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Ash Wednesday/Valentine' s Day

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polomint Wed 14-Feb-24 08:34:33

Both fall on the same day this year. Which one means anything to you or does the day just pass like any other? We are going to get our ashes this morning and I gave my husband an unexpected valentine card as he has not been in great health the last few years

GrannyRose15 Thu 15-Feb-24 04:21:58

Had a dilemma about the flowers. DH bought me some for Valentine's day but I don't usually have flowers in the house during Lent.
Couldn't have wine with our Valentine's dinner either.
Quelle domage!

Callistemon21 Wed 14-Feb-24 22:27:54

Aldom

Ashing on Ash Wednesday is not only a Roman Catholic tradition, it is very much an important Anglican Church tradition.

How come I've never heard of it!! 🤔

flappergirl Wed 14-Feb-24 22:24:17

LauraNorderr

Got out of bed to find a trail of rose petals leading to a huge bouquet of red roses and some heart shaped chocolates in shiny red wrapping.
On the mantelpiece was a beautiful card containing a love poem written by Orlin and a gold embossed card inviting me to dinner at my favourite Italian restaurant…
and then I woke up.

I was thinking blimey, right up to the last sentence!

Aldom Wed 14-Feb-24 21:02:45

Ashing on Ash Wednesday is not only a Roman Catholic tradition, it is very much an important Anglican Church tradition.

Witzend Wed 14-Feb-24 20:31:01

I cam down this morning to find a card, a box of Maltesers, and a box of Black Magic from dh.

I had nothing for him. I’d forgotten!
I don’t think he’s bovvered though - he’ll help me eat the chocs, though he’ll have to be quick with the Maltesers, because I’ve been making a bit of a 🐷 of myself with those already.

Callistemon21 Wed 14-Feb-24 20:28:06

Norah

JamesandJon33

We have been together over 60 years. I still get an ‘anonymous’ Valentine card from him.
Ash Wednesday passes me by but I have an aunt who goes to church regularly and takes her previous year ‘s cross to be turned to ashes.

We take our prior palm crosses (from Paul Sunday) to Church - to burn for ashes, I thought that was normal. Apparently not.

As usual, things happen differently for all of us.

I always threw mine away on Easter Sunday.

The cross, not the Valentine card!

Norah Wed 14-Feb-24 20:26:27

JamesandJon33

We have been together over 60 years. I still get an ‘anonymous’ Valentine card from him.
Ash Wednesday passes me by but I have an aunt who goes to church regularly and takes her previous year ‘s cross to be turned to ashes.

We take our prior palm crosses (from Paul Sunday) to Church - to burn for ashes, I thought that was normal. Apparently not.

As usual, things happen differently for all of us.

Callistemon21 Wed 14-Feb-24 20:11:09

kittylester

Not sure it's just catholic. I used to receive Ashes at the village parish church when I was small. Scared me rigid.

We had pancakes today as DH was volunteer driving yesterday and it took hours,

Perhaps I just never went to church on Ash Wednesday!

Doodle Wed 14-Feb-24 20:00:26

Not just catholic. I’m C of E and I was ashed this morning in church. DH and I have always sent each other Valentine cards. This year he can’t get out so I bought a card and we sent it to each other. Tricky with lent starting on the same day so no chocs for me but a lovely day none the less.
Lauanorder you certainly had me going 🤣🤗

Harris27 Wed 14-Feb-24 18:48:58

Aw beechnut that’s so sad.

Harris27 Wed 14-Feb-24 18:45:37

We’ve always celebrated it. I buy a wine card and some if his favourite sweets. He bought me card flowers chocolates. He made my tea tonight with candles and music in the background. 46 years and still doing ok. I know we’re lucky to have each other.

JamesandJon33 Wed 14-Feb-24 18:39:49

We have been together over 60 years. I still get an ‘anonymous’ Valentine card from him.
Ash Wednesday passes me by but I have an aunt who goes to church regularly and takes her previous year ‘s cross to be turned to ashes.

Frenchgalinspain Wed 14-Feb-24 18:38:12

Happy Saint Valentine´s Day & Ash Wednesday ..

