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What’s the best age to be?

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nanna8 Fri 24-May-24 02:49:45

This is on our talkback radio just now and quite interesting. There seems to be a consensus around the age 50 is best- children older and manageable, financially reasonable, job situation settled , reasonable health and energy. Putting it that way I tend to agree but it was good in the 70s and 80 s but not so much now, too expensive to live.

grandMattie Fri 24-May-24 05:21:50

I agree that the 50s were probably the easiest, but I did so enjoy my 30s when I had my babies. We didn’t have much money, just enough. It was lovely.

Granmarderby10 Fri 24-May-24 06:39:44

I think right now at age 63.
I have all my mental faculties, and am physically fit, I am not weighed down by chronic depression (thanks to taking antidepressants) and calmer and more circumspect (thanks to my life experiences)
So my circumstances are probably (large lottery win aside) as good as they will ever be.😊

Allsorts Fri 24-May-24 06:48:23

When I had my husband with me,

M0nica Fri 24-May-24 07:50:28

I suppose it depends on what one's criteria are. I think that the decade that takes you from childhood to adulthood is the moste xciting and enjoyable. You are doing everything for the first time, spreading your wings, going off on holidays without your parents, staying out late, first job, first serious relationship.

I can remember at 25, recently married with house and mortgage, suddenly realising that I was through the transition and everything I now did, i did as the norm.

I am currently watching my 2 grandchildren go through the same transition, first Saturday job, going out to parties alone, preparing for university, travelling around with friends, learning to drive, watching their excitement at each new experience and responsibity.

For me the good times started again when I had to take voluntary redundancy into retirement in my early 50s. I had an mmediate pension, which meant an assured monthly income whether I was working or not. It was not very big, but DH was still working.

At 60 I got my state pension and other pensions came in. Just the freedom from the worry of knowing that without a job I had no money makes the rest of my life easy.

LottieLouise Fri 24-May-24 07:59:58

I was born during WW11 and honestly think I grew up in the best era. We were poor but there was always food on the table and our mum made our clothes on an old Singer treadle machine. Being 21, when I met my future husband, was the best age to be and if I could go back to that era in the 60's I would love to live my life all over again.

Perhaps one day there will be a time machine but sadly I won't be here to see it.

Chocolatelovinggran Fri 24-May-24 08:32:31

Every age has advantages and disadvantages. In my mid to late fifties I was juggling a demanding full time job, my last child's teen years and an elderly mother.
I'm enjoying now (72)!

GrannyGravy13 Fri 24-May-24 09:35:26

For me it was my late 30’s through to my 50th (😱)

Our last baby was born, and despite juggling 5 children (the elder three were teens, interesting?) relocating our business, and both being heavily involved in a National Charity mostly all things were good.

Our friends had children of similar ages, we all worked hard and played harder…

annodomini Fri 24-May-24 10:14:48

On a purely selfish level, 27 is the age I look back on with great fondness. Still single and enjoying it, good job, great holidays, wonderful friendships. Later in life, after divorce, the boys making their way in the world, I had freedom to go on my own choice of holidays, enjoyed my job and political activities, became a granny, Yes, I had a good decade in my 50s. Even now, I can't complain.

Calipso Fri 24-May-24 10:15:59

Hard to choose. I really liked being 10 - full of the confidence of being a big fish in the little pond that was my rural Primary School.
But actually I'm probably happiest right now in my seventies, retired with enough to live without too much worry. Plenty of things that I am interested in and a deep sense of being content

henetha Fri 24-May-24 10:31:09

I liked my thirties. My children were at school so I went back to work and learned to drive and bought my first car.
The boys were still young so we spent many wonderful days on the beach and I taught them to swim etc.
We started taking foreign language students in the summer months which helped our finances

annsixty Fri 24-May-24 10:38:54

Also my 30’s.
I had my two young children, we moved away from my overbearing mother and bought a new house on a new estate and made lifelong friends with young families like ourselves.
I was a SAHM and loved my life.
I know that I was very lucky.

Sarnia Fri 24-May-24 10:42:38

I would go back to my teens providing I could know what I know now. I would have worked much harder at Grammar School and made some very different choices through life. Without that knowledge I would plump for my late 20's when the first of my five children was born.

biglouis Fri 24-May-24 10:50:39

I would certainly vote for my 20s when it was the 1960s. I had my first home away from my parents and was progressing with my career. Knowing what I know now I would have found a way to go to university at the "normal" age. So I would probably have retired as Professor BigLouis rather than just Dr.

RosiesMaw Fri 24-May-24 11:08:36

I liked my 30’s-mid 40’s.
Old enough to feel grown up but young enough to enjoy it all!
No money of course because for most of the time I was a SAHM but great companionship from other mums as we were in the same boat. I remember my diary being full of play dates for the girls and “coffee with X”, “lunch with Y” “tea with Z” for me!
I loved sewing ( mostly Clothkits for the girls and myself) and cooking, and was part of a tiny catering business with a friend which took me to some very interesting venues for weddings/cocktail parties etc and I met some very “prominent people” of the day in their own field - among them Josephine Pullein-Thompson, David Owen, Ian Trethowan, Jean Boht, Adam Mars-Jones are names I remember.
It wasn’t perfect, but they were good times!

madeleine45 Fri 24-May-24 11:25:47

I loved being about 9 or 10. Enjoyed my school, friends and loved being on my grannies small farm. Being the eldest there was always that responsibility but didnt become difficult until a bit later. Then later enjoyed my 20's , travelling, living abroad, and feeling able to deal with whatever life sent me. Most of all being in reasonable health to enjoy those times. Life is much more frustrating these days I find. With all the frauds etc you have to be far less trusting and with health problems especially my back, I can plan to do something and then have to give up as I cant manage the walking etc. Ah well as they say better than the alternative!!

Imarocker Fri 24-May-24 16:04:34

My 50s were great. The children were grown up and I got a new job aged 50 which was intellectually stimulating and involved a lot of foreign travel.

Norah Fri 24-May-24 20:00:02

I liked 15-17, married at 16, baby at 17, more babies soon followed.

I loved being able to make choices, not wear a uniform, have tea at home, cook breakfast and dinner, tend my garden, do as I pleased.

My parents were wonderful, they were raising young ladies to live conventional comfortable lives - however my husband and I have had an out of the ordinary and very fun life together, just what I wanted.

Ali08 Sat 25-May-24 03:17:41

The one's I haven't been yet!