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Why do people lie?

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Hetty58 Sat 03-Jun-23 21:32:17

SueDonim, a relative makes up her own (pretty, calm, peaceful and innocent) version of events, past and present - then accuses me of false memories, says 'That never happened' etc. - I believe because she just doesn't want to face reality - all very strange. Yes, she'd make a brilliant whitewasher

SueDonim Sat 03-Jun-23 21:09:14

I know someone who lies a lot. I think they don’t really believe or understand that they’re lying. It’s almost wishful/fanciful thinking, that if they say it out loud, it must be true. Yet they’re also able to seamlessly turn 180 degrees on something, if they’re shown to be wrong.

Maybe they’ve missed their vocation and should have been a politician. 🤔

Debbi58 Sat 03-Jun-23 20:13:11

My pet hate is being taken for a fool. Never understand why people lie about the most random things . Are old neighbours were the same, a couple of years ago , we were thinking of downsizing . They were not happy at the thought of having new neighbours, why would you want to move from here they said , it's perfect blah blah. A couple of years later, they sold up , no sign put up , they never said a word until the removal van pulled up 🤷‍♀️

Shinamae Sat 03-Jun-23 20:12:55

I think you’ll find some people just can’t help themselves.I had a partner who was a pathological liar..🤷‍♀️

eddiecat78 Sat 03-Jun-23 20:08:29

We later found out from builders who had worked for them that the wife lied all the time. We felt they were taking us to be stupid as it was obvious we were likely to find out (the house was already advertised in the local paper when they were talking to us).
It doesn't bother me now at all but I am interested to know why some people feel they have to make things up when they could just say nothing if they don't want other people to know their business.

welbeck Sat 03-Jun-23 19:54:57

maybe they did love it and did intend to stay, but lost all their money or something that meant they had to go.
who knows.
does it really matter.
i wouldn't think twice about it.
it doesn't affect you at all; why feel they are taking you for fools.
strange reaction.

sodapop Sat 03-Jun-23 19:35:56

That was a very strange thing to lie about eddiecat78 they must have known you would find out the truth fairly quickly.
Some people just can't help themselves and lie because they want to impress.

Grandmabatty Sat 03-Jun-23 19:33:52

Not necessarily a lie. Perhaps their circumstances have changed.

eddiecat78 Sat 03-Jun-23 19:03:28

I don't mean the Philip Schofield type of lie - I mean when people lie for no reason.
We were once invited for coffee by a very wealthy retired couple who had moved in next door. They said they loved the house and the village and intended to stay for a very long time. That afternoon we discovered that their house was already back on the market. I felt they had taken us for a couple of total idiots