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Making a will, don’t know what to do.

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V3ra Tue 18-Jul-23 15:35:05

As a starting point would you be able to discuss this with your ex-husband and see what he's putting in place for the older son?

Maybe a one third/two thirds split of you and your current husband's assets in favour of the younger son?

Could you discuss this with the two sons and see how they feel?

Passthechocolates Tue 18-Jul-23 15:25:57

We are about to make our will. I have two sons, one from my first marriage, one from this one. My eldest son has lived with us since he was three years old but has maintained, and still does have a good relationship with his Dad. In fact we all still get on well together.
I just can’t decide what is the fair way to split the inheritance, if we go 50/50 and then my son inherits from his own Dad I feel my second son will be disadvantaged, also my eldest son is very secure financially while things are not so easy for my second son, will it look really mean if our own son gets more.
When we met we bought a business together and my husband put 35.000 into it, I had nothing. I’m thinking to perhaps ringfence that 35000 for my youngest son, although by todays values it would be worth a lot more, it would at least be something.
I really don’t want to look as if I’m favouring one above the other as they have always just been ‘our sons’
My husband would prefer second son to benefit more but he will go with 50/50 if that’s what we decide.