My husband bought me a desperately needed new Samsung Mobile as my old mobile was on its last leg.

He disguised the packaging so I had no idea there was a mobile inside the fairly large box !!

kittylester Wed 14-Feb-24 18:37:45

Not sure it's just catholic. I used to receive Ashes at the village parish church when I was small. Scared me rigid.

We had pancakes today as DH was volunteer driving yesterday and it took hours,

TerriBull Wed 14-Feb-24 18:37:09

I have vivid childhood memories of having the ashes put on the forehead by the priest with his thumb, I think? roughly in the sign of a cross at mass on Ash Wednesday.

We're celebrating Valentine's Day with the Waitrose Valentine's Day meal.

CanadianGran Wed 14-Feb-24 18:34:18

My DH gave me a card he made with a little sticky-note. He made it 19 years ago, and gets out the same little card every year. he started marking the year on the back when

I had some Valentine cards for the grandkids, so gave one to him. A little T-rex telling him he's T-riffic!

And we are not church goers, so no ashes for us. I went to Catholic school until the age of 12, but fell out of habit after that, and only go occasionally.

Oldnproud Wed 14-Feb-24 18:32:08

So that's why a man I saw in town at lunchtime was carrying a huge bouquet of lovely flowers, and why the nearby flower stall in the mall had a bigger display than usual. It never even crossed my mind. 😁
There were more flowers in that bouquet than my OH has given me in over 40 years of marriage, so it will come as no surprise when I say that today is just another day and always has been.

Ash Wednesday has never featured in my life, although we used to do pancakes on Shrove Tuesday.

Sago Wed 14-Feb-24 18:28:16

Callistemon21

I've never heard of receiving ashes 🤔 Is it a Roman Catholic tradition?

It is!

Callistemon21 Wed 14-Feb-24 18:22:11

I've never heard of receiving ashes 🤔 Is it a Roman Catholic tradition?

rafichagran Wed 14-Feb-24 18:21:29

Yes I am celebrating, candles lit cards on the mantlepiece, wine in the fridge and table laid. Food cooking.
I am looking forward to the evening.
Happy Valentines day everyone.

Callistemon21 Wed 14-Feb-24 18:20:27

On the basis that you’ve got to take the chance to celebrate while you can, we’ll be having an M & S Valentine’s meal deal tonight, including the prosecco

I thought of popping in to M&S on the way home Maggiemaybe but it was raining and I'm not hungry ....

Perhaps a glass of wine 🙂

Bella23 Wed 14-Feb-24 18:19:27

No religious significance in our house.
I also told DH not to bother with flowers as I saw the receipt for last years. So I got the silliest card he could find I have had to wear a big tin badge with Wonerfull wife on it all day. Quite a joke as we had had at least 3 rows about how to de moss the drive before lunch.
I think our motto should be an argument a day keeps the boredom at bay.

Callistemon21 Wed 14-Feb-24 18:16:54

LauraNorderr

Got out of bed to find a trail of rose petals leading to a huge bouquet of red roses and some heart shaped chocolates in shiny red wrapping.
On the mantelpiece was a beautiful card containing a love poem written by Orlin and a gold embossed card inviting me to dinner at my favourite Italian restaurant…
and then I woke up.

I was 😲 envy
Then 🤣🤣🤣

Pancakes yesterday but I went out to lunch today with friends so Mr C is making his own dinner blush
Oh dear.

Smileless2012 Wed 14-Feb-24 18:00:15

Beechnutflowers

Sago Wed 14-Feb-24 16:44:04

Today is my son’s birthday so poor man has to pay top dollar in restaurants if he chooses to eat out!
We don’t celebrate St Valentine, just our son’s birthday.

Ash Wednesday never had happy memories for me, as a child growing up, Ash Wednesday was a day of fast and abstinence so my Mother would be in a filthy mood as she would be hungry.

We would go to Church for the Ash Wednesday service, we were not allowed to wipe the ashes off, they were sacred😬.
My mother loved virtue signalling!
I hated the priest pressing the ash onto my forehead with his thumb.

We then had to endure Lent with all the rules my mother would impose!

Roll on spring and Easter eggs!