Is it odd to not want any family photos on display?

The grandchildren look for their most recent school photographs displayed in the dining room when they come ( several are not local).

I have one multi frame with up to date pictures of the grandchildren and various other photos given as presents of AC and family groups.

Since DH died I have put two photos of him on a table in the living room. I've also got a very old one of him by my bed, I've got three photos of GS2 from shows he's been in, which are propped up among my books. In the dining room there's a wedding photo of DH's grandparents taken around the turn of the 20th century. It's a bit dog eared, but it's the only picture I've ever seen of his grandmother. My pet hate is the big fake canvas wedding photos. I went to one house that had one wall covered with them. Weddings are lovely, but are they really going to be the most important thing that ever happens to you?

Not really. I certainly wouldn’t have them in the lounge. My absolute pet hate is photos on walls. Don’t know why but I can’t bear them. I also loathe collages of family photos - so 1970s.

Thesme

Hi I have three grown up children and it’s been very difficult to say the least . Daughter as four children but not with the dad and as had a few BFs ; one son as a child who he doesn’t see and now as other children and step children … other son as children and step children and as another GF . Basically it’s all very very complicated and we just get used to one family then they split up and it’s different ; one son constantly in serious trouble with the police and he as mental health . However we adore all the grandchildren and see them every day … infact we are never without the grandchildren .
Neither me or my husband are in good health ; one of us in serious bad health but it’s effecting us so bad now … the fact our sons don’t get on and hate each other ; there’s daily swipes on S media and so much more !! Too much to write down .
It’s getting me down and Iv come off S media ( which I never had any problem with ) cos I’m distraught and worried and on the third night without sleep 😴??
Should I stop babysitting and putting my grown up kids before me and my husband ? What do I do . We don’t have any wealth or money but they all still argue and it gets very nasty . We have totally just had enough cos we love them all but it’s ruining our life’s cos they can’t behave .

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I have a few photos on my walls, and have loads of photo albums,,,

Hi I have three grown up children and it’s been very difficult to say the least . Daughter as four children but not with the dad and as had a few BFs ; one son as a child who he doesn’t see and now as other children and step children … other son as children and step children and as another GF . Basically it’s all very very complicated and we just get used to one family then they split up and it’s different ; one son constantly in serious trouble with the police and he as mental health . However we adore all the grandchildren and see them every day … infact we are never without the grandchildren .
Neither me or my husband are in good health ; one of us in serious bad health but it’s effecting us so bad now … the fact our sons don’t get on and hate each other ; there’s daily swipes on S media and so much more !! Too much to write down .
It’s getting me down and Iv come off S media ( which I never had any problem with ) cos I’m distraught and worried and on the third night without sleep 😴??
Should I stop babysitting and putting my grown up kids before me and my husband ? What do I do . We don’t have any wealth or money but they all still argue and it gets very nasty . We have totally just had enough cos we love them all but it’s ruining our life’s cos they can’t behave .

My DGD has given me two lovely photo frames, so it would be ungrateful not to display them. They're not in my main living room, but on top of a bookcase in the entry corridor to my flat where I can enjoy looking at them, but visitors don't have to feel obliged to comment.

I have two small ‘team photos’ taken on two family occasions. Other photos on display are of our favourite places.
My neighbours house has dozens of pictures of grandchildren on display, but, sadly, she rarely sees them, or indeed their parents, though they keep her well supplied with photographs.

I have rolling photos on the Alexa in the living room. Ialso have framed photos everywhere of late DH through out the years. Also lots of DGD and DS.
Many of our 2 departed Border Collies , and now some of my new rescue Toby.
DH passion was photography so l have hundreds of fantastic photos.

I have albums with too many photographs in them…
Also around the house, a few.
Sadly when my DH died in 2016, I had to put all his photos away, it upset me too much and it still does😢

None in our house, older photos are in a box in the loft, otherwise they’re online.

We don't have photographs on display.We do have various pictures but carefully selected and hung so that there is always something interesting to look at in every room.

I have a couple .Would never post photos on Social media either.

Dillythegardener, I am the same as you, I really enjoy looking at them, the house would feel a bit empty without them.

As a blended family we have quite a few children/grandchildren etc so in the dining room I have two multi frame picture frames and have made sure that everyone is in there. The grandchildren especially like to find themselves, and I catch my children and other adults looking at them. I do update them, and they trigger many happy memories. It’s something I enjoy doing.

I have a few on the piano which was my daughters. As I don’t play myself my SIL says it’s a very expensive shelf. I do have a photo of my ancestors which I found at my mums after she died. I’d never seen it before so have no idea where it came from. Luckily she had a cousin who was able to tell me who the people in the photo were. To be honest the ones of my children and grandchildren make me feel a bit sad because I so wish I could relive those times again.

Macadia

I don't display photos for visitors to my home to see and I don't understand why people do this but if it makes them happy, so be it.

That's an interesting way of looking at it. My living room is for me (to live in), not for visitors (though there aren't that many visitors!). I like paintings and craft work on the walls, as well as the photos.

For Christmas, DS got me a Skylight- A4 rotation of photos. It's lovely, and I keep adding to it, but it's not part of my routine. The old albums are on a shelf near me, but I rarely get them out.

I have a long low table in my lounge and it is covered in framed photos of my family,I love it.

I have framed pictures on every surface and every wall. DS and Dil have none except a couple of small framed pictures on their chest of drawers.

Everyone is different!

I like the ones taken years ago, when everyone had "big hair", and the whole family are posing. 🤭

We have many photos on display throughout the house, I love looking at them, I couldn’t possibly estimate how many there are, obviously some of you would think way too many.

I don't display photos for visitors to my home to see and I don't understand why people do this but if it makes them happy, so be it.

I am a fan of having photos of family in lovely frames in quite a few rooms. Sometimes I change them, but always have wedding photos out. I love to see them and see how we have changed over the years as well as recent ones. Each to his own.

Doodledog

NotSpaghetti

Scribbles Maybe it depends on how much you like your family and want to be reminded of them?

Or maybe you remember your loved ones so acutely that you don't need to be reminded! 😂

Good grief!

Since when was love for one's children measured by how many photos of them are on display?

Never has been.

We're done raising children, their pictures are in a box.