People who refuse to slow down in life

Well, as my Mum used to say, ‘You’re a long time dead’. Go for it! Live life like there is no tomorrow.

Exactly NotSpaghetti, it is all a bit cryptic. What is she doing that is so potentially damaging to her health OP? Training for a marathon….looking after grandkids 24/7?

A bit of context would help.

fancythat I'm sorry your friend has high blood pressure - have her medics actually told her to "slow down" or not to do something she's doing?
What is she/he doing that is so damaging?

Obviously don't say if it's too revealing. I think being active is generally thought to be good for us.

If she is doing stressful things I get it but not just being busy surely?

Maybe I just don't know enough about high BP...

I think she may choose to go all the way with it. is also a bit cryptic.

Thanks, the sun is just peeping out. Must go and make myself look halfway decent 😁

Hope you a your friend have a good time Callistemon21, the sun is out!

I just think it depends on an individual's state of health, I know my father went from active to non active when in later life he had a whole gamut of health conditions that precluded him from following previous routines, it's what life deals you as to health and fitness. I wish I had more stamina, I think that's something I realised quire a few years ago, goes somewhat hand in hand with an under active thyroid and it's amazing how different I feel on some days as to energy levels without any noticeable related triggers that come to mind. I have to push myself a bit in that respect on sluggish days. I'm sure the old adage of "if you don't use it you'll lose it" is very true. I have to give it to my husband, golf does pay off in later years, it's certainly kept him very fit and he frets when he's not getting enough because of adverse weather, of what, for him, and many others is an enjoyable form of exercise.

Well, I was going to spend the day doing some washing, a bit of cleaning, sorting ....

But I just had a phone call from a friend who is older than me and who never slows down and I'm gadding off out. 😁

I dont want to say too much.
She has high BP.
Has already had one major health event because of it.
Has been warned she is in imminent danger of a second. If it hasnt happened already. They are doing ongoing tests.

Even if it affects their health?
I don't understand how it can do that fancythat - we all have our own natural pace, surely.

I do find I have far more energy if I have an interesting project. Boredom saps energy

I think the age of this friend is relevant.

Some of you are saying you refuse to slow down even though you're nearly 70!
That's young 😃

Perhaps, if she's over 80 and not well, she's trying to pack in as much as possible.

paddyann54

I think if you "slow down" just because you believe you're too old to do the things you've always done,THATs the slippery slope.I have no intention of giving up the things I do everyday .Last year I cut all the branches off around 30 ,15 foot tall leylanndi ,carried the stuff to our van and loaded it while my OH cut down the trunks.Helped him to build a new 8foot fence in its place ..and yes I carrried the fence straps from the front to the back of the house and then did hard landscaping once it was done.We did the whole job in under 2 weeks .Our young neighbours got some men in to do almost the same job ,it took a month.
Why should I stop when I'm a pefectly capable woman who will be 70 this month ?

I bet you were glad to get rid of the leylandi.. they are a blight and suck the light..

BlueBelle

Oh don’t try …surely it’s best to die running than sitting drooping in a corner

Yes, this! 👏👏👏

I'd rather go out with a bang, glass of wine in hand, than sit in a care home for years, becoming incontinent and uncomprehending.

I was 4 hours at a ceilidh on Saturday night and danced nearly all the dances. At one stage I sat down to drink some water and that's when I noticed how my body felt! I had to force myself to my feet . The young ones were congratulating me on my stamina cheeky monkeys
I'm 75.

I have slowed down but try to keep my routines of sleeping and eating.

I am much more cautious when out walking and happily use poles. I broke my wrist years ago and don't want a repeat.

Calipso

No two people are the same.
What does "slowing down" actually mean anyway? Isn't it more about enjoying what you have at whatever speed you operate? There are those who rush around being seen to be busy whose anxiety levels are sky highland whose contentment with life is low. There are those who settle into older age and a closed mindset because they don't know what else to do.
Inactivity is a very real predictor of premature death.

That should read "high and" not "highland"

Darned autocorrect!

Juliet27

I just wish I could speed up!!

Oh, me too.
The mind is willing .....

No two people are the same.
What does "slowing down" actually mean anyway? Isn't it more about enjoying what you have at whatever speed you operate? There are those who rush around being seen to be busy whose anxiety levels are sky highland whose contentment with life is low. There are those who settle into older age and a closed mindset because they don't know what else to do.
Inactivity is a very real predictor of premature death.

Urmstongran

I wonder sometimes if, when people are worried about their health, they push themselves to prove they can ‘still do it’. Also being ultra busy can be a displacement technique, as in “I’m too busy to sit and think about what’s troubling me”. Until of course they lie awake in the wee small hours and have to do so.
Life can be very hard for some. We ought not to judge.

Exactly! 😘

It is a displacement technique, if I thought about things, I would be in a sorry state!

Juliet27

I just wish I could speed up!!

Me too!

Each to their own, we are all different

Or even to pace yourself.

Nobody should judge either way.
If someone needs to keep going, or if they need to rest.

It's not a moral failing to place yourself, and is advised, with some conditions.

BlueBelle

Oh don’t try …surely it’s best to die running than sitting drooping in a corner

👏👏👏😂

X posts Marydoll! (funny how we often do!).

I wonder sometimes if, when people are worried about their health, they push themselves to prove they can ‘still do it’. Also being ultra busy can be a displacement technique, as in “I’m too busy to sit and think about what’s troubling me”. Until of course they lie awake in the wee small hours and have to do so.
Life can be very hard for some. We ought not to judge.

I should slow down, due to my failing health, but I don't want to.
That's just the way I am. I would rather be like that, than moping in a corner, feeling sorry for myself. If I give in, it will be the end of me.
I'm trying very hard to pace myself, but it is not in my nature.
I can understand your friend's behaviour.