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Help! I’m turning into my mother (😂😂)

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Cossy Tue 19-Mar-24 17:02:50

Anyone else turning, or already turned, into their mothers?

I some times look into the mirror and see her looking back (very scary) but it’s when I use her many used expressions or tones that I know I’m turning into her!

She was a very plain speaking, to the point lady and one of her favoured expressions was “I cannot be doing with…..” I use this a lot now. Her second favourite was “you just have to get on with it” and “lots of people are much worse of than us”

She was very kind hearted, and generous and loving but “she didn’t suffer fools gladly”

I miss her flowers

Mojack26 Thu 21-Mar-24 18:28:59

Yip....❤I miss her...

Minnyknit Thu 21-Mar-24 18:23:08

Not me so much but my husband is looking so much like his mum, same shape and face even the way he eats his food. I have to say though she didn’t have as much stubble as he has. I didn’t always like her very much.

Lostmyglassesxx Thu 21-Mar-24 18:14:03

Me too !
All her expressions - which sound so odd to anyone younger ! And my body is also starting to resemble hers .. she lived to 99 though ..

Shill29 Thu 21-Mar-24 18:11:12

I see my grandmother 🤦🏻

Gundy Thu 21-Mar-24 17:47:54

If any young male courting the beautiful love of his life, is wanting to marry her - all he has to do is look at his future mother-in-law to see where it will end up. I find it ironic and comical.

It may even be a case where the beautiful daughter may be doing a great service in breaking a cycle of cruelty and abuse. That is bravery and true morphosis.

Kayteetay1 Thu 21-Mar-24 17:38:14

Your mum sounds to have been a lovely lady and positive role model. I miss my mum too. We are both lucky to have been raised by such kind and decent souls. Xxx

Gundy Thu 21-Mar-24 17:34:22

Cabbie21 You may be witnessing your daughter now to be very opposite you in looks, mannerisms, speech, dress, work… but she may be very much like I was when growing up - working very hard to NOT be anything similar to my mother (who was a good and considerate person.)

I fought that all my young adult and maturing life. Till I looked in the mirror one morning and knew immediately that I had manifested into my mother (imagine that!) - in looks, hair, smile, determination, independence, empathy, thoughtfulness, animal lover, work ethic, same tastes and style, all of it.

Not that I wasn’t all those things growing up - but in my head I was not her. Consider it an homage to you when someday you may see yourself in her.

JollyJilly Thu 21-Mar-24 17:33:01

Join the club. I am the spitting image of my mum when she was young and our granddaughter is the spitting image of me when I was young and I say all the things you have mentioned.

Cossy Thu 21-Mar-24 17:19:34

NannaFirework

❤️💔
Ahh lovely thread…recently lost my dear Mum.
Hoping to turn into her XXX

Thank you x I’ve not long lost my dear Mum x (it was 18 months ago, but feels like yesterday) ❤️‍🩹

Mt61 Thu 21-Mar-24 17:17:04

Strange thing, my best friend is adopted, is is the spit of her adopted mum, right down to looks, & mannerism's, more so than than the biological daughter- think we pick up mannerisms of our mothers.. me I look in the mirror & see my mums sister who is like a mother to me 😊

MaggsMcG Thu 21-Mar-24 17:15:27

One day my daughter was playing up and answering me back and my Mum laughed because I said exactly the same as she had to me years before. Many years later I was laughing my head off at her daughter doing the same and my daughter saying exactly the same to her. We both ended up laughing which made my granddaughter even more angry as she thought we were laughing at her.

hilz Thu 21-Mar-24 17:13:23

I could do worse to be honest. My Mum was a woman with ideals that have served me well in life and have passed down the generations to my grandchildren. She was passionate about kindness and fairness and taught us to only ever treat people as we would wish to be treated ourselves regardless of any differences. My daughter only the other day talked about how she says things that my Mum used to say. I miss her.

janetsp Thu 21-Mar-24 17:11:01

I sometimes look in the mirror and see my grandmother. Reminds me I must smile. She was a miserable old woman!!

Nodj Thu 21-Mar-24 16:20:15

The acorn doesn’t fall far from the tree.

Foxyferret Thu 21-Mar-24 16:19:00

My mum who died last year always said “I’ll never be dead while you are alive”. We were very alike and very close. Great sense of humour, sometimes we laughed until we cried usually over silly little things. I miss her every day.

MissInterpreted Thu 21-Mar-24 16:02:26

rafichagran

I pray I do not turn into my Mother. I also out of respect wont say what I think of her in my head.

I share your pain. I'm glad I'm not the only one.

rafichagran Thu 21-Mar-24 15:59:29

I pray I do not turn into my Mother. I also out of respect wont say what I think of her in my head.

grumppa Thu 21-Mar-24 15:47:01

I have started catching glimpses of my father when I glance in a mirror. Not a pretty sight.

NannaFirework Thu 21-Mar-24 15:45:34

❤️💔
Ahh lovely thread…recently lost my dear Mum.
Hoping to turn into her XXX

annifrance Thu 21-Mar-24 15:38:01

My hands are just like my mother's. Especially if I'm wearing one of her rings or using her seeing machine. Wrinkles, veins and freckles included! It makes me feel she's always with me.

When I look in the mirror I see my daughter. I said this to her the other day. I think she was horrified!

My mother, myself and my daughter all pout when looking in the mirror to see new clothes.

Juniper1 Thu 21-Mar-24 15:36:13

“All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does, and that is his.”
Oscar Wilde

NanKate Thu 21-Mar-24 15:32:17

I looked in the mirror recently and definitely saw my maternal grandmother, especially the sunken cheeks 😳

HeavenLeigh Wed 20-Mar-24 15:25:02

Same here Blossoming ❤️👊

Blossoming Tue 19-Mar-24 22:18:36

I have always looked like my mother. People have commented as long as I can remember, “Ooh, isn’t she like her mother!”

My mother was lovely, kind and generous. I am quite happy to be like her and now I’m getting older I find it comforting to see her looking back at me from the mirror each morning.

Marydoll Tue 19-Mar-24 21:55:46

zakouma66

Marydoll, that must be odd and comforting in equal measure.

My son said exactly the same thing. It was uncanny, especially as he and my mother had a very special bond and my granddaughter was named after her. 😢