Conjoined twins

BlueBelle

But why on earth is anyone on here unsettled by it? It’s not our life. These two ladies have been joined since they were born they know no other way of life so to them this is their normal. They have worked out how to do many things over the years …go to the toilet together , have a bath, wash their hair, even get dressed what if one wants a blue dress and one a red one ? Look at menstruation problems they ve had to deal with. Medical problems and procedures Everything is done differently to how we can imagine but they’ve sorted it, they are 34 years old so have had plenty of time to work it all out

Why do we have to imagine what’s happening in their bed it’s nothing to do with us ( do we need to imagine what’s going on in the sex life of other people) they’re happy why would you feel unsettled about somebody elses happiness , it’s just not our business to imagine the ins and outs They have obviously worked out how to do so many things since birth and this is just another

Be truthful you’re all ‘unsettled’ because it involves SEX 🤣

I think you’re right, the SEX part is a bit unsettling, but I find their whole lives quite unsettling. More because I simply cannot imagine living that way. Bathing, toileting, dressing - all seem difficult.

I’m happy for them if they are all happy.

She may be a film buff? 😉

So has she been cooking???
🤔

BlueBelle

Or is it a fruit Pascal ? 😉

I knew someone would spot that Bluebelle!!! Happy Christmas

Or is it a fruit Pascal ? 😉

transformed into a vegetable..

NotSpaghetti

Oh, where IS Urmstongran?
She used to be here quite a lot.

... she is close by - very

Oh, where IS Urmstongran?
She used to be here quite a lot.

FriedGreenTomatoes2

From someone called Urmstongran. 🤣

Never 'erd of 'er 🤣🤣🤣
xx

I know it's an old thread revived. However the question about selves is still important, especially today when Xians are celebrating universal love.

Urmstongran, are you unsettled about conjoined twins because you are concerned about whether the twins are one self or two selves ?

FriedGreenTomatoes2

From someone called Urmstongran. 🤣

Hmmmmm…… I don’t see her about anymore 😜😂

From someone called Urmstongran. 🤣

A thread from 9 months ago.

I know this is a little bit off topic (still on topic of conjoined twins) but does anyone remember the name of the conjoined twins born in Australia years ago who were craniopagus? They were joined at the head in an unusual way like back to back and upside down. I can't remember their names and when I did several google searches it only came up with Alyssa and Bethany Nolan, who aren't the ones I'm thinking of. But the Nolan twins were born in the same hospital (in Brisbane I think) and amazingly also craniopagus conjoined twins. The ones I'm thinking of were born before the Nolan twins, maybe a year or so before them. They were successfully separated but I remember reading that one died about 2 years later. I think the twins I'm thinking of were born maybe in the early 2000s or even late 90s.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=fb2L693pka0

this is really worth a watch..

these are happy girls.

From what little I have read about it, they seem to have worked through the issues well. Along with their mother[cant remember reading about dad].

It is the 'othering' of people with disabilities I find uncomfortable. I have been quite open about it on various threads so it isn't a secret and I'm not being spiteful. I think sometimes people post without thinking through the implications of what they are saying.

We have no idea how the sisters deal with any of their issues other than what we have been told. The leap towards what happens when they have sex (which they may not have anyway, we honestly don't know) quite crude

I'd rather not engage in a negative exchange.I'm just being honest about how I feel

I agree sodapop. There has been some really quite callous posts on Gransnet just lately

I’d like to know what specifically you regard as callous?
Pragmatic, certainly but not callous.

Urmstongran

I suppose they share a level of intimacy impossible for us and we have a level of privacy unimaginable for them.

... in a nutshell URMS.

That need most (I assume) of us have - for a quiet space in which to just think and be...

When there were just the two of them they must have had a degree of 'separateness' where they could each, by mutual agreement and recognition of the need, just be themselves. But a third person alters the whole dynamic.

sodapop

Can't believe some of the comments on here. These ladies have learned to live with the restrictions their condition imposes on them and are having a as full and happy a life as they can. It's not for us to speculate about their life.
grandmattie I find your post quite unpleasant.

I agree sodapop. There has been some really quite callous posts on Gransnet just lately

RosiesMaw

@ Shelflife I do not for a moment think GM’s “Ugh” was anything more than sympathetic repulsion at the surviving twin having to carry the dead sister until she too died.
Just as I shudder when I hear of an expectant mum having to carry a baby who has died in utero until it can be delivered-and indeed to go through a vaginal delivery without the hope of a baby at the end of her process.
I think you misjudged her comment.

I entirely agree with your interpretation of GrandMattie’s post - and the analogy of the death of one conjoined twin to the terrible ordeal of a mother whose baby dies in the womb - a harrowing experience which one of my business partners went through.

I suppose they share a level of intimacy impossible for us and we have a level of privacy unimaginable for them.

^ I think these girls could possibly be parted if one died, but I'm not entirely sure^

I doubt it. They have one arm each - but no feeling in the arm of the opposite side apparently - have their own heart, stomach but from the waist down it is all just one body. I do not see separation ever being possible because of the complexity.

I imagine most women who were carrying conjoined twins in the past probably died. They wouldn’t have been able to give birth naturally and Caesarian births weren’t very common.