Fibbing by omission

I would never do that, even if she is a faddy eater, no-one knows what her diet is at that particular moment, she may be newly diagnosed.

The only time I do lie, and yes, it is a downright lie, is when my neighbour, who lives on the next street thinks I am on this planet just to look after her even though we are the same age, 81. I get phone calls to say her TV is not working I tell her I will go round tomorrow but no, she wants it doing now I tell her to ring an engineer, she tells me that it is too expensive and I will do it for free. She knows I am computer literate and technically minded so I am her first port of call. She refuses to ring her sons because they are busy people she is driving me mad, now she wants me to shorten some skirts for her as the repair shop charges too much.

I am now, either ill, have company, waiting for parcels, or waiting for an engineer to come. I am running out of excuses.

If she rings me to go out with her (to carry her bags and push the trolley, carry her library books that need returning to the library) yes I will go as I can do a bit of shopping at the same time and she still drives her little car.

I have become a great liar because of her but I don't think of it as lying, I think of it as preserving my sanity as she is the most obstinate, bossy woman you will ever meet. Even our sons have told me to keep away from her.

Nannyknee

My friend has faddy ‘allergies’. Her latest is gluten. I always give her cakes say they are gluten free but they are not. She has never had any issues with my gluten!

you are fortunate that she didn't have Coeliac disease, when eating gluten would have made her very ill!

don't mess with anyone elses food intake.

My friend has faddy ‘allergies’. Her latest is gluten. I always give her cakes say they are gluten free but they are not. She has never had any issues with my gluten!

I used to accompany disabled children on skiing holidays in Italy and at dinner we’d choose our meal for the next day. One mother warned me her 9 yr old son would only ate chicken so that week he ate ‘chicken beef’ , ‘chicken pork’, and ‘chicken lamb’ and scoffed the lot. Mum was surprised.

My mother was a manipulator. She'd do or say whatever was necessary to get what/where she wanted.
I vowed I'd never be like that, and I never have beeen. It hasn't made me a lot of false friends, but then who needs false friends?

When the van used to come round my mum used to say Mr Whippy ice cream gave you spots!

I realised many many years later it was probably because she had no money for me an ice cream.

No, I could not tell anyone who cooked for me that their cooking was bad. There would be some element I could pick out as ‘very interesting’ I’m sure, or I could say it was very satisfying (as in warm and filling) or ask for the recipe.

I have been guilty of substituting expensive brands with cheaper ones e.g. tea bags, coffee, tomato sauce and brown sauce. The first two just go in the tea/coffee caddy. The last two I decant into the expensive bottle.

When my children were young they found an injured bird. We put it in a cardboard box, gave it water etc. It died later that night when the children were in bed. I told them the next day that it had recovered and flown away.

All you very honest grans
Take the following situation
You have met someone new to the area on several occasions whilst walking the dog
You seem to get on very well
She asks you to join her for supper as it is her birthday but warns you she is not a very good cook
The welcome was warm but the food was really bad
Would you tell her the truth ❓❓❓

You were being kind Whiff.

I don't lie simple fact I forgot so I repeat myself.and don't even realise I have already said it. It's not dementia but is part of my HPX which effects my mobility.

But when my dad died his face was frozen in pain . He died in bed next to my mom while she slept so told her all dead people look like that . My dad was the 3rd death I had seen. Also she never knew his bladder released. I hated lying but my brother back me up. But it has never sat right in my mind. But I know my mom couldn't have coped with the truth. And I did it because of love.

Cabbie21: I can identify with that!

My children used to have tinned eagle sandwiches when younger as they didn’t like spam!

I always say I’m fine when people ask especially my DH as he worries.

As a former teacher I had to be very creative with language when writing school reports.

As a young hard up mum, I served casseroled heart once to DH and when he asked what it was, I just said 'meat'

I used to make my own fruit yoghurt with raspberries and natural yogurt. One aunt who always said she hated yoghurt always loved it .

It's interesting how many of these are about foods/drinks.

Or what my Mum used to call 'a white lie' which was a fib but to spare someone's feelings.

Sometimes it's a case of the end justifying the means.
My youngest would eat any meat as long as he thought it was lamb, so that's what we told him it was 🤷

I always tell my husband that my lemon cheesecake which he loves is lemon cream pie. He can’t stand cheesecake.

V3ra

tanith we were at my sister-in-law's years ago and I said dinner smells nice, what are we having?
Beef bourguinon, she replied, but if dad asks it's stew.
He wouldn't eat anything "foreign" 🙄

welbeck when my husband was little they had an ice cream van that came round the streets and also a wet-fish van. They both had the same chimes and mother-in-law always said it was the fish van.
My husband grew up wondering why people wanted to buy fish twice a day 🤔

keepcalmandcavachon I'm on your side with the chocolate fingers 🤫😋😅

Your sil's beef bourguinon story reminds me of the time when we had all the family round for an 'easy' meal.
I had made a big pan of of chilli and one of chicken korma, but knowing that my mum would refuse to even try a 'curry' (the korma), I presented it as a 'creamy chicken casserole'.
You won't be surprised to hear that she happily tried it and even had a second helping. She still won't eat korma though!

I'd been married for 5 years before I owned up to my husband that my home made pasta sauce, which he loved, contained garlic.

😱

Actually he was a QC