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Luckygirl3 Sat 25-Nov-23 18:40:19

This is an actual extract from a sex education textbook for girls, printed in the early 1960's in the UK.

“When retiring to the bedroom, prepare yourself for bed as promptly as possible. Whilst feminine hygiene is of the utmost importance, your tired husband does not want to queue for the bathroom, as he would have to do for his train. But remember to look your best when going to bed. Try to achieve a look that is welcoming without being obvious. If you need to apply face cream or hair-rollers wait until he is asleep as this can be shocking to a man last thing at night.
When it comes to the possibility of intimate relations with your husband it is important to remember your marriage vows and in particular your commitment to obey him. If he feels that he needs to sleep immediately then so be it. In all things be led by your husband's wishes; do not pressure him in any way to stimulate intimacy. Should your husband suggest Congress then agree humbly all the while being mindful that a man's satisfaction is more important than a woman's. When he reaches his moment of fulfillment a small moan from yourself is encouraging to him and quite sufficient to indicate any enjoyment that you may have had.
Should your husband suggest any of the more unusual practices be obedient and uncomplaining but register any reluctance by remaining silent. It is likely that your husband will then fall promptly asleep so adjust your clothing, freshen up, and apply your night-time face and hair care products. You may then set the alarm so that you can arise shortly before him in the morning. This will enable you to have his morning cup of tea ready when he awakes.”

Sent to me by a friend. I find it quite hard to believe for early 60s - I remember the 60s as being much more fun!!

Bijou Tue 28-Nov-23 14:31:35

I never had any sex education until i was 19 and joined the WAAF in 1942 and we had a lecture on sexual diseases.
My hair in curlers always turned my husband on!

Alie2Oxon Tue 28-Nov-23 14:20:43

My sex education began when I was in hospital age ten in 1950 for scarlet fever... from the older girls in the ward, who told smutty but under-standable jokes..... don't think I ever read anything like that article.

I did try to be a wife, but not like that! Looking back, I don't think I was much good at it.

In the 70s I got the book 'Our Bodies, Ourselves.
Wow!

deedeedum Tue 28-Nov-23 13:42:36

Probably written by a man.

grandtanteJE65 Tue 28-Nov-23 13:39:31

Congress rather suggests that this was originally an American text. I have never met a British person who talked of sexual congress, only Americans.

I don't doubt, OP, that this text may well have been printed in the 1960s, but like many others I suggest that it was an older text, brought up to date by mentioning "rollers" instead of "curlers" and otherwise served up as it had originally been written.

It could be pre-WW2 or written in an attempt to get the women who had gained some monetary independence by working in munitions factories, or joining the services back to the pre-war role of homekeeping wife, supported by husband.

nipsmum Tue 28-Nov-23 13:37:11

It is still better than any sex education my mother gave me (absolutely none). The only thing I was told when I was 13 was " Don't let any boy make a fool of you". That was it. It's fortunate I became a nurse. It taught me a lot.

midgey Tue 28-Nov-23 13:20:03

But the early sixties were still pretty strait laced depending on where you lived. I remember pedalling through our town in a bright t shirt on a Sunday and getting many disapproving looks as people came out of Chapel.

BlueBelle Tue 28-Nov-23 13:18:38

Nah definitely not the 60s that was the prime time for free love
I was married in the mid 60 s and we found some very enterprising places to ‘do it’ before we got married he certainly wouldn’t have noticed if I ‘adjusted my clothing or freshened up ‘ 🤣never heard the term Congress

Surely this is 1860 s not 1960 s

Shirls52000 Tue 28-Nov-23 13:12:20

Definitely doesn’t sound like the flower power 60 s that I remember lol

Frenchgalinspain Tue 28-Nov-23 12:58:50

I was born in the late 1960s so I found this quite humourous.

