Big,big parties- do you like them?

If I’m lucky enough to be invited along first thing on my mind is am I free the next day to rest and recuperate! Of course I still love to party. I would go and just hope I’d be able to dance and dance. The next day however, I’d suffer the consequences.

Neither DH nor I liked parties. He struggled to cope with the noise, and I just felt like a fish out of water with a room full of largely strangers. We were happier with dinner parties for a group of like minded friends and would regularly host six couples, and accept their invites in return. It was very much a case of mi casa, su casa.

They are young with no doubt lots of friends so why not go for it. Not sure about the free bar that could be very expensive.
I don’t mind big parties don’t organise them my self any more my husband and I both had big 40th bash’s but that was a long while ago. But I am quite happy to go to any we are invited to.

I'd go early, talk to a few people I know and the party givers - and leave early. Very early. I hate getting drunk and hate watching others worse for wear too.

I used to enjoy a big party but not now. The last one I went to I ended up standing for hours. It was crowded and noisy so had to shout to be heard.
In late 70s now so don't think I would cope.

Big parties are not our favourite, but somehow seem necessary for us. Typically we have one every summer, our garden parties are lovely. We've a December large business gathering - nice place near Newmarket.

I have always hated any party or celebration.

Is 21 still the 'coming of age' in Australia? It's 18 in the UK Nanna8.
I've sent special cards and the 'big' gift to two step grandchildren in Australia for their 18th. Just assumed it was the same as here. Did I get it wrong? Hope your grandson's celebration goes well. If I were his parents I would pay for the first drink, then subsequent drinks to be paid for by the guests themselves. Cuts down, not only on expense, but on drunkeness and it's unpleasant consequences.

I'm with you on that, M0nica. Not a party fan at all, I'm afraid. I'd probably show face and that would be about it.

Definitely love a BIG big party 🥳 take loads of photos to embarrass everyone for years to come😆

I hate, hate, hate big parties. I would run a marathon rather than go to an event like the one described.

I know other people enjoy them and I would never spol someone elses fun, but for me, I would end up retreating to the kitchen to help with the washing up.

I like social gatherings to be small, family ones that run to 10 or 15 where I know everyone very well are OK, but otherwise 4 people only is sufficient.

Very generous parents, probably the last party they would be funding for their son as it is his 21st.

Every family has their negative nelly.

NanaAng14

What a party pooper , one night of your life , to celebrate your grandsons birthday .He's not asking you to pay , .
Everyone has different ideas of celebrating.
Don't go , or leave early.
Most people remember their 21st, whether its big or small celebration , so why not just enjoy it .
Life's too short !!

What a laugh! If you knew me you would see how inaccurate that description is. No intentions of not going or leaving early of course. I was with my grandson this evening and we were working out how to control all the ones who say they are coming that he has never heard of. Never mind, I suppose it feels nice sometimes to get on your high horse. I’ve done it,too. Hope y’all have a fantastic day.

If there is good music, I would go along, enjoy a couple of drinks, enjoy seeing everyone and dance!💃🏻 Love dancing and don’t care if I embarrass the fambo.

I would probably leave earlier than the rest of the guests however and let them party on with hangovers I can’t cope with.

He will have a fabulous time. If that's what he and his family want why not?
Just show up and leave early as his Grandparent he will be thrilled you made the effort.
Free bar at that age, going to be interesting.

I hope he has a brilliant evening. As an introvert, I have to gird my loins for large gatherings, but even if I hover on the edge, it’s always lovely to see people enjoying themselves.

I don't think 150 is necessarily a crush. It depends on the room size GSM - think of (say) a cricket club - our local one could manage 150 easily. Most hotels have a bar/function room for this size party.

Thought you meant the political type when I first read the title big parties these days not so keen, particularly when it involves standing for ages, drink in hand trying to make forced conversation and not hearing above all the background noise.

Great fun, you can catch up with lots of people in one place, I hope it goes well for them.

I don't enjoy parties of any size but I'd go, smile and nod, and be grateful when it was home time!

150 people in a room over a bar? A tad crowded? Definitely not for me.

What a party pooper , one night of your life , to celebrate your grandsons birthday .He's not asking you to pay , .
Everyone has different ideas of celebrating.
Don't go , or leave early.
Most people remember their 21st, whether its big or small celebration , so why not just enjoy it .
Life's too short !!

If it's a big party at least you can leave early without being missed!

Not boring - sensible. 🌝. My kids only had a few friends,too.

Oh dear Sounds a bit out of hand ….my grandkids haven’t wanted 21 st parties seem to prefer going out with friends for a night out
Afraid I ve never had money for big parties so not very into them …(boring person)