What would your response be to this text?

Littleannie

I am sorry for that ghastly text. How horrible for you. Huge hugs from us all here 💕💕💕

I assume you will be providing the meal and doing all the work in the spirit of Mother's Day ! Would be my response If so see you then

I would love it! Nice for them to want to come and all be together. Lunch can be something simple - the grandchildren only ever want pizza anyway!

For me the mother's day 'treat' would be seeing my lovely son, daughter and partners because they all live a 3 hour drive away. I don't expect anything or take anything for granted - they have their own busy lives with jobs, a baby and all the other commitments people have in their 30's, whereas I'm retired. Maybe it's a family culture thing - my mum never bothered about mother's day, although I'm sure she appreciated getting a card and occasionally flowers, as I do. If / when my adult children show appreciation it's genuine, not from a sense of duty or to avoid upsetting me. I'd love to cook for them all on Sunday or any other day.

I only have a daughter, but love it when she , her husband and my beautiful grandson come for Sun dinner whether its mother's day or not! Just as easy making enough for 5 as 2. I'm going to have a lovely day

I vote for what Marydoll suggested...

CoolCoco
I’m afraid , I agree with others ,when I say I would love to cook dinner for my whole family .
In fact I totally enjoy I
Having the whole family around . Though it doesn’t happen that often nowadays as there are far too many for my quite small house .
Just say “ Yes” and perhaps add one of the given suggestions , you may even enjoy it x

I remember going out for mother's day with my then 2 young children. We sat in a corner overshadowed by a full table of noisiest family. They managed to totally spoil it for us. I think the elderly father realised and apologised, the children grumbling and entitled. I could not wait to get out and never repeated the experience!

I would send
"Good one!" and a series of laughing emojis

To original poster it is nice your family want to see you but the message implies that your daughter is inviting herself and the others for dinner. Reply and ask who is doing the food prep and cooking also buying and providing the food. It is far too expensive these days for you to go shopping and pay for everything plus cook and clear up as well. The idea of Mothering Sunday is that mum gets a bit of a rest, pampered and even a few nice flowers thrown in it shows we are thought about once in a while. It's a shame my adult children don't come on Gransnet and get a few ideas themselves in fact they probably will not even remember the day. They were too spoiled growing up I blame myself.

Something similar happened to me last Christmas. My DIL suggested the whole family got together at ours for Christmas Day. I said that’s fine you’re all very welcome as long as I don’t have to do the cooking!
DIL wasn’t fazed, brought the food and cooked at ours. Mind you we didn’t get our Christmas dinner til nearly 7 o’clock - it was delicious but a bit on late side for me 🤣.

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I'd just say lovely see you Sunday. My youngest DS took me out for dinner yesterday as he's working on Sunday. He bought me some flowers last week. He said he got them when he went shopping so he didn't forget. I'm happy at Xmas ge cooked me and DH a lovely Xmas dinner with all trimmings which I paid for food. The previous Xmas my elder son cooked for DH and I and really it is the best gift not to have to cook on Xmas day. I always cook an early Xmas dinner mid December all 3 DC come to and DGC too.

My friend called me last night to say she had decided to go away with her DH for couple of nights over Mothers Day as in the past her large family turned up and she ended up providing meals for them on Mother’s Day

Littleannie

It's better than the text my son sent me last Mother's Day which said 'why don't you die mother. The sooner you're dead the better as nobody will miss you'.

Wtf? Is this child always like this or did you upset them in some way?

I’d be grateful that they wanted to see me - they don’t have to! My son lives on a boat with his 2 children and my daughter is having a stressful time looking after her disabled child who has just had a major operation. Eating out is expensive and I know they can’t really can’t afford it this year, plus we have various intolerances which make it difficult. I was pleased to invite them all round to me . I will be cooking for 10 but will do bought pate, a lasagne which I will make the day before and a couple of easy desserts. I’ll have lots of Prosecco and will really enjoy the day.

I cooked a big Sunday roast for two of my children last year. The other didn’t come as her husband was organising something for her (she is very particular about enough appreciation being shown to her for her efforts😂). I have often cooked for all of them on Mother’s Day, including children and husband. As regards an answer to the original question-it is supposed to be MOTHERS Day so I would ask are they proposing to bring food or order a take away! Incidentally, I am not going to cook this year as I’m undergoing medical treatment and am not long out of surgery. I am on my own so don’t see why I should this time. My son has offered to cook lunch at his flat (he is a great cook!) so my younger daughter will help and I will be royally entertained (I hope!). After lunch we will join my elder daughter and her family at the pub where they are having lunch, for a drink. Sounds like a plan!

My Mother’s Day get together is Saturday as it fits in with travel plans and in-laws. I am looking forward to having the family together and very happy to cook

Yes ok shall we all chip in for takeaway

I’d rather just in be you and not the in-laws.

They invited themselves and other people with even phoning to ask you about seeing on mothers day?

All the years my mil was alive she always came to us on Mother’s Day, Easter Sunday and most Christmas and New Year’s Day. My hubby isn’t an only child but his brother never bothered not even when she was dying he was asked to stay overnight as her emergency care system hadn’t yet been fitted but left early morning to go play golf. And although my kids are all grown up, my hubby does the cooking on Mother’s Day and they all visit, except this year my ds2 and his lovely partner have invited everyone to theirs for lunch.

Oh how awful for you receive such a nasty text message.

I’m not expecting to see any of mine so I wouldn’t mind. They’d get a help yourself salad buffet and boughs puddings. I’ve already been handed a card from son 1 bought and written by d in l. Dd lives too far from andnever bothers. Might see son 2 the day before. It’s only one day. They have their own families..

I'd say, that's lovely, can't wait, what shall I cook?