How can I support in this situation?

LilyoftheValley what a very moving post, and what generous adoptive parents your little grandchildren have to include you in their lives still 😊

I know absolutely nothing about the adoption process and obviously SSs have the child’s best interests at the top of their priorities but what a draconian rule?

Surely a twice weekly visit from a close family member offering support with laundry and shopping etc., is not going to upset the apple cart and how can being imprisoned with a baby who is not your biological child be good for bonding? It all sounds slightly bonkers to me but then what do I know?

Plenty of good advice upthread so take no notice of me.

Good Luck!

I forgot to add that Social Services are not involved once the adoption is comleted.

God Bless all of the wonderful people who open their hearts and homes to little people in need.

My much loved little grandchildren have been adopted by couples who give them so much stability and love. I am able to stay in touch with them which is something I hardly dared hope for.

My husband and I adopted two children. We where so blessed to have them, and still are.

Just remember you will love this child as much as your natural grand child but it takes time . This child will have gone through so many changes only time will let her settle down . We fostered a baby who was adopted at 6 months old but she cried when anyone but myself took her . Think what that poor child had to cope with.

Batch cooking is good. Several days meals in tupperware containers for them to slam in the fridge or freezer. I find homemade soup goes down well with mine when they are busy with the little ones.

and drop off some bath goodies..

If they take the little one out to the park, shops etc maybe you could pop to their house and tidy, clean, iron or whatever may be needed and leave before they come home?

Crossed posts M0nica 🙂

If you live close enough, you could offer to pick up their laundry and do that for them.
Plus meals as already suggested of course.
Maybe any shopping they need, unless they do it online?
All of these could be left on the doorstep so you don't intrude to their home.
What an exciting time for you all, do let us know how you get on 🤗

How about cooking a meal and leaving it on the doorstep or offering to do the washing, if they leave a bag on the doorstep.

Practical help, but not breaking the embargo.

Bea65

Congratulations on your new grandchild.. would FaceTime with them and am sure they’ll let you see the baby as soon as is possible… maybe the baby’s early start in life was traumatic and SS feel it’s in the child’s best interest not to be overwhelmed by lots of new faces/ noises etc?

I think is more about bonding with the new parents without too many distractions. I suppose the baby has probs had several different caregivers so far.
Anyway congrats on your adorable new grandchild, I know you must be champing at the bit to get stuck in but as Bea65 said use FaceTime or zoom to talk to the new parents and reassure them, and of course to see the baby.
2 weeks will fly by then you can be on hand to help when needed.
All the best xx

Organise food deliveries? Be at the other end of the phone offering support if asked. Ask them what can you do to help before visiting. Send takeaway meals. Ask if there are baby things you can send via Amazon etc

Congratulations on your new grandchild.. would FaceTime with them and am sure they’ll let you see the baby as soon as is possible… maybe the baby’s early start in life was traumatic and SS feel it’s in the child’s best interest not to be overwhelmed by lots of new faces/ noises etc?