Caught speeding-again

Dh’s car has cruise control. He uses it a lot.

Mine doesn’t, but I don’t have much trouble keeping to limits - except on the many 20mph areas around here now. I often find my speed creeping up a wee bit - need to be extra vigilant anywhere near the cameras - when I remember where they are.

Iam64

There’s speeding and there’s SPEEDING. I’ve twice been caught driving at 37-38 mph in what I thought was a 40 zone but it was 30
The 2nd speed awareness course was excellent. I came away much clearer about recognising the indicators which aren’t always easy to see in area you aren’t familiar with. It’s a pity your husband hasn’t learned from the courses. The fact he’s done so many suggests he isn’t exceeding the limit by a lot.

Best of luck - if he’s driving dangerously and speeding all the time, I think I’d insist on driving if we were out together

Same here, I had to pull over as the police car flashed me.
On both occasions I was just told to be more careful in future.
I think it was about 36/7. Was glad it wasn’t a fine or points.
It did make me more careful.

M0nica

Do not get me wrong. I am totally opposed to speeding but I am uneasy about over doing the connection with deaths.

Many accidents, where people die or are disabled, happen in circumstances where speed is not an issue. I saw my landlady knocked down and killed, my sister was knocked off her bike and killed, and my daughter was disabled in accidents where speed was not an issue. The lorrry drive who knocked my sister off her bike was travelling at walking pace.

All these accidents occurred in situations where the traffic conditions were poor and complicated: tree lined streets with cars parked on both sides, street lights hidden in trees on a windy night casting and clearing shadows, one car being in the blind spot of another.

And I can think of several close shaves where speed played no part but people were nerarly killed or disabled.

Driving can kill, regardless of speed.

I agree with most of what you say but I understand that, statistically, your chances of survival or serious injury are in an inverse ratio to the speed of the car that hits you.

That does not mean that you can't be killed or maimed by cars travelling at low speeds as there are many variables.

It's all 20MPH round here (London Borough).

Hi. Has he had his eyes tested recently? When you commented about not seeing things. And is he wearing the right glasses? With distance glasses, you often can't see things close up - like the speed on the dashboard. Mine are ok for that but with a stronger prescription you would need bifoculs or varifocals to see both the instrument panel and distance.

Some men just won't admit when they have a problem. I know a couple of men who've had speeding points for being just over the 30 mph limit going through villages after open road etc. That usually makes people think twice!

How do you stop him? Scare him into it perhaps. Tell him if he does it once more he could lose his licence and you insist he a) has his eyes tested and b) gets something fitted to warn him if he's over the limit.

Will he be banned again, eventually?

Spuddy

Make an appointment with a morgue, take him in, show him the mangled dead bodies of innocent victims who have been run over or smashed up in vehicles by speeders, tell him that one day it might be HIM laying there if he's speeding and smashes in to something!

This clearly wouldn’t be allowed as I’m sure you know. Or rolling up in A&E to view accident victims, or accompanying ambulances to accidents.

I used to work in an A&E department and the most horrific injuries I remember were motorcyclists. For that reason I cannot bear to see patches of bright red hair colouring (along with other colours) which some are keen on these days!

He’s being incredibly selfish only doing what he wants to do with no regard to the law or you as his passenger, all about him what he wants to do. I would report him in a heartbeat,

you cannot force someone else to do anything, you can only be responsible for your own actions. So the simple answer is that you do not travel in the car with him. It will be hard for you to reorganise your life but if you make the decision not to travel with him a) you will be safer yourself b) it makes it plain to him and others how you feel about things c) it may make him think again when he realizes that you mean it about not travelling with him. Hopefully he will be embarrassed by friends and others asking why you dont travel with him etc. It still doesnt make other road users safe from his actions but you will at least have shown him that you mean it when you say he is not safe on the road and actions speak louder than words. Good luck

4allweknow

Just recalled an item I read recently about speed readers, limiters in cars. You should not depend on them as they have been found to misread some numbers. Example given 50
for 30 and 20. All new cars will have the recognition system from next year apparently and motoring organisations concerned about the faults.

Mine is calibrated regularly I am confident that it is working correctly.

