Do you still feel young

At 75, I don’t really feel any different inside, but I can’t say I really feel young. However I certainly don't and won’t wear any frumpy-old-lady clothes. Nor will I wear anything that looks good only if you’re young and very slim.

Slightly off tack, but what I envy about my grandmothers is thst when they came to stay they only brought a very small suitcase. So they wore the dress they travelled in with or without a cardigan for a couple of days and then maybe a skirt and blouse. They wore or carried a coat and good leather shoes. They packed sandals. They always looked perfect to me but of course very old.
Packing must have been a doddle compared with the headache packing for holidays is today.
I don't worry too much about how old I feel...or look. I worry more about the progressively fewer years I have ahead of me and hate to think of friends dying. But won't think about that today. I am meeting a couple of friends this week. We met in our 20s and that's how we still feel.

I've come to the conclusion that I didn't start to feel young until I hit sixty (now 78) and stopped caring about what other people thought.

That was a revelation, and although I'd never go out without makeup, my silver hair is well cut and I now wear jeans (which I never did when I was actually young), I've fully accepted my physical age and don't try to look younger than I am. Oddly, I've had more chat-ups from strangers in my seventies than I ever did in my teens - maybe because I've now got all the confidence I lacked then.

I don't think I'm ever going to be a proper grown-up though.

pably15

yes I do...I'm almost 80...like to have my hair looking nice and buy clothes I like for someone my age....but not old granny stuff...I still feel young inside..untill I try to get out of a chair...

That's me too.

I'm with you on this. Haircuts here are forty to seventy pounds so no money for that. Eat well,stay healthy and you'll be smiling from the inside as well as the outside and that's the finest beauty anyone can have 😀💐

valdali

Just before this was posted I was thinking back to how my grans dressed. They wore shirt-waister dresses, toning cardi, tan tights & sensible shoes. (maternal gan in navys & rusts -paternal gran pastel dress with pink cardi). And they wore that everywhere - home, shopping, steakhouse, diamond wedding party. I actually felt envious because we accepted they'd reached an age where they wore a sort of "gran uniform" - they didn't have to worry about being under-dressed or over-dressed, about fashion, & with such a limited wardrobe, everything mixed & matched. As someone who can feel inappropriately dressed & self concious whilst walking the dog, although I'm in my 60's, I felt rather envious of them.

yes, I feel that strange sort of envy for older ladies a generation or 2 back. They had their niche carved out and were allowed their status and floral frocks.

We have to wait until we're grown ups before we're allowed to edit.

I too wish Gransnet had an editing feature, I think this website is the only one without it.

Since joining a U3A painting group and taking my painting more seriously than I have done for years, I have found myself going back to my 18 year old student self, which is great fun. Reality kicks in when arthritis strikes and it takes me three goes to get out of a chair or 15 minutes to "throw a few clothes on" but I think I'm doing quite well.

When people say I look young for my age. I just tell them that their stereotypes of what my age should look like are out of date.

When DH was 40, he met someone he had been at university with and hadn't seen since. He came back in shock. This man had white hair and finely lined face, where DH had no grey hair and a smooth unlined face. At university this man had been the baby faced one having diffiulty proving his age in pubs.

Take that another 20 or 40 years and the divergence is even greater. Aging and how you show it is a combination of genetics, what has happened to you in life and how you have been able to respond to them.

I have been very fortunate, good genes, a comfortable life, and a healthy dose of vanity.

I’m 57 but I absolutely do not feel or look it I’m glam and it’s staying that way 😀

I still feel young inside especially when sitting 😂. I like clothes and I think I dress well. However needing work done in the home I’ve found that I’m classified as ‘easy game’. I’m old, a woman and widowed. Some of the quotes I have been given for the job are ridiculously high. £4000 for a fence of 25 ft for example. Luckily an ‘older’ builder had taken over and is getting the job done quickly and well -even tidy! He came in at just under half of the most expensive. So yes I now feel ‘old’ especially when there are so many cowboys about. It’s the first time I’ve considered leaving my bungalow and going into a serviced apartment. Holding my own here but only just.

I’m sorry for your bereavement welbeck and for all who are sad at this time.
Life is too precious and fleeting to worry about the superficial.

I’m sorry your bereavement, welbeck, and I hope you get good news, Madmeg

Farzanah, thank you for understanding my comment.
and i found the last line of your first comment quite poignant, as i have been unexpectedly bereaved since i made my original comment on here.
take care all.
to thine own self be true . . .

Thanks MissA.

No I’m shattered! I look ok- hair done, facials, modern clothes, go to the gym, keep the brain active but inside I’m tired!! I’m not too bothered about it either

I feel young in myself but physically I'm most definitely not which is a real nuisance - but I still maintain my sense of humour and that's important

Thank you.
Have a bunch yourself

MissA

I think my clothes could go out of fashion in the time it takes me to put them on, maddyone
It kind of takes the shine off things.

MissAdventure

I don't think feeling young has anything much to do with wearing semi trendy clothes.
I feel like death warmed up, and it's not to do with what I wear.

I wake up every morning feeling just like that MissA. As long as I’m waking up in pain every day, and living my life in constant pain, I’m not going to be feeling like a spring chick. Get the treatment I need and get rid of the pain and I might feel more like my old self.

I dress what suits me, I feel younger than my 72 years, probably because I had a late 40's pregnancy and am an older mum,plus I have had the care of my grandson(autistic)since he was 3 and now 15,so life is very busy still dealing with teenagers, I have good knowledge of Minecraft pokemon etc I now understand when people say age is just a number,because of my younger family a lot of my friends are younger,
I still have aches and pains,my husband had a stroke and brain surgery later on so I care for him,can't think of getting old it's not convenient

My mother, born 1912, was a snazzy dresser to the end. Throughout my childhood people used to comment on how well she dressed, presumably because I clearly didn't follow in her footsteps.

My last Christmas present to her was some pretty lacy underwear. Her mother was also always very elegantly dressed. She was a professional dresmaker and not at all well off, but knew how to use and reuse every garment that came her way.

However, my paternal grandmother held my mother in deep suspicion of being 'no better than she ought to be' because she loved pretty clothes and wore makeup (lipstick and powder). My grandmother did not have much time for me either, presumably I was considered to be too much like my mother!

I can’t imagine a life in which women couldn’t/wouldn’t wear trousers. I don’t think my mum ever owned a pair.