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Usedtobeblonde Wed 23-Oct-24 17:20:39

Do your family put photographs of you on Facebook without asking?
It was my friend’s birthday yesterday and her D put three of her mum on her Facebook page.
They were less than flattering and if any member of my family had done similar they would have been out of my will PDQ.
I haven’t spoken to her today and I don’t know if she has seen them.
I think I will just pretend that I haven’t.

Moonwatcher1904 Wed 23-Oct-24 17:31:13

I haven't many relatives and only a couple on FB. I have virtually nothing on my profile. My DH family post anything and everything especially pics of their children and grandchildren. I sometimes think they do it to see how many likes they get. I once went to a family party where a boyfriend of a relative took a pic of me and put a load of silly things on it to put on FB. I asked him to remove it straightaway.

Grandmafrench Wed 23-Oct-24 17:42:10

Just wrong on all counts, if you haven't been asked. We all have enough 'mugshots' on record, probably in more locations and countries than we could imagine. However, CCTV is probably a necessary evil, and unless we are up to no good, or somewhere where we shouldn't be, I can't see the harm. Social occasions, however......parties and weddings and anniversaries, at home, almost everywhere where people have a camera....and can just help themselves? No, just wrong and very disrespectful. Just think about how people will endlessly tweak and change photographs, selfies, before they are happy enough to put their latest look on Facebook and other social media. But, for those who are 'snapped' and have no idea what sort of image is being captured, it seems that anything goes. Forget privacy. Hope your friend doesn't see the post, UTBB !

BlueBelle Wed 23-Oct-24 17:43:04

It gives me no problem at all yes we all put photos on BUT we only have it open to family and friends so there is no stranger seeing any photos.

Harris27 Wed 23-Oct-24 17:48:18

I knew my dil had secretly put one of me and my husband on one Christmas I was furious but said nothing. But the following year I told her not to put any photos if us on because of my job. ( teacher) a dear friend checked it for me!

Bellasnana Wed 23-Oct-24 19:47:19

Personally I couldn’t care less.

pinkprincess Wed 23-Oct-24 19:58:43

The only FB photo of me that I objected to was one my sister took of me when I was seriously ill in hospital a few years ago.
I must have been barely conscious.I looked a fright.
When saw it I demanded she took it off which she did.I do not think she meant any harm, just her way of letting the people people I know that I was very ill.

Deedaa Wed 23-Oct-24 21:04:41

It only struck me today that my family very rarely take photos of me -let alone post them any where

Georgesgran Wed 23-Oct-24 21:19:24

I absolutely hate having my
picture taken, so someone would struggle to find one. However, I’d have no problem with it.

Redrobin51 Wed 23-Oct-24 21:20:39

As someone who couldn't have children I still find the subject painful. I do ask about my friend's children and grandchildren as I know they are an important part of their lives but for some reason I find seeing repeated photos of them with their young grandchildren particularly painful.

Usedtobeblonde Wed 23-Oct-24 21:53:01

I should stress here, the photographs were very unflattering and showed my friend looking years older than she does.
That was my point.
Lovely flattering ones would have been no problem but these frankly were embarrassing.

madalene Wed 23-Oct-24 23:16:34

None of us put much on Facebook, but my children don’t mind if I post the odd picture of our grandchildren. I would only do it for birthdays or special events though, so it’s rare. My Facebook page is only open to family members and a few friends so any photos wouldn’t go far.
I don’t think I’d be bothered about a friend posting a picture of me though. I’d be more bothered if a friend of a friend asked to be my friend and I didn’t know them. I would refuse that.

nanna8 Wed 23-Oct-24 23:35:52

Some of our family don’t like it and we respect them. Others like to appear at every opportunity. Open only to friends and family and I do know all the ‘friends’, no ring ins!

MrsMatt Thu 24-Oct-24 12:11:10

My 3 adult kids only post photos of themselves or their dogs. My youngest occasionally posts a view from a tree he's working on. I don't think any of them have a photo of me on FB. If it was a group family photo, there is only us 4 and their partners I wouldn't mind.

cc Thu 24-Oct-24 12:45:40

I think it depends on what privacy settings have been chosen by the poster on Facebook. If only her friends can view them I don't really see that it matters.

TheWeirdo Thu 24-Oct-24 12:52:39

I have no family of any sort and I'm not on FB but I've had ''friends'' putting up photos of me on Twitter and Instagram without my permission and they've been given a warning that they're to take them down immediately and if they do it again they'll be given such a mouthful they'll still be remembering it in their next reincarnation!

ginny Thu 24-Oct-24 13:01:56

I would always ask permission before posting someone else’s photo. It wouldn’t particularly bother me
Some people make so much fuss I’m surprised they don’t wear a scarf wherever they go in case they are seen.

Babs03 Thu 24-Oct-24 13:21:09

Don’t do FB or twitter or whatever that dreadful man Musk now calls it.
Only WhatsApp with close family where we do share photos all the time.

Norah Thu 24-Oct-24 13:55:19

No.

There are no photos on FB, our AC disapprove - as do we.

win Thu 24-Oct-24 17:40:37

Norah

No.

There are no photos on FB, our AC disapprove - as do we.

It is illegal to take & post photos of anyone without their permission. In any of the groups I attend we usually have to give permission before any photos are taken. I would never break that. Everyone knows our group FB page is open and they have a choice. I would never post photos of my granddaughter.

Cossy Thu 24-Oct-24 17:44:52

I have absolutely no issue with this, BUT do ask others if they mind if I post.

Tenko Thu 24-Oct-24 18:35:15

I very rarely post anything on FB . I use WhatsApp or instagram which is only for those in my WhatsApp groups or a handful followers on insta

jocork Thu 24-Oct-24 19:35:39

When my grandchildren were born I deliberately didn't post pictures as I hadn't asked if it was OK but once they posted family photos I then shared them on my page so myfriends could see.

A few years ago when I was teaching in a troubled school, there was a spate of students setting up pages about teachers including some with pictures of teachers actually teaching in the classrooms. Some of the pages were particularly offensive! I suspect that one page may have resulted in a teacher leaving the school as he was really upset at being 'outed' as gay! There were a couple about me and others about other teachers. My DS got the ones about me removed by contacting facebook. I printed off all the content before they were removed and gave the printouts to the head teacher but little was done. He told me that one particular student was going to apologise to me for what he'd said about me, but he didn't, so I confronted him and asked why he hadn't apologosed as I'd expected. I got a very sheepish insincere apology. I think some of the teachers may not have been aware of pages about them as I and a few teachers who found them got them removed to spare their embarassment.

At the school I worked at previously a 'my space'page was set up about a teacher and the girl responsible was supervised 24/7 to keep her away from the teacher until her parents found another school place for her. She wasn't actually permanentlky excluded but her parents had to move her elsewhere within a very short time.

The difference in the handling by the two schools probably explains why one was 'outstanding' and the other was in special measures and eventually closed! Young people often don't appreciate that they can't ride roughshod over peoples privacy - even within friends and family respect is paramount!