Mouse Tue 28-Nov-23 12:55:28

Married in 1984. My mil didn’t like me because I questioned her ways and her advice. I always remember having a fry up at her house, she served the meaty end of the bacon rasher to my husband and gave me the streaky end ! I redistributed the bacon more fairly lol. She also told me t dangle a noon wrapped in muslin that n any dish I cooked for him because he liked the taste of onion but not the texture.

Alie2Oxon Tue 28-Nov-23 12:49:22

I should really go back and apologise to M, I suppose.

Only we got divorced in 1981.
During this he told me that 'next time he would look for a doormat!' quite seriously.

....he thought he found one - but later, she divorced him!

Dee1012 Tue 28-Nov-23 12:33:25

V3ra

^...offer to take off his shoes.^

My Mum had a friend who always got down on the floor and took her husband's shoes off every day when he came home from work... 😳

My Auntie did this and she would place the slippers on her husband's feet! shock
At the table he'd say "tea sweetheart" and she'd pour his drink....

Even at that age - early teens, I can remember thinking that any man had no hope of that from me!

Bellanonna Sun 26-Nov-23 14:51:30

Hilarious! I was actually waiting for the punchline.

And I’ve never heard “congress” before. How quaint.

Judy54 Sun 26-Nov-23 14:10:51

Wow that sounds incredible. As a teenager in the swinging sixties it was not something that I was aware of. What an era to be a married women! You could not get a mortgage in your own right, your salary was not taken into account in a joint mortgage with your Husband, you could not open a bank account without signed authorisation from your Husband!! As recently as the 1980's Women's income tax still had to be declared on their Husband's tax return so he knew how much she earned!!! The mind boggles. Thank goodness times have changed for today's younger Women.

Georgesgran Sun 26-Nov-23 13:33:52

As miner’s wives, my Grandma and Aunts always served their husbands first and didn’t sit down to their own meals until they were sure the menfolk had everything they wanted to hand.
Late ‘50s.

Aveline Sun 26-Nov-23 10:49:42

Josie on I'm a Celebrity actually said this week that the men should get the meat! Put me right off her. I didn't think people still thought like that.

welbeck Sun 26-Nov-23 10:29:03

that reminds me of families i've read about, in the past, i hope, where the men/boys were always served first and given the best portions.
i've never actually seen this.

Grammaretto Sun 26-Nov-23 02:47:03

I can vaguely remember reading that before. Women's magazines had tips like that. I wonder who wrote them?

My DM was told by her DMiL in 1948 while pregnant with me, that the NHS orange juice should be given to her husband as should any extra rations because "he's the man"

My DM tried to explain it was for the grandchild but the older woman did not understand.

maddyone Sun 26-Nov-23 01:04:29

Or even a bath

maddyone Sun 26-Nov-23 01:04:12

Mind you, I didn’t need a Bath to set my hair in rollers, I had electric Carmen rollers!

maddyone Sun 26-Nov-23 01:02:56

What do you mean, it’s out of date advice?
I followed it all exactly!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

V3ra Sat 25-Nov-23 23:46:59

When I had our first baby in 1977, my husband took a week off work.
He had long lie-ins as according to him he'd read you should rest after having a baby.
On his first day back at work he asked me to iron him some shirts as he'd run out. Like a naïve fool I did ☹️

After that I didn't want any more children, he did.
I told him in no uncertain terms things would have to change 🤨

We had three children and we've been married 46 years. He's an amazing, supportive husband.
Who would have thought it? 🤣

Callistemon21 Sat 25-Nov-23 23:32:00

welbeck

what !
you mean young enough to father children were wearing pullovers in 1986 !
who'd've thunk it !

Home-knitted ones, crafted by their dutiful wives.

welbeck Sat 25-Nov-23 23:18:36

men young enough ...
where did the men go ?
perhaps it was the traumatising rollers.
this is becoming surreal.
becoming?

welbeck Sat 25-Nov-23 23:16:32

what !
you mean young enough to father children were wearing pullovers in 1986 !
who'd've thunk it !