I was flagged doing 35 in a 30mph limit. Did a speed awareness course. Now religiously stick to speed limit. Regularly have BMWs, large SUVs etc tail-gating my rather small car. On small suburban roads, dual-carriageways etc. It’s intimidating and dangerous. And shows how ignorant these motorists are when handling a lethal weapon.

Go and spend a day with the London ambulance service a day in a trauma centre and then a day in a mortuary. Then go and speed, only a selfish bastard does that 🤬🤬

Refuse to get in the car with him unless he sticks to the speed limits! You are enabling him. The most likely person to die in a crash is the front seat passenger! Remind him

Do not get me wrong. I am totally opposed to speeding but I am uneasy about over doing the connection with deaths.

Many accidents, where people die or are disabled, happen in circumstances where speed is not an issue. I saw my landlady knocked down and killed, my sister was knocked off her bike and killed, and my daughter was disabled in accidents where speed was not an issue. The lorrry drive who knocked my sister off her bike was travelling at walking pace.

All these accidents occurred in situations where the traffic conditions were poor and complicated: tree lined streets with cars parked on both sides, street lights hidden in trees on a windy night casting and clearing shadows, one car being in the blind spot of another.

And I can think of several close shaves where speed played no part but people were nerarly killed or disabled.

Driving can kill, regardless of speed.

Babs03

Get your DH off the road!
Speeding drivers are a danger to all of us.
If he can’t read the speed limit signs or see see what speed he is driving at he should be banned.
You must do something about it, surely your gut feeling is to tell him to give up driving and if he doesn’t listen report him to the local police for dangerous driving.
Rather this than your DH injuring or killing someone and you having to live with the fact you did nothing about it.

Brilliant reply! You said everything I wanted to say but much more succinctly. I was too angry to post coherently, so I am very glad you accidentally did it for me!

Farzanah

It’s not your responsibility, it’s his. He should not be driving.

Absolutely! Well said!

This post made my blood boil. Not the poster, she was asking for advice, but her selfish irresponsible husband. Doesn’t he realise he could easily kill someone, including you? If he is this bad, he should not be on the road at all. If there’s an accident caused by him, you can bet your boots he won’t be the one hurt! For heavens sake, refuse to get in the car with him, hide his keys, put him in Coventry until he sees sense. Anything to get this danger to the public off the road! If he were my husband, I would report him to the DVLA who have the power to remove his licence!

Yes I think 20mph limits are tricky but they are usually in built up areas (often in Wales!) I’m super careful if I drive there, am in a border town. I don’t think this is the poster’s main problem with her DH however.
I think there may be more 20mph zones soon in some urban areas sonI guess we will have to get used to it.

I think to reduce fuel use, and accidents, the national speed limit should be reduced to 60mph. Wouldn’t make that much difference on journey times and be far safer and economical

welbeck

i don't really understand how people mistake the speed limit.
it is 30 unless otherwise marked.
we all know that.

I can tell from your comment that you’re not a rural driver in Wales, welbeck. I went through five different speed limits in half a mile yesterday through one village. I’m a careful driver, but I still need my satnav warning on because you can blink and miss speed changes in some places. I’m not excusing people who deliberately speed, just saying that anybody can get caught out sometimes.

It’s not your responsibility, it’s his. He should not be driving.

i don't really understand how people mistake the speed limit.
it is 30 unless otherwise marked.
we all know that.

Get your DH off the road!
Speeding drivers are a danger to all of us.
If he can’t read the speed limit signs or see see what speed he is driving at he should be banned.
You must do something about it, surely your gut feeling is to tell him to give up driving and if he doesn’t listen report him to the local police for dangerous driving.
Rather this than your DH injuring or killing someone and you having to live with the fact you did nothing about it.

Just recalled an item I read recently about speed readers, limiters in cars. You should not depend on them as they have been found to misread some numbers. Example given 50
for 30 and 20. All new cars will have the recognition system from next year apparently and motoring organisations concerned about the faults.

Went to London yesterday. Four lanes of traffic in 20 mph zone so set my limiter. Everybody undertook or overtook, we were the only ones staying with 20 mph. What's the point ?

My car has a limiter on it.......you set the maximum speed, press a small leaver and it simply will not go any faster. Speed restriction sorted