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ExDancer Mon 26-Jun-23 10:16:46

I was sorting my washing ready to load up and couldn't help smiling at the number of knickers that went into the white wash. When my Mum was a young girl she was only allowed one pair a WEEK will you believe? With 4 girls in the family plus mother, if they'd wanted a clean pair every day that would have been 35 sets to wash every week, not mentioning any extras for periods accidents etc.
And mentioning periods, they used strips torn from old sheets as pads and pinned to their underwear to soak up the bleeding
Aren't we lucky?

shysal Tue 27-Jun-23 17:23:16

We have gone full circle with the current popularity of washable period pads and pants. I used a Mooncup for most of my fertile life, and now in my 70s I use washable mini/teen pads as panty liners. I hated the thought of all those disposable pads and tampons going into landfill.
www.ethicalsuperstore.com/category/beauty-health-and-wellbeing/menstrual-care/reusable-sanitary-pads/

Jbp1 Tue 27-Jun-23 17:31:09

You will be so glad you did crazy
Money well spent imo.
And so comfy
The light /medium. You hardly notice a difference to normal undies.
Happy shopping 😃

Jbp1 Tue 27-Jun-23 17:33:28

Sorry missed out the H crazyH !

Riggie Tue 27-Jun-23 17:35:11

eddiecat78

Not long after I started my periods mum had a stay in hospital and I was running out of supplies while she was there. I was so desperate I walked from school (4 miles) to visit to tell her my predicament - I had no clue how to buy more. She said she would sort it and the next day more supplies - bought by dad - arrived. I was amazed that he would go into a shop and buy them, and appalled that he knew I needed them

Dad used to buy mine. We lived in a village so supplies were limited, Dad passed a pharmacy on his way to and from work (and he came home for lunch) so he did the honours.

Germanshepherdsmum Tue 27-Jun-23 17:35:24

I’m so glad I don’t need panty liners, an unforeseen benefit of an emergency c section I guess.

Bella23 Tue 27-Jun-23 18:05:15

My mum didn't have a back yard they had to cross the back lane to the loos and the cords[Washing lines ]went across as well. She soaked her towels in a bucket of salty water and then hung them on the line. My dad cycled to see her and nearly choked himself he was so busy looking at the washing he rode into the line.
My great-grandmother lived beside the sea and had a grocery shop. I have been told she walked along the tide line picking up rags took them home and boiled them and sold them to village women for sanitary towels. People asked for some of Mrs..specials.
In Cumbria, we had dish clouts and floor clouts and you got one on the back of the legs for being cheeky boy did it sting

sparkynan Tue 27-Jun-23 19:02:09

Modibodi produce washable underwear for periods and incontinence problems. Not cheap but should last few years.

lemsip Tue 27-Jun-23 19:15:37

I have wondered what ladies used way back in history andd searched on you tube....... there are many different films about these things.

nipsmum Tue 27-Jun-23 20:01:38

Oh I remember those days so well. I was the Youngest of 3 girls. I was told nothing about periods until they happened. I was then told it would happen every week and I was told Don't let any boy make a fool of you.That was it. It was terrible, I had no more information than that.

Hetty58 Tue 27-Jun-23 20:45:46

Lindyloud, weekly swimming lessons? We were allowed to miss them once a month. Of course, I was the unlucky one who had periods lasting longer than a week, so I often needed a note from my mother.

I was just given a booklet and told they were in the airing cupboard (luckily, I could ask my older sister). I was painfully thin and hated the belts and huge rectangular looped pads - as the bulges were so obvious. I lived in mortal fear of them leaking, so wore three or four pairs of knickers - just in case! Tampax? - no, not allowed.

rubysong Tue 27-Jun-23 20:46:01

We are so much luckier than our grandmothers but it would be nice to think we are getting beyond the disposable stage. I'm glad that my youngest DGS had cloth nappies. I stopped using disposable pant liners, for slight bladder issues, some years ago. I made pads (the same shape as the disposables) from a few layers of flannelette and stitched them into the gussets of my pants. They are very comfortable. Thankfully the pelvic floor exercises are working and the dribbles are very few, so the pants can just be washed as normal.

Primrose53 Tue 27-Jun-23 20:49:32

My daughter buys period pants from M and S and says they are great. Much better for the environment and she says very comfy.

A young Mum near me has three kids all in disposable nappies and she just opens the back door and piles them outside until she can be bothered to bin them. My husband said it absolutely stank out there the other day in the heatwave!

TwinLolly Tue 27-Jun-23 21:47:30

I hated pads, they were like weggies between my legs. Then came tampons which were a lifesaver to a degree. I wished I had known about mooncups earlier on but they weren't advertised and I didn't see them. I finally read about them in a magazine, and tried got 2. I never looked back.

The only embarrassing thing was, I was staying over with a boyfriend one night and his dog rummaged around in my holdall. It found my spare mooncup and chewed it to bits. There were small pieces of it around the room. Oops!blush

FarNorth Tue 27-Jun-23 22:08:54

I read my mum's women's magazines every week and saw adverts there for tampons, well before I needed such a thing.
The descriptions were quite circumspect but I got the idea and decided that's what I'd have.
I didn't start till nearly 16 and always bought my own supplies, from my own money.
It didn't cross my mind to mention anything to my mum.

My daughter got a talk at school when she was about 8 or 9 and told me she was keen to start.
I asked her to think about how old she was then, and how many years she might have periods - and she was then less keen.

lemsip Wed 28-Jun-23 08:09:45

a friend with older sisters told me about periods and I was horrified but thought, once a year is okay but she corrected me and said once a month! my mother just said 'you've got your courses then! she was an older mother and that's what they were called.

I was very skinny 15yr old trying tampax. the agony sitting on the bus to work... I didn't realise they had to go right up you.

Witzend Wed 28-Jun-23 08:43:09

I moved on to Tampax fairly early, certainly by 16 - despite my mother saying she didn’t think you could use them until you were married! I had no trouble, even before I was up to no good with my boyfriend.

Had to buy them myself, IIRC - I had pretty derisory pocket money but topped it up very nicely with babysitting.

Stansgran Wed 28-Jun-23 10:32:40

My mother turned up at school break with packages and just handed them to me. I hadn’t a clue what to do. Evidently she had noticed my pyjamas in the morning. I came home from school with my skirt dried rigid and she explained reluctantly. I thought it was never going to stop.

Franbern Wed 28-Jun-23 12:35:19

Like others here, when my periods started my Mum bought me that belt and pads and got told NOT to let any boy touch you.

My own children (including four girls), were very sporty - gymnastic, diving and swimming -so it was important that they had good proection but nothing bulky.

Before they reached the age of periods, I would show them tampax (Do not remember anyother makes back then), in their baths so they could so how it swelled when moist. All of them used these from their very first periods without any problems at all.

hollysteers Thu 29-Jun-23 10:49:39

I was late starting, nearly 16 and my mother said “I think I’ll have to take you to the doctor”. I was very skinny and now think a borderline anorexic.
When they did start, I was the office junior and they were very heavy. The boss (very tight-fisted) actually ordered a taxi for me one time, I was so unwell. That started a lifetime of heavy periods, ugh.
I too hobbled round the office with a half in half out tampax😁

I often wondered how ballerinas coped before the pill. It can be so limiting.

hollysteers Thu 29-Jun-23 10:52:14

As I wanted my daughter not to be at all stressed by periods, I told her what a good sign it was as it meant she could have children. In fact she hasn’t had any and is now nearly 50.

Witzend Thu 29-Jun-23 10:58:59

My DM said something similar, Franbern - ‘This means you’re now capable of having a baby, so you must be very careful with what you’re up to’ - or words to that effect.

As my maternal GM used to quote from the old music hall song, ‘Keep your hand on your ha’penny!’
She once said to me, ‘It only takes a minute!’

Cabbie21 Thu 29-Jun-23 21:54:55

When I started I called my mum into the loo and showed her. She said “ oh, you’ve got a pain.” That was her word for a period. I was lucky and almost never had any pain. She gave me Dr Whites, she called them “ things”. If they were running out, I would say,” Can you get some more things?” Sometimes she sent me to the haberdashery, run by two old ladies in black, and they wrapped them up in brown paper to take home.
We weren’t allowed to have a bath or wash our hair during a period. Times were so different.

Witzend Fri 30-Jun-23 08:58:51

Cabbie, I wonder where that idea came from. I was very startled when I realised that my German exchange girl’s mother had the same idea (this was in the mid 60s) - I well remember the younger daughter virtually having a tantrum at the dining table because she wasn’t allowed to wash her hair. ‘I can’t bear it any longer!’ (I still remember the German - and her mother’s sighing response of, ‘Always a drama…’

I was v glad that my mother (who was old-fashioned in some ways) was at least modern in that respect.

MerylStreep Fri 30-Jun-23 09:05:26

My mother had to get a Dr Whites from her maternity bag, she was expecting my brother any day.
All she said, was: don’t go near the boys 😂 I just went back out to play with my girl and boy friends.

Granny23 Fri 30-Jun-23 10:07:25

When My school-friend aged 13 started her periods, her mother told her not to let any boy touch her now she had periods. She told us this a couple of years later with her own interpretation of the warning which was that you could only get pregnant if you had sex during a period!!! We soon put her right.

Also I was always puzzled by the 'no sex now you have periods' dictac, which seemed to imply that you were OK to have sex before you started periods.

My own, never forgotten, embarrassing moment, occurred when I went to the pharmacy to buy pads. My usual brand was out of stock, so the pharmacist displayed all the brands available with a commentary on the pros and cons of each. I chose one and turned to go, which was when I realised that the next customer was a lad from my class at school, who had heard every word. blush