post was "tongue in cheek*. DH is his own man and usually does what he likes!

Foxygloves Wed 31-May-23 10:29:42

Siope

He’s an adult. Why on earth is what he wears his wife’s responsibility?

I couldn’t care less what he - or anyone, including my husband, children and grandchildren - wears. It doesn’t harm anyone, or affect my life in the slightest.

And I can’t believe that in 2023, anyone believes that what an adult man wears is a matter for his wife to co

Oh lighten up Siope !

Callistemon21 Wed 31-May-23 10:44:50

He's so cute!! I love him!!
Shaggy-haired and sweet.
I want him 🙂

Foxygloves Wed 31-May-23 10:49:43

Dilyn I hope gringrin

Mollygo Wed 31-May-23 10:55:24

Callistemon21

He's so cute!! I love him!!
Shaggy-haired and sweet.
I want him 🙂

I haven’t read the whole thread, please tell me you mean the dog!

Callistemon21 Wed 31-May-23 10:59:22

Who else 🤔

Oh 😲 did you think I meant Boris?
No, I only have eyes for Dilyn

eddiecat78 Wed 31-May-23 11:14:10

My mother once watched me ironing some jeans prior to an evening out and informed me I would never get a boyfriend if I didn't wear a nice dress. I was about to spend the evening with a group of Young Farmers - I've been married to one of them for 45 years

Auntieflo Wed 31-May-23 11:15:12

Marydoll my DH belongs to the 'anything goes' type of apparel. I think he is colour blind, particularly the last couple of days. Doesn't take any notice of my comments, but I suppose after nearly 62 years of marriage, I have learnt to live with it, and him. 😍
My friend and their two daughters used to stand at the bottom of the stairs on Sunday mornings, and chorus, "you're not going out like that, are you?" to her DH, when on the way to Church.

Callistemon21 Wed 31-May-23 11:19:46

Marydoll

Yesterday, DH and I went for a run down the coast and DD asked me to send a photo of DH, to check his attire.
He is well known for his lack of sartorial elegance and he has a tendency to favour black everything.

After a few suggestions from me and a change of clothing, he was reasonably presentable and was allowed out. 😉

😁

Marydoll
DH often says "You'd better tell me if this matches before we get to the front door"

He sometimes reminisces about a boss he had years ago whose wife apparently used to lay out the clothes she wanted him to wear while he was in the shower.

Siope Wed 31-May-23 11:19:59

Oh lighten up Siope !

I wrote a whole long, sarky answer, but it’s not worth it. In short, nope.

I dislike these inappropriate sexist assumptions about women and our roles and there is no reason I can think of not to challenge them whenever possible.

Callistemon21 Wed 31-May-23 11:22:19

Even on a fun thread?

Siope Wed 31-May-23 11:24:04

Apparently so!

Foxygloves Wed 31-May-23 11:32:28

I dislike these inappropriate sexist assumptions about women and our roles and there is no reason I can think of not to challenge them whenever pos

Yawn shock

Deedaa Wed 31-May-23 11:34:08

So scruffy old black fur coat that had been my grandmother's, paint stained jeans, Cathy McGowan hair and lots of eyeliner. Fortunately my mother had been an art student herself and didn't mind being seen out with one. Nowadays I just have DD saying "is that what you're going to wear?" which has me instantly wondering which bit I should take off!

GagaJo Wed 31-May-23 11:36:54

My bloke once said to me, 'Are you wearing that? It makes you look a bit lumpy.'

Then was shocked when I needed time to go upstairs and change! Never mind the fact he looked like he was wearing a grocers jacket!

Granmarderby10 Wed 31-May-23 11:55:41

TillyTrotter

The words I heard most often were “you’re not wearing those ridiculous heels out of the house” (as if I would have got them to wear indoors!
They were always wooden platform shoes and they made me 4 inches taller. Very fashionable in the 70’s and I had to travel on the train to Birmingham to buy them in Ravel.
I always wanted longer legs. I thought my father was just a spoilsport.

Oh yes the wooden clod hoppers😊 I blame Elton.
But the Oxford Bags and Flares were sooo long in the leg (couldn’t sew, still can’t) they really were necessary

For years, in my mind I was a tall women but in reality it is not the case, in fact I’m shrinking. ☹️

Our town was good then for shoe shops and I remember very well buying some platform leather two tone clogs from Ravel for a hideously high price. Must have been insane!

Clearly I thought I was the bees knees.

Davida1968 Wed 31-May-23 11:56:48

When I look at photos of what my DGD is wearing (& her makeup!) I have to remind myself of what I was wearing in the late 1960s & into the 70s.... Then I say nothing!

Esmay Wed 31-May-23 12:48:13

I used to rush out of the house before my mother saw me " "dressed like a bloody hippie / bohemian ."

If a boyfriend picked me up - it was so embarrassing .

I wasn't keen on sleeveless revealing dresses or mini skirts but long skirts complete with embroidery .

She hated them !

Years later , my children have had a lot to say about my appearance !

Jaffacake2 Wed 31-May-23 14:07:19

Long cheesecloth hippy skirt,skimpy top with lots of beads, Afghan coat and flip flops !! My dad was right when he said the cost smelt like an old host when it rained ! Happy teenage fashion years smile

Jaffacake2 Wed 31-May-23 14:08:32

Coat smelt like an old goat , must proof read before posting !

Primrose53 Wed 31-May-23 14:14:28

People like Boris who have confidence in themselves and are well educated and done a bit of travelling really do not care what people think they look like.

My friend comes from a very posh family, she is very well educated and bright and has travelled the world and she speaks with a cut glass accent. However, if you saw her out you would think what an old scruff she is. Most of her clothes come from charity shops, she cuts and dyes her own hair, her car is like a battered old skip but she couldn’t care less what people think of her. She owns 3 houses, 2 of which she rents out and has only worked a few years in her entire life as she lives off family money. She is quite happy just being herself and I’m sure Boris is too.