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Biscuitmuncher Tue 15-Oct-24 17:47:31

A bit of a funny one, DD is going on a first date. She's mid 20s he's 30 and he wants to go somewhere dog friendly so he can bring his dog! She's not sure if this is a bit odd

JRTW2 Wed 16-Oct-24 14:02:54

That was my first date with my husband. We made it low key for the first one

mousemac Wed 16-Oct-24 13:31:51

It's not odd at all.
I would suspect a man who did not bring his dog with him.
In fact, I regret not having suspected a man who did not bring his dog along the first time we met. It would have saved me a lot of grief.

2020convert Wed 16-Oct-24 13:20:22

Hasn’t she asked him why he wants to bring his dog? Good communication is a priority in any successful relationship

Gummie Wed 16-Oct-24 13:16:50

I don't understand why people think its odd.

Retroladywriting Wed 16-Oct-24 13:03:59

Depends if she likes dogs ...

Macadia Wed 16-Oct-24 12:58:54

I think that if he loves his dog this much, there is a good chance that he is a nurturing person. A bit different, yes, but at least he was considerate in asking. He sounds charming. Please let us know how the first date goes (because my life is so boring without my dear GN stories 🥰 )

rocketship Wed 16-Oct-24 12:51:43

Not odd at all !!!

A first date, a walk in the park, is an excellent way of getting to know someone....

Keeps the meeting light and easy. smile

Macadia Wed 16-Oct-24 12:47:31

MissAdventure

I'd quite like that, because it seems it'll be a casual meet up.
To me, that's the ideal first meeting with someone new.
Plus, I couldn't date someone who didnt like animals.

Me neither smile

Celieanne86 Wed 16-Oct-24 12:45:49

No I wouldn’t like the idea not on a first date. There are big dogs and little dogs and it would depend on what breed before I agreed and I’m a dog owner .

Kimski44 Wed 16-Oct-24 12:43:52

We live close to countryside and my daughter’s first date with her partner was in a very dog friendly pub - although he didn’t bring his dog! I can’t see it’s a big deal, unless she’s not into dogs.
My husband brought his dog to our first date. I didn’t realise until the end of the date, that his dog was waiting patiently in the back of his Land Rover. She jumped out to say hello when we went to leave (obviously, he opened the boot door first!). She was a puppy at the time, about eight months’ old and didn’t want to leave her for the few hours our date would take. I was glad to meet such a friendly dog (Gordon Setter) as I wouldn’t say I was a massive dog person, it it was definitely not weird or anything!

infoman Wed 16-Oct-24 12:41:38

Kate1949,spot on.

HevH Wed 16-Oct-24 12:38:48

Sounds perfect to me. An ideal casual meet up. I would trust somebody who is kind to an animal.

DancingDuck Wed 16-Oct-24 12:38:21

I think its quite sweet, it maybe he wants to gauge if your DD is cool with dogs or maybe its a support or medical alert dog ?
It will certainly be an ice breaker if he's a bit shy and struggles with small talk.
I have dogs and if my dogs don't like someone then thats a sure sign they are a wrong'un !

Kate1949 Wed 16-Oct-24 12:34:14

He should introduce the dog later. His date will feel that she is secondary. I think it's rude and self centred.

Mamasperspective Wed 16-Oct-24 12:28:33

He may be using the dog as an icebreaker so conversation isn't awkward. I would suggest a dog friendly coffee shop or somewhere with outside seating then tell him she has to be somewhere else for an appointment 2 hours after their meet up time - it means she's not stuck there if she's not keen but if she does like him, they can arrange another (dog free) date

Bankhurst Wed 16-Oct-24 12:26:23

I think it’s odd. He needs to concentrate on his date, not the dog. She should consider whether she wants to date a man who is so attached to his dog he can’t leave it for a short while.

DeeAitch56 Wed 16-Oct-24 12:24:08

I’d be happy to go on a dog walk, though in a park with people around rather than somewhere isolated, I would also take my own car if I had one and arrange to meet at the park, this would make it feasible excuse to leave if she felt uncomfortable as in ‘ I have to go my parking is about to run out’

knspol Wed 16-Oct-24 12:20:49

Very strange! I would have thought it was an opportunity for 2 people to get to know each other and not to be distracted by a dog. I would be worried about this as I have a friend with a dog and her whole life revolves around the animal and she rarely goes anywhere without him, he is her sole topic of conversation.

Dillonsgranma Wed 16-Oct-24 12:14:23

Good idea! Go for a nice walk with the dog and end up in a country pub for coffee or lunch maybe? The dog will hopefully break the ice so to speak.

sodapop Wed 16-Oct-24 12:13:23

I'm a dog lover but do find this a little odd. Maybe it's a service dog of some kind as someone else said. Wouldn't be a problem for me though.
( unless it was the chihuahua in the pink tutu smile)

watertyger Wed 16-Oct-24 12:11:26

Perhaps he has to leave the dog to go to work and doesn't want to leave the dog for another session on its own. If DD likes dogs, it's not a problem. Only one way to find out!

Polly7 Wed 16-Oct-24 12:11:05

Ps. I'd just go - & ask at some point why doggy came along? 🤷‍♀️ it's part of getting to know how a person ticks I'd think 🤔 but do it with sense of humour obvs! 😊. Be a shame not to go it may be a wasted opportunity. Important to see it as a friendly meet for an hour ( good to make friends first). rather than a serious date

TheWeirdo Wed 16-Oct-24 12:07:13

It's not odd at all. He's showing he loves his doggy!

Polly7 Wed 16-Oct-24 12:05:58

Guessing he may find first meets quite intimidating which is understandable and his way of dealing with it to keep it casual. Also if a dog lover for her to know this may be his norm 😊. Why not?

Frizzywizzy Wed 16-Oct-24 12:05:19

I don’t find it odd at all. A dog can be a bit of an icebreaker