Someone taking photographs when you don't know

I agree Gingster as long as non of me are on social media.

Most photos I see of me at family events are awful, but who cares! It’s just a memory of the occassion

I don't like my picture being taken but as long as I know it wont be on social media I'm OK with it.

In a previous post the OP slagged off the whole family. I’m surprised she’s invited anywhere. Another fun sponge 😂

And as for someone taking unplanned pictures at a family birthday meal?
Whoulda thunk it? 🤔🤔

Foxygloves

@Norah OP does not say the pictures are necessarily of her but of her granddaughter opening her presents.
And the GD is not a child, but home from university so parental permission need not be sought - of course the pictures were being taken by her fathers partner - virtually her stepmother.
I wonder if this is at the heart of the issue? Some animus between OP and her sons partner?

I was happy to enjoy special moments with my lovely grand-daughter without someone imposing upon the situation

My lovely granddaughter
someone imposing
🤔

Some animus between OP and her sons partner?
Yes, I thought that the first time I read the OP, foxygloves

I bet you were a laugh a minute at this happy gathering.
Don’t worry, I don’t think you’ll be invited to another 😱

I rather got that impression as well Norah would you have felt the same way if your son was taking the pictures NaughtyNantheRed

Foxygloves

@Norah OP does not say the pictures are necessarily of her but of her granddaughter opening her presents.
And the GD is not a child, but home from university so parental permission need not be sought - of course the pictures were being taken by her fathers partner - virtually her stepmother.
I wonder if this is at the heart of the issue? Some animus between OP and her sons partner?

Noted, I read it as the OP was also in the pictures,

I jumped to my position, I dislike being in photos.

Sorry, I jumped wrong!

@Norah OP does not say the pictures are necessarily of her but of her granddaughter opening her presents.
And the GD is not a child, but home from university so parental permission need not be sought - of course the pictures were being taken by her fathers partner - virtually her stepmother.
I wonder if this is at the heart of the issue? Some animus between OP and her sons partner?

Unless the photos are being posted on FB or other social media sites then yes you are being unreasonable.

But if they get onto social media then you are well within your rights to ask them to pixilate the image of yourself.

It would be pretty unusual if photos hadn't been taken..

OP, maybe you could take to carrying a handheld fan, and learn the language of fans.
you could open it with a flourish to block your face at the first sight of photos being taken.

www.vogue.com/article/secret-language-of-the-fan-eighteenth-century-fans-de-young-museum

That said, we had a family picnic type gathering recently when our son and fiancée were over on a rare visit from America and I did ask around afterwards if anyone had any snaps - but not one of us took a single photo.
There were 12 smartphones there all day!
I think some families are just less snap-happy.

I do not expect photos/videos to be taken without the knowledge of the people in them (or, in the case of children, the parents/guardians).

I still feel cross about a video which was taken by my son's new sister-in-law on the first birthday of his little boy.
I bit my lip however - and have no idea what happened to it.
I do know my son doesn't have a copy.

Foxygloves

So basically OP is saying SHE has to give permission for her grand daughter’s father’s partner to take pictures of the girl opening her presents.
Controlling or what?

No, Foxygloves, her father could be polite and ask if anyone wished to be in photographs. I typically agree with you, not on this topic though, people are allowed to feel as they feel about photos.

So basically OP is saying SHE has to give permission for her grand daughter’s father’s partner to take pictures of the girl opening her presents.
Controlling or what?

There were no smart phones when I was a kid but I always deliberately scowled on family photos! Or put my hands over my face.

Callistemon21

^Yet I know I've read, here, people wondering at photos of only the toes of Harry's child, or the child's head covered?^

Harry's children are not my grandchildren.

Agreed.

My point was for whatever reason people seem to like photos. Many times someone is being invaded, nobody seems to care.

Yet I know I've read, here, people wondering at photos of only the toes of Harry's child, or the child's head covered?

Harry's children are not my grandchildren.

Today we expect photos to be taken at family functions

I'm the same re social media.I don't mind photos being taken but expect to be shown and asked before they are widely shared.Feel its only polite.But you do sound to be overreacting in this instance,

Most seem to think taking photos of others is normal or at least somewhat acceptable. Yet I know I've read, here, people wondering at photos of only the toes of Harry's child, or the child's head covered?

Are people actually entitled to photos? Of other people?

Disclaimer: I very much dislike photos.

biglouis
A different scenario altogether and totally irrelevant to the OP